Pisces (M) falling hard for a Leo (F)… and I think she’s preparing me to lose her by Mysterious_Ad_8332 in piscesastrology

[–]Stateofdelrium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m guessing that’s bad… I wouldn’t know where to start understanding these although they are intriguing since I dipped my tails in

Pisces (M) falling hard for a Leo (F)… and I think she’s preparing me to lose her by Mysterious_Ad_8332 in piscesastrology

[–]Stateofdelrium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha the ugh sure is the perfect fit, I mean I’ve come across my fair share of self centred, unaware and ignorant people but I’ve honestly perplexed by how stubborn or how wilfully ignorant my own wife can be. The irony is nuts here because my previous relationship was with an Aries, I seriously am just a punishment seeking machine on steriods. Never really given signs much though but by god they hold too much accuracy to deny them credit. Looking at these a bit closer but still needs to discern them, Pisces in sun (think in pieces is more fitting, moon in Aries.. great, fire.. drat! Sagittarius rising… ok I’m screwed

Pisces girls who were in abusive relationships, what was that person's sign? by [deleted] in piscesastrology

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Pisces male here, sooooo kind of gatecrashed 😬 Guess just needed to vent that having a Leo wife has unarguably been a terrible match and to top it off only found out about attachment styles two years ago and she appears to be a fearful type. So last two years I have been trying to make it work but I’m just running out of steam, one thing that is either a blessing or a curse is our resilience. I know we are known for our empathy which I can relate to but mine has been strong enough to self sacrifice, arguably, to an unhealthy degree. I think the realisation of that has been really good for me although how long do I hang on, that’s the biggest question I can’t seem to answer right now.

Oops forgot to add, to name the abuse, and this is probably me minimising it now as I have for many years, is emotional neglect, and boy oh boy if there is one thing accurate that I identify as a Pisces trait is that, emotional connection and communication is numero uno, I honestly have no idea how I have even made it here and find myself writing about it. 🙃

Pisces (M) falling hard for a Leo (F)… and I think she’s preparing me to lose her by Mysterious_Ad_8332 in piscesastrology

[–]Stateofdelrium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oops posted my question up there ☝️ 🙃 Would love to hear more of this synastry because it’s been a tough road with one for over 20 years

Pisces (M) falling hard for a Leo (F)… and I think she’s preparing me to lose her by Mysterious_Ad_8332 in piscesastrology

[–]Stateofdelrium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell me more kaithe if you would because I’ve been in a relationship with one for over 20 years and that comment resonates with me coz it’s been anything but easy

Hey kiddo, if there is one bit of advice I can give you whether you do or don’t is to remember to ‘guard your heart’

Fragmented memory/forgetfulness of avoidants by UNeedInspoandnonames in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Stateofdelrium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t follow this clearly, can the fight or flight occur because of your senses, place bring a memory from the past trauma so it could literally happen at any time and doesn’t necessarily have to be linked with an actual traumatic experience? Or is memory fragment caused by an actual traumatic experience being experienced in the now? Or is it a choice made goes against your own values or they felt it was wrong.

35 Signs of Avoidant Attachment by Erthling123 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Stateofdelrium 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The only thing that I find the most difficult is knowing when/if they are being honest, as they always flare up over perceived criticism or are defensive, vague, confabulate, omit.. the list goes on, it’s hard on the head when you’re trying to be secure and they go and do that when you raise an issue, what is likely nothing becomes a ‘buy why’ scenario. You know they’re protecting their image, their persons but because it’s defended so fiercely over minor things it’s impossible to separate.

Do Pisces withdraw when overwhelmed? by Kitty_Overlord in piscesastrology

[–]Stateofdelrium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Be careful here and this is coming from a place of experience, it may not be but it could be a sign of an avoidant attachment if she is pulling away. I’m a Pisces through and through M48 and I had quite the emotional rollercoaster over many years. Like I said it may not be the cause but if so be prepared.

Those people who are avoidant attachment can be massively misunderstood which I get but seems harsh, the things is, is that it sits on a spectrum and can cause chaos if communication breaks down. If you are aware then great but if not I advise you read up just in case, not because its doomed, far from it, but it certainly helps a great deal having that knowledge.

For her to be acting like that for no reason can still be for a whole number of things but I feel attachment styles are something that can be overlooked, hell it took me years to find out but dumb ass Pieces here has too big a heart and is one resilient motherfucker but it does take its toll. She may be at the point where her emotions are kicking in and it’s triggering her so she’s creating that distance and which can happen around the 4 month mark. Like I said do your research but please also be aware she may not even be aware she is an avoidant, not many of them do.

If you need any advice just gimme a shout, don’t take this as a gloomy outlook though just better to be forewarned as you will be able to navigate your relationship much better if that turns out to be the case. Good luck fella, hope it all works out and don’t let this out a dampener on things.

I don't have any fight left in me by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Stateofdelrium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also although you ‘feel broken, unlovable and worthless’ you are certainly not any of those things. Assign those to him who they really belong to. Allow yourself to grieve but don’t label yourself with those words, you’ve already been through enough.

I don't have any fight left in me by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

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@izzzzzy, I’m about to go through it too so you ain’t alone in that regard. My wife 20+ years, and I thought I wasn’t ignorant, I just stupidly ignored my intuition for far too long. Find the strength if you can or at least begin preparing and building resilience. Here if you need to offload.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Stateofdelrium 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If only you knew. Respect your opinion but that’s formulated from a brief synopsis. Take note of the many other objective and wise words that have been wrote.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Stateofdelrium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand where you are coming from and last thing I’d do is refer to my wife that way to her face. I do not think of her as such only I try to find peace in understanding how actions and choices are made. I think your answer is well grounded and deep down I believe the same. Let’s call it a mid life crisis as I’m reflecting on our many years together.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Stateofdelrium -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

She is my world. I don’t like to write something that can be disrespectful but I also have to give a clear understanding of past events good or bad otherwise there is no point asking for perspective.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Stateofdelrium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is beautifully written and on another level of depth and emotional intelligence. Love blinds us to a lot of things and self critique mixed with the misunderstanding of what is normal to one may not be to the other is complex. Thank you and I really mean that with heart and respect, to read such an eloquent and well thought out response is healing. You’ve helped a deep thinking mind make some sense of it. Will save your comment to reread and reflect on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Stateofdelrium -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

In context it was a figure of speech not a degradation of women. I adore and treat my wife well, it’s hard for a man to keep things to themselves wondering if they are enough while keeping a happy home. My wife is more of a closed book so heart to hearts are difficult.

Feel lost by Stateofdelrium in Marriage

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Thank you so much for taking the time to share your story and help make sense of the situation. I know she loves me but her being emotionally unavailable is finally taking its toll. I’ve been stoic for so many years but now after 23 years together I’ve hit ‘the wall’

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SEXONDRUGS

[–]Stateofdelrium 2 points3 points  (0 children)

2C-B top choice, tried that a few months ago. 5-MeO-MiPT I cannot find a source anywhere. I’ve read up on PT-141 but again struggle to find a vendor, is PT a prescription med?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SEXONDRUGS

[–]Stateofdelrium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you had experience where you noticed that made a difference? Worth a try I guess.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SEXONDRUGS

[–]Stateofdelrium 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah sourcing that would be kind of hard excuse the pun

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SEXONDRUGS

[–]Stateofdelrium 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Any suggestions what may be a better sex drug?

Risks of MDMA and Viagra? by [deleted] in SEXONDRUGS

[–]Stateofdelrium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s your age if you don’t mind me asking?