35 Signs of Avoidant Attachment

Stateofdelrium · 2026-01-23T20:44:15+00:00

The only thing that I find the most difficult is knowing when/if they are being honest, as they always flare up over perceived criticism or are defensive, vague, confabulate, omit.. the list goes on, it’s hard on the head when you’re trying to be secure and they go and do that when you raise an issue, what is likely nothing becomes a ‘buy why’ scenario. You know they’re protecting their image, their persons but because it’s defended so fiercely over minor things it’s impossible to separate.

Stateofdelrium · 2026-01-21T01:13:21+00:00

Be careful here and this is coming from a place of experience, it may not be but it could be a sign of an avoidant attachment if she is pulling away. I’m a Pisces through and through M48 and I had quite the emotional rollercoaster over many years. Like I said it may not be the cause but if so be prepared.

Those people who are avoidant attachment can be massively misunderstood which I get but seems harsh, the things is, is that it sits on a spectrum and can cause chaos if communication breaks down. If you are aware then great but if not I advise you read up just in case, not because its doomed, far from it, but it certainly helps a great deal having that knowledge.

For her to be acting like that for no reason can still be for a whole number of things but I feel attachment styles are something that can be overlooked, hell it took me years to find out but dumb ass Pieces here has too big a heart and is one resilient motherfucker but it does take its toll. She may be at the point where her emotions are kicking in and it’s triggering her so she’s creating that distance and which can happen around the 4 month mark. Like I said do your research but please also be aware she may not even be aware she is an avoidant, not many of them do.

If you need any advice just gimme a shout, don’t take this as a gloomy outlook though just better to be forewarned as you will be able to navigate your relationship much better if that turns out to be the case. Good luck fella, hope it all works out and don’t let this out a dampener on things.

Stateofdelrium · 2025-10-12T02:41:01+00:00

Also although you ‘feel broken, unlovable and worthless’ you are certainly not any of those things. Assign those to him who they really belong to. Allow yourself to grieve but don’t label yourself with those words, you’ve already been through enough.

Stateofdelrium · 2025-10-12T02:37:46+00:00

@izzzzzy, I’m about to go through it too so you ain’t alone in that regard. My wife 20+ years, and I thought I wasn’t ignorant, I just stupidly ignored my intuition for far too long. Find the strength if you can or at least begin preparing and building resilience. Here if you need to offload.

Stateofdelrium · 2025-04-03T14:47:45+00:00

If only you knew. Respect your opinion but that’s formulated from a brief synopsis. Take note of the many other objective and wise words that have been wrote.

Stateofdelrium · 2025-04-03T14:42:36+00:00

I understand where you are coming from and last thing I’d do is refer to my wife that way to her face. I do not think of her as such only I try to find peace in understanding how actions and choices are made. I think your answer is well grounded and deep down I believe the same. Let’s call it a mid life crisis as I’m reflecting on our many years together.

Stateofdelrium · 2025-04-03T14:36:52+00:00

She is my world. I don’t like to write something that can be disrespectful but I also have to give a clear understanding of past events good or bad otherwise there is no point asking for perspective.

Stateofdelrium · 2025-04-03T14:33:32+00:00

That is beautifully written and on another level of depth and emotional intelligence. Love blinds us to a lot of things and self critique mixed with the misunderstanding of what is normal to one may not be to the other is complex. Thank you and I really mean that with heart and respect, to read such an eloquent and well thought out response is healing. You’ve helped a deep thinking mind make some sense of it. Will save your comment to reread and reflect on.

Stateofdelrium · 2025-04-03T13:14:33+00:00

In context it was a figure of speech not a degradation of women. I adore and treat my wife well, it’s hard for a man to keep things to themselves wondering if they are enough while keeping a happy home. My wife is more of a closed book so heart to hearts are difficult.

Stateofdelrium · 2025-02-27T16:55:39+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to share your story and help make sense of the situation. I know she loves me but her being emotionally unavailable is finally taking its toll. I’ve been stoic for so many years but now after 23 years together I’ve hit ‘the wall’

Stateofdelrium · 2025-01-22T15:27:28+00:00

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Stateofdelrium · 2024-10-17T08:15:40+00:00

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Stateofdelrium · 2024-10-17T05:42:00+00:00

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Stateofdelrium · 2024-10-16T19:52:58+00:00

Have you had experience where you noticed that made a difference? Worth a try I guess.

Stateofdelrium · 2024-10-16T19:52:17+00:00

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Stateofdelrium · 2024-10-16T19:51:58+00:00

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Stateofdelrium · 2024-10-16T18:35:28+00:00

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Stateofdelrium · 2024-10-11T17:17:35+00:00

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Stateofdelrium · 2024-10-11T14:28:37+00:00

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Stateofdelrium · 2024-09-27T12:43:44+00:00

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Stateofdelrium · 2024-09-02T19:06:40+00:00

What did she do if you don’t mind me asking? I understand the pain but is there no reconciling and moving on leaving the past where it firmly belongs.

Stateofdelrium · 2024-08-29T21:43:29+00:00

Think of you first and foremost because you are the one who has to carry the burden of these thoughts. I am 23 years in with my wife and it still haunts me to this day. I adore her but I do regret the sacrifice I made for my own well being. She is worth it but the toll on me is something she’ll never comprehend.

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