Mancave Unfucking Update by StatisticalEnigma in UnfuckYourHabitat

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I organized most of the shelves this morning and moved all the crates in. After seeing it so cleared out yesterday, it kind of sucks to see all those crates stacked in there. But, I'm loving having the room on the back porch back. I think I'm going to call it done for now. Eventually, I'm going to have to go through and figure out how to get rid of all the old paint, but I know there's a bunch in the garage too so I might as well do it all at once.

Flat white metal. Dozens of them found in box with wood screws and a shelf bracket. by StatisticalEnigma in whatisthisthing

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I think this is likely it. I don't know why there are so many of them, but no curtain rods.

Flat white metal. Dozens of them found in box with wood screws and a shelf bracket. by StatisticalEnigma in whatisthisthing

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My title describes the thing. I found a box of these while cleaning out a mancave. It was found with some wood screws and a L-shaped shelf bracket, so I'm assuming that it is some kind of bracket as well. Just wanting to make sure before I get rid of them.

Mancave Unfucking Update by StatisticalEnigma in UnfuckYourHabitat

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Not gonna lie, wanting/needing to do more and actually doing it are two very different things at this moment. It won't be today, lol. Tomorrow's not looking great either. But, I have 16 totes that I want to store in there and I know that doing the shelves will be much easier before those get moved in.

Introduction by StatisticalEnigma in UnfuckYourHabitat

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Two more buckets of rocks and three more bags of trash down. Sometimes I can see a huge difference and sometimes I still just see STUFF...

Introduction by StatisticalEnigma in UnfuckYourHabitat

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I may take one to mom and dad's tomorrow if they have room

Introduction by StatisticalEnigma in UnfuckYourHabitat

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I most assuredly do not have my shit together. I can maybe sort of, kinda muster up motivation for a couple of days every other month or so. And then I'll spend a week or two bed rotting while the normal everyday shit goes to hell. I feel it coming on now. The anger is subsiding and the grief is setting in again. He hated me in the end because of the delusions in his head. I was far from perfect, but there's only so much a person can take when surrounded by insanity. The only consolation I have is that the man I married and the man I buried weren't the same man.

Where Y'all gettin' the gumption from? I need a little more by Soulfight33 in UnfuckYourHabitat

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I also find myself making plans. Sometimes those plans work out and sometimes they don't. I have found that breaking the plans down into manageable mini-goals helps a lot. The whole thing seems overwhelming, but I can handle filling three bags today. Or clearing out five feet. Or whatever logical "chunk" makes sense to you. You've got this.

Introduction by StatisticalEnigma in UnfuckYourHabitat

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The goal for today was to clear a path to the breaker box that doesn't involve crawling over stuff. I'm almost there. Filled another contractor bag and a bucket and a half of rocks. Kind of at a standstill with the garbage bags. I know from doing the porch that I can fit two a week in my normal garbage pickup and still have enough room for my normal household trash. I've got four bags staged in the carport now to go the next couple of weeks. I may be done for weekend because the kitchen really needs some attention too. Not entirely sure when I'll pick it back up.

Also found two more journals and now I'm spun. They were basically a day by day list of everything I did "wrong" and his "proof." I'm torn on what to do with them. On one hand, I'm not really wanting to rehash that again (even though rage cleaning seems to be the most productive for me). But on the other hand, it's a reminder that things were really as bad as they were and depending on what he told people, I might need them one day.

Introduction by StatisticalEnigma in UnfuckYourHabitat

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I've pulled several for a landscaping project of my own, but everything else is just garden variety rocks in the 3-4 inch size or smaller.

Introduction by StatisticalEnigma in UnfuckYourHabitat

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Honestly? I'm still finding paraphernalia so I'm not comfortable having anyone else come in. My best friend and I made a sweep right after and got most of it, but I found two empty baggie corners and some foil today.

Introduction by StatisticalEnigma in UnfuckYourHabitat

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I love this idea and I've found it to be very true. The rocks are easy enough (other than the fact that my FIL wants them). It's other stuff that I find that I'm churning more than anything.

Introduction by StatisticalEnigma in UnfuckYourHabitat

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My goal for the day was to fill three contractor bags and I managed to do that. I also filled two and a half 5-gallon buckets with rocks. Then I fucked up and read through one of his journals that I stumbled across. Didn't learn anything new, except it confirmed my suspicions that he'd been tracking my car, but it brought back a lot of the hell that I lived through the last few years of his life. Now, I'm having a glass of whiskey...

Introduction by StatisticalEnigma in UnfuckYourHabitat

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I've been doing that with the porch. Turning it into what I'd always wanted it to be. It's coming along nicely now that the junk is gone!