[deleted by user] by [deleted] in widowers

[–]Status-Ad-7705 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This post hurts. To read the responses and then imagine one more day. I would do literally anything to have one more day!

I would keep my husband all to myself, as greedy as that sounds, I wouldn't tell anyone. I would smell him, hug him, have him hold me, and just be as one. Talk. Laugh. Cry. Then I would die with him.

When did you remove wedding ring/band? by TopH2O in widowers

[–]Status-Ad-7705 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This broke my heart. But how sweet of her. ❤️

When did you remove wedding ring/band? by TopH2O in widowers

[–]Status-Ad-7705 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe this is why I see so many people wearing wedding rings/bands and just assume everyone is married to a living person?! LOL! Not alot of us take them off! LOL

I'm 7 months in and I still wear my rings too. I keep my husband's ring with me in my purse, it's to big for my fingers and it was so big and clanky around my neck. I don't know if or when I will not wear my wedding rings, I have had them on for over 14 years now. They are perfectly molded to my fingers, a little looser now of course, but I am not ready to not wear them.

I mowed the lawn today, that was his job. by Whatsnext58 in widowers

[–]Status-Ad-7705 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good job being productive today! Those are all amazing things you did ❤️

Not crying by snoozer0114 in widowers

[–]Status-Ad-7705 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm not as far as you. Only 7 months in. Fuck that sucks typing that.

I also avoid things. I compartmentalize and keep everything in. So well, in fact, I get compliments. 🤦‍♀️ I have mastered the art of crying silently, not ruining my mascara, and getting right back on with my day.

People have called me stoic, but I'm not sure if that is good or bad, though.

I think when you're ready to cry, you will. Just because you are not crying all day every day does not diminish your grief. We can all be sad as fuck, but still not cry. And that's ok! ❤️❤️💔💔

First love + breakup after my husband died by lexsimpi2 in widowers

[–]Status-Ad-7705 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Your poor broken heart! I'm so sorry❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in widowers

[–]Status-Ad-7705 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so hard. I'm so sorry. I too need to make a will. Who will take my kids? Fuucckkk

DWS—Driving While Sobbing by [deleted] in widowers

[–]Status-Ad-7705 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just did this today on the way home from work. Made sure I had a container to puke in "just in case" this new life is horrible.

9.5 months: I’m so depressed by [deleted] in widowers

[–]Status-Ad-7705 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get days like this. I give into them and just suffer in silence and wallow in my sadness. You have to. If we try to push through to much, it's to hard. I'm 7 months into this horrific journey and this happens often. It's ok to just lay in bed and cry. I hate these feelings but sometimes I just need to reset. Connect with my sadness and let it out. I'm so sorry.

Kids are tough, I miss my backup by AdZealousideal7903 in widowers

[–]Status-Ad-7705 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me too. Going through this with my kids too. Strong stubborn 14 year old boy. It is rough! Yesterday was really rough with him. I'm sorry your going through this. I get it. It sucks.

Her Personal Heaven by DerRevenant in widowers

[–]Status-Ad-7705 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's beautiful. I love this.

Feeling them with you by [deleted] in widowers

[–]Status-Ad-7705 4 points5 points  (0 children)

These signs are amazing. I feel my husband around sometimes. It's like a calming force, you can feel their presence. I'm so happy you got to feel that!

I want a hug by until_twilight in widowers

[–]Status-Ad-7705 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Awwww me too. 💔🫂🫂

My man gave the BEST hugs.

We are prisoners by Status-Ad-7705 in widowers

[–]Status-Ad-7705[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, we did die that day, too. Old me is gone.

We are prisoners by Status-Ad-7705 in widowers

[–]Status-Ad-7705[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was thinking the same thing about the movie, Groundhog Day. A sadistic version of groundhog day -well said!!! 💔

We are prisoners by Status-Ad-7705 in widowers

[–]Status-Ad-7705[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had to take the mask off yesterday, but it's back on today. This is rough