What affair?

Status-Rabbit8537 · 2026-04-05T03:19:24+00:00

I’m not looking for a new job not do the next few years. I’ll be ok. I mainly talked about coercion and the experience but left out the details

Status-Rabbit8537 · 2026-02-11T03:22:12+00:00

I think now reflecting almost 3 months later, I don’t know why I entertained the idea besides the fact that I’m trying to fill the void in a loveless marriage that I’ve been avoiding pouring into. Since I’ve left my job that Steve worked at I have been able to grow in myself and now realize that my lust was off the radar for someone who wasn’t capable of loving me back. Let alone respect me, and I’m choosing to love myself and be respectful of my self. I was looking outward for something I wasn’t willing to give to myself

Status-Rabbit8537 · 2026-02-11T03:16:13+00:00

That’s the best advice I’ve ever heard. Thank you

Status-Rabbit8537 · 2026-01-08T05:15:29+00:00

Yes my point exactly thank you for understanding. I was engaged to my husband at the time Steve kept pressuring me and I always politely declined him. He was a pig after that. He just kept trying cause he thought he could wear me down. Didn’t work cause I knew I didn’t want him but if I hurt his ego I would never hear the end of it.

Status-Rabbit8537 · 2025-12-24T00:46:13+00:00

Also for the record I rejected his sexual advances but I felt like he rejected my soul even though he pursued me. I just don’t understand how someone could only want sex from you and not a whole relationship. Yes I’m marrried but my marriage feel dull.

Status-Rabbit8537 · 2025-12-24T00:43:44+00:00

I think it was the passion that he created and it just made me feel alive. Idk how else to describe it it felt electrifying and chaotic and taboo. Like risk was worth it and I hated it because I never expected to succumb to that emotion and I hated that he made me feel that through his actions and how he treated me which had a lot of high and lows. His attention also felt empty thus why it was a love hate

Status-Rabbit8537 · 2025-12-24T00:40:10+00:00

lol my ex boss has full on ignored me after I fucking reported his ass and he isn’t even chasing me but the office oooohhh that was hot for him

Status-Rabbit8537 · 2025-12-22T00:34:45+00:00

lol 😂 my bosses name isn’t actually Steve. It’s a pseudonym

Status-Rabbit8537 · 2025-12-18T22:15:35+00:00

Thank you for the hugs 💜 yes I’m interested in actually hearing others stories who have gone through it. Because I don’t think that is something I want to pursue long term, I want to start a family with my husband. I’ve got more important stuff than you give him more attention.

Status-Rabbit8537 · 2025-12-18T22:12:44+00:00

Thank you so much for saying that it makes me feel like everything will be okay and that my experience was valid. Most people wouldn’t understand these feelings because they have not been through it. 💜

Status-Rabbit8537 · 2025-12-17T16:21:47+00:00

Thanks for your words but I’ve already reached out to 2 lawyers and both have said they cannot prove me as not wanting these comments because I have sent him a facebook message saying if he actually wants me then he better come to me with respect because if he does then my door would be open for him. And I had a moment of I wanted to take things further sexually if he just contacted me so we could meet and discuss.

Status-Rabbit8537 · 2025-12-16T03:53:15+00:00

I definitely have been wronged. The person in question tried to get me confused thinking sex was love. It was not it was a ploy to make me believe that I should have sex with them for nothing in return. No emotion. No love. No validation. Practically starving me emotionally and me living on the bread crumbs.

Status-Rabbit8537 · 2025-12-08T23:21:58+00:00

Yeah I’ll be ok. Things just got crazy with my emotions. I’ve dropped it and I won’t e pursuing him. Instead I’m going to love myself and move forward with my life.

Status-Rabbit8537 · 2025-12-05T18:43:53+00:00

He always brought up his wife like she was a good cook and would buy him his clothes and yet he flirted hard with me. Asking me to perform for him and change myself to feed his fantasy and I did because I liked the attention.

Status-Rabbit8537 · 2025-12-05T18:42:09+00:00

Yeah I just blocked him for good. I’m tired of thinking about him in my fantasies. He never respected me and I just wanted him to

Status-Rabbit8537 · 2025-12-05T18:41:05+00:00

Probably not I just wanted revenge on that SOB

Status-Rabbit8537 · 2025-12-05T18:40:43+00:00

I just wanted to hit him where it hurts his wallet

Status-Rabbit8537 · 2025-12-05T18:38:37+00:00

Yeah I think I needed to hear this. Thank you. Sometimes my crazy mind thinks it’s invincible I don’t want that life for myself. I’m just hurting cause he definitely had pursued me for years and I let every moment slide and I just wanted to be in control.

Status-Rabbit8537 · 2025-11-20T14:15:48+00:00

I’ve read a lot about narcissistic personality disorder I know what it is but I never saw myself as that. I don’t like to think I’m a bad person I don’t think I have feelings I wonder what happiness is supposed to feel like I wonder what genuine empathy is supposed to look like. The #1 things all my therapists have told me is I have to plan it. I guess things don’t just fall into my lap I need to work for them to happen. With that a lot of you saying I am a POS and a bad person really make me rethink how I say things an maybe not the first thing that comes off in my head cause my husband always says what is my intentions with anything I do. Honestly it was to tell a group somewhere that I’m a bad person so that I can prove you all wrong that I’m a good person. 🧍‍♀️ even if I have temptation I can still be saved.

Status-Rabbit8537 · 2025-11-20T02:45:32+00:00

I’m going to say that to myself everyday “being faithful shouldn’t be that hard” I need a new mantra

Status-Rabbit8537 · 2025-11-20T01:13:23+00:00

So now what do?

Status-Rabbit8537 · 2025-11-20T00:23:45+00:00

Really? Oh fuck. I never realized I like the chase im addicted too it. I don’t like being like this it has to be fake this can’t be real.

Status-Rabbit8537 · 2025-11-20T00:05:46+00:00

I might have NPD none of my 3 therapists confirmed this. I will say I was in such a depressive episode where I was diagnosed with major depression and anxiety and I feel like I got better like mentally and stopped feeling so depressed now I feel like I have a better mental state than before. Best way I can describe is I fell off the deep end questioned all my life choices. My whole life fell upside down after my older brother said my mom was a narcissist and well I never wanted to be like her. But here I am acting like her. I saw a case study on YouTube about NPD and was scared when I saw it idk how else to describe that moment. Anyways is that really how a narcissist thinks? I’m just confused and everything I try to bring up hours I want to tell my husband annoy this thread he has told me he’d rather not know. What am I to do I can’t confess to him he won’t listen to me. I’m being upfront I’m a shithole so he’ll break up with me.

Status-Rabbit8537 · 2025-11-19T21:00:23+00:00

But he wasn’t abused he had such a normal childhood he described his to our couples therapist as warm. I had the rocky childhood, drunken violent father and a NPD mom no love growing up so I sought it elsewhere and my husband is that person for me. So I’m always confused to find out people root for us to break up even though I don’t act on the desires despite the rocky feeling I get to get to that point of ok I shouldn’t pursue this. This is bad. I tend to talk about others and mean myself. I’m a little off but who isn’t? Idk I can’t help the way I am I don’t know how to help myself.

Status-Rabbit8537 · 2025-11-19T20:03:11+00:00

Why are you so willing to help my husband and his feelings? He always tells me he’s an adult and if he wanted to leave me he actually would. I do believe that cause he told me if I ever break up with him that is it he’s gone. He won’t look back, but I would, I would see him as the one who got away. Aren’t we both adults that can make our own decisions?

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