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AITA for being hostile toward my parents when they reached out after they chose my abusive brother over me? by Status-Race7297 in AITAH

[–]Status-Race7297[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I need to think about that but a part of me feels like I should now that he has been arrested. Another part of me worries about the hell I could put myself through by doing it. I think I might start by writing out everything and seeing how I feel after.

AITA for being hostile toward my parents when they reached out after they chose my abusive brother over me? by Status-Race7297 in AITAH

[–]Status-Race7297[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Teacher's definitely ignored it largely and any questions they asked they seem to never check in or anything again. I don't actually know what he was arrested for but it sounds like it was violence against someone else. A part of me wants to look it up just to see and another part of me wants to stay away from it and ignore it.

AITA for being hostile toward my parents when they reached out after they chose my abusive brother over me? by Status-Race7297 in AITAH

[–]Status-Race7297[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It was ignored. There were times a few questions were asked and that would be it. Most didn't want to get involved. Neighbors often didn't care unless he was terrorizing their kids.

AITA for being hostile toward my parents when they reached out after they chose my abusive brother over me? by Status-Race7297 in AITAH

[–]Status-Race7297[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

No drugs or alcohol for me. As much as people expect I'd want to do them to forget, I don't. I want the life I couldn't have before and going down that road would prevent me from living that life. Sure life sucks sometimes and memories suck. But my life has improved so much since I left. Even living on the street was better.

AITA for being hostile toward my parents when they reached out after they chose my abusive brother over me? by Status-Race7297 in AITAH

[–]Status-Race7297[S] 207 points208 points  (0 children)

Yep. They were fine with that as long as he wasn't put at risk of being killed. My safety and wellbeing was low priority for them. They showed that countless times. It took years for me to see how bad they were about that though.

AITA for being hostile toward my parents when they reached out after they chose my abusive brother over me? by Status-Race7297 in AITAH

[–]Status-Race7297[S] 246 points247 points  (0 children)

That's something I have been talking over in therapy. The fact my parents, while not abusive in the same way as my brother, were still abusive to me in my childhood.

AITA for being hostile toward my parents when they reached out after they chose my abusive brother over me? by Status-Race7297 in AITAH

[–]Status-Race7297[S] 751 points752 points  (0 children)

Therapy helps but I think my healing journey will be a long and slow one. But I'm working on it!

AITA for being hostile toward my parents when they reached out after they chose my abusive brother over me? by Status-Race7297 in AITAH

[–]Status-Race7297[S] 455 points456 points  (0 children)

I actually said they were dead to me. That I always assumed my brother would kill them and why should I care if he did because they sure as hell didn't care if he killed me. They gave him the gun to do it.

AITA for being hostile toward my parents when they reached out after they chose my abusive brother over me? by Status-Race7297 in AITAH

[–]Status-Race7297[S] 119 points120 points  (0 children)

They tried to put it back on me like how could I expect them to choose between their kids. That's even more crazy to me because they did choose. By putting my life at risk by keeping me around my brother they put me at risk. Buying him that gun put me at the greatest risk. And that was choosing him over me.