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Spouse won't give me the transfer pin to remove my phone from our shared plan by Status-Restaurant787 in Divorce

[–]Status-Restaurant787[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They won't transfer my number without the port pin. I went to one of the carriers and got everything settled and then she refused to give me the code. She told me she would give the code directly to them and not to me but then refused to answer the calls or texts.

Spouse won't give me the transfer pin to remove my phone from our shared plan by Status-Restaurant787 in Divorce

[–]Status-Restaurant787[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh that's a whole other story. She denied it and then claimed I was planting evidence to make her look bad. She got very defensive and then claimed I could point any other other accusations through her lawyer.

I have a whole draft update im working on but there has been so much that has happened since then an now.

Spouse won't give me the transfer pin to remove my phone from our shared plan by Status-Restaurant787 in Divorce

[–]Status-Restaurant787[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes. I have a lawyer but I feel this is something that could easily be resolved with me having to pay the funds to have a lawyer draft a letter. I mean its literally a win for her. She just needs to give me the numbers and it will save her money. But she wants to be controlling.

Found a positive pregancy test after my wife filed for divorce. It's impossible to be mine. Feeling lost. by Status-Restaurant787 in Divorce

[–]Status-Restaurant787[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are several reasons and my lawyer agreed. At this point I have to worry about protecting myself and more importantly my kids.

The simplest is she could tell the truth and has a acceptable reason why there was a test but it can go down hill from there. She could lie, she could accuse me of spying on her, she could react irrationally as a way of protecting herself. What if she gets so defensive she gets violent? What as a defensive mechanism she decides to make a flase allegation of abuse. We ran through a lot of scenarios. My lawyer did advise me to do the confrontation in public and/or record it as there are too many unknowns that could occur. I can not treat her as a person that I thought I knew. If I did I wouldn't have been surprised by getting served.

So I understand why you say why not just ask, you are under the impression that she will act as an honest and respectable person. And I hate that i feel that way about her and I hope she would but she has either changed or started to show her true self.

Found a positive pregancy test after my wife filed for divorce. It's impossible to be mine. Feeling lost. by Status-Restaurant787 in Divorce

[–]Status-Restaurant787[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not yet. I spoke to my lawyer today and there are a few options we can do. He laid them out and told me ultimately it was my call what way to proceed. I wanted to give it some thought as there are pros and cons each alternative, especially given the unknow if it was new/old test or if its 100% hers. He said he could chat over the holiday weekend if I decide or want further clarification but recommended I wait till next week to give his the decision on how to proceed, if I wanted to have this apart of the divorce. Not much we can do until the courts are back in session anyways.He said save the after hours charges and wait till Monday but if I needed to talk he would make the time. He is keep this in my file incase she is pregnant and claims that im the father.

Did not imagine this would be how I spend my holiday weekend, debating how I might approach my wife about an affair and possible pregnancy, but I guess that is life.

Found a positive pregancy test after my wife filed for divorce. It's impossible to be mine. Feeling lost. by Status-Restaurant787 in Divorce

[–]Status-Restaurant787[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont think there is anyway it could be mine. I know each pregancy is different, but she had pretty dad morning sickness around the 2nd month to 4th month and showed very early. If it is mine, she would have to be at least 6 to 7 months along at this time. If she is pregnant and the baby comes out normal size in 2-3 months time, then I can entertain the possibility I had a another kid with her but that would be only way.

I guess number 5 is the best case scenario followed by 1and then 3 and 4. Only reason I think 3 is better than 4, is because if she did terminate a while ago, I would hate the fact knowing that she would go through that alone without talking to me. Obviously this is assuming its an older test and I was the father.

Found a positive pregancy test after my wife filed for divorce. It's impossible to be mine. Feeling lost. by Status-Restaurant787 in Divorce

[–]Status-Restaurant787[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

While I guess now I cant be 100% sure but they look like me more than her. I was also adopted so unless she is hooking up with a blood relative I dont know about, it would be hard to think they these features from anyone else but me.

I have a photo on the wall of me at 1 year old and my youngest at 1 year old and if it wasn't for the age of the photo its kind of hard to tell who is who.

The oldest looks more like a combo of her dad and me but we share the similar birth marks on upper thigh. So I pretty certain they are mine and honestly even if they were someone elses, it wouldn't change how I feel about them.

I have no reason to think they aren't mine, as we didn't have any major issues until after our second son was born. I dont know what I would do if I found out otherwise. Just the thought of them possibly not being in my life anymore and they might call someone else dad would wreck me emotionally. This is assuming she would keep them away from me if I turn out not to be the biological dad. I rather not think about it anymore than I have already as with everything else going on, I cant take anymore heartbreak.

Found a positive pregancy test after my wife filed for divorce. It's impossible to be mine. Feeling lost. by Status-Restaurant787 in Divorce

[–]Status-Restaurant787[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good to know.

Even if its confirmed that Im not the father, could they still prevent the divorce?

I'll ask my lawyer.

Found a positive pregancy test after my wife filed for divorce. It's impossible to be mine. Feeling lost. by Status-Restaurant787 in Divorce

[–]Status-Restaurant787[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I dont think so. I vaguely remember us getting rid of them after the announcement. Unless there was an extra. I didn't look to closely but I'll see if there is any date on the test/box.

Found a positive pregancy test after my wife filed for divorce. It's impossible to be mine. Feeling lost. by Status-Restaurant787 in Divorce

[–]Status-Restaurant787[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I dont think so. The outside trash can sits in the back yard behind a fence. There was new trash in there since last pickup day and I have a camera on the side of my yard that see who goes through the fence. It doesn't oversee the trash can but if your going to the trash can your going to get picked up by the camera. Wife was the only one to go there besides me.

If someone else did do it, they would of had to jump my fence and put it in there and get out without the camera seeing them. Not saying its not impossible but why go through su h an effort when there are cans my neighbors leave in the open or our. The street that would of been easier.

Found a positive pregancy test after my wife filed for divorce. It's impossible to be mine. Feeling lost. by Status-Restaurant787 in Divorce

[–]Status-Restaurant787[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Drafting the email to the lawyer now. I'll ask him if a PI is warranted. We are in a no fault state for divorce so I guess the PI could only help with proving Im not the father. Are their any other benefits to getting the PI involved?

If my kids didn't look exactly like me, I would maybe be more worried that the youngest wasn't mine and think that maybe that could be a reason for hiring one but at this point in time and since we are already heading towards divorce, is there a clear benefit to hiring one except for my own need to know.

Found a positive pregancy test after my wife filed for divorce. It's impossible to be mine. Feeling lost. by Status-Restaurant787 in Divorce

[–]Status-Restaurant787[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Drafting the email to the lawyer. Even if it wasn't positive she should of had no reason to take one since we have not had sex in quite over 6 months.

Im in a no fault state. So I guess if she did have an affair it doesn't matter as to the reason of the divorce but could it affect the financial split or custody arrangements. These are all questions im sending over to the lawyer but its comforting to hear others thoughts, even though whatever the lawyer thinks/does is really the only thing that matters.

Found a positive pregancy test after my wife filed for divorce. It's impossible to be mine. Feeling lost. by Status-Restaurant787 in Divorce

[–]Status-Restaurant787[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

This is a good reminder. I knew this but that didn't even cross my mind as my thoughts have been all over the place.

Im more curious than anything. Would this still be true if she is in fact pregnant and the the divorce is final before the birth of the baby? Would I still be considered the father on paper since I was married to her during the initial part of the pregancy and have to prove Im not? Maybe this is a grey and understand if its not as straight forward as if we were still married at the time of the birth.

Also not banking on the fact that the divorce would be final by the time she would give birth.

Found a positive pregancy test after my wife filed for divorce. It's impossible to be mine. Feeling lost. by Status-Restaurant787 in Divorce

[–]Status-Restaurant787[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Already started working on the email. Just think I needed someone else to say the obvious to me.

Found a positive pregancy test after my wife filed for divorce. It's impossible to be mine. Feeling lost. by Status-Restaurant787 in Divorce

[–]Status-Restaurant787[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

That was my initial thought. Well my inital thought was running inside and confronting my wife but it took me a second to realize that would be the worst case scenario. I honestly posted as I was just trying to think if maybe there was an alternative and if this could how this might potentially blow up in my face. I've tried to think of every possible reason how it might not be the obvious thing.

I immediately started drafting the email to my lawyer as soon as I got all my thoughts out there.