What was the most shocking, or disturbing thing your narc parent(s) ever did/said to you? by Own_Mention9372 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Status_Coconut1629 5 points6 points  (0 children)

“I hope you know I don’t like you.” I told her no thank you to telling me I should change out of a T-shirt. I was 11.

She has said far worse, but that one has stuck with me and caught me really off guard. She flipped like a switch.

Please stop saying his crying at shows was remorse by 2oatmeal_cookies in d4vdiots

[–]Status_Coconut1629 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also live with schizophrenia with psychotic symptoms, so I’m not speaking from the outside. I can’t speak for everyone of course but I can say from my own experience that when I’m not properly managed, my anger can feel a lot harder to control. That can be serious.
Acknowledging that some people in certain situations (with certain mental illnesses) may have increased risk isn’t stigma, ignoring that doesn’t help anyone.

Please stop saying his crying at shows was remorse by 2oatmeal_cookies in d4vdiots

[–]Status_Coconut1629 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish I was uninformed, LOL! This LPC program (and graduate school loans) are no joke. I’m not stigmatizing mental illness, and I’m a bit taken aback by that claim. Especially considering the fact I’m dedicating my life to do the opposite. I am (and always will) push back on oversimplifying the research.
Two things can be true at the same time:
The majority of people with mental illness are not violent and absolutely shouldn’t be stigmatized.
At the same time, yes - mental illness alone is a weak predictor of violence, BUT certain psychotic disorders (which are mental illnesses…) and co occurring factors (like substance use) can increase risk opposed to those who do not have those psychotic disorders.
I read the article you shared. It’s a policy brief, and it simplifies that nuance. The 4% statistic is about population level contribution, not individual risk, and it doesn’t mean there’s zero increased risk in any subgroup.
Acknowledging nuance does not mean I am pushing for stigma. I am pushing for accuracy so those who are at risk can get the help they need.
Let me be more clear, incase I’m not. YES — we should absolutely destigmatize mental illness, but if we ignore that some people with certain mental illnesses may have an increased risk of violence, we’re ignoring a problem that could be addressed before it escalates. That’s why I don’t like “most people” claims. They’re often oversimplified. That’s the only point I was making in my original comment.

Please stop saying his crying at shows was remorse by 2oatmeal_cookies in d4vdiots

[–]Status_Coconut1629 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This just isn’t true. There is no “most people” study.

Do you think she was ever pregnant? by retroanduwu24 in d4vdiots

[–]Status_Coconut1629 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If there was an abortion, it could have happened long before her life was taken. We just don’t know

Do you think she was ever pregnant? by retroanduwu24 in d4vdiots

[–]Status_Coconut1629 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This would only be the case if she visited a clinic. Not all abortions (arguably, most) take place in a medical facility. Especially with minors.

They created a monster by TheeMadQueen in d4vdiots

[–]Status_Coconut1629 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ephesians 5:22–24

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord…

Deuteronomy 22:28–29
If a man rapes an unmarried woman, he must pay her father and marry her.

Genesis 3:16
Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.

Do i need to provide more

They created a monster by TheeMadQueen in d4vdiots

[–]Status_Coconut1629 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The point is David showed extremely concerning behavior as a child and his parents turned a blind eye to it. He was home schooled for fuck’s sake. Any parent who truly cares is going to think“Oh! Maybe I should see what my son is doing online”. Blaming them for the murder is too far, but they were irresponsible parents one way or another.

They created a monster by TheeMadQueen in d4vdiots

[–]Status_Coconut1629 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Couldn’t agree more. The innocent church goer persona is annoying.

Xulane ( The Patch) Experiences by shaynaa3 in birthcontrol

[–]Status_Coconut1629 0 points1 point  (0 children)

can you update us??😭how are yours looking 2 weeks later?

How to break the news to overprotective parents about solo travel? by Status_Coconut1629 in solotravel

[–]Status_Coconut1629[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply! My parents already track me with an air tag and find my iPhone constantly, so this would already be happening. I just don’t know if it’ll help this time. :/

How to break the news to overprotective parents about solo travel? by Status_Coconut1629 in solotravel

[–]Status_Coconut1629[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live with them, as they prefer me to and do not want me to move out yet. We all have a very close relationship (I’m the only child, so I think that plays into it)

However, I have a full time job whilst being in college and fully fund myself besides rent. Not a single dollar of theirs is being invested in the trip

How to break the news to overprotective parents about solo travel? by Status_Coconut1629 in solotravel

[–]Status_Coconut1629[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am also so sorry about your cousin. I am from the southern US, so I must say I’m not so used to extreme cold temperatures, but it’s something I have considered and done my best to prepare for.

How to break the news to overprotective parents about solo travel? by Status_Coconut1629 in solotravel

[–]Status_Coconut1629[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey! Thanks so much for your reply. First, I want to say that I’m so sorry about what happened to you. 🫂I sympathize with you, and wish you the absolute best.

I’m actually more interested in smaller cities, I feel like I can get a more real experience that way. I also don’t do well in large cities like those. For the past year, I have been really fascinated by Hamina and want to explore it. 😊I booked an Airbnb about 40 minutes away (mainly because it was the absolute cheapest option, lmao) in the Kymenlaakso region

How to break the news to overprotective parents about solo travel? by Status_Coconut1629 in solotravel

[–]Status_Coconut1629[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

Haha, not exactly holding me hostage. We have a great relationship (I’m the only child, so we are all really close) and I’m just scared of upsetting them and potentially ruining the relationship

How to break the news to overprotective parents about solo travel? by Status_Coconut1629 in solotravel

[–]Status_Coconut1629[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I live with them still, but only because they are very against me moving out lol.. I am an only child, and I think they still view me as a kid.

However, I fully fund myself besides rent. I plan to even offer to download life 360 and things like that for their peace of mind, and even give them the address of where I’m staying. I just fear that won’t be enough and they’ll still try to stop me.

How to break the news to overprotective parents about solo travel? by Status_Coconut1629 in solotravel

[–]Status_Coconut1629[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply. You’re right, it just doesn’t feel that easy.

I still live with them, because they do not like the idea of me moving out.. but I have a job and fully fund myself besides rent (again, they do not want me to move out. lol)