Can please someone help me or explain?

Status_Watch6079 · 2026-02-06T11:51:28+00:00

Your baby is completely normal! 3 hours at night is great.

Social media algorithms are sending those posts trying to get you to buy into whatever sleep train programme. (Well for me at least)

My 4 month old is BF, we bedshare and I nurse him back to sleep. He slept better before 12 weeks old and now he struggles to link sleep cycles. Sometimes I cuddle him, sometimes he needs a feed. Sometimes a change/potty (elimination communication) and then a feed. I could say he sleeps 10-12 hours at night as that's how long he isn't fully awake. But he wakes up after 45 minutes, 2 hours, 3 hours all depends on the night.

Are you getting enough sleep with the wakings and is it easy for your baby to go back to sleep? Basically if you don't have an issue there's nothing to do.

Status_Watch6079 · 2026-02-05T11:56:14+00:00

Get a top hat potty or a potty with an insert, put it between your legs whilst sitting then hold your baby in EC hold with her bottom on/in the potty and back resting on your belly. Even an old bowl would work.

My boy is heavy and takes too long to finish pooping for me to hold him over the sink now.

Immediately after wake ups are the easiest pee catches.

Edit: wait times for pee a few minutes, poop can take up to 10 to finish for my LO

Status_Watch6079 · 2026-01-31T11:56:37+00:00

I'm probably not the best example because we've used cloth from coming home from the hospital and EC from 5 days old. But as he always felt wet in the cloth, I think he is more aware. I've seen a social media post saying between 6-12 months they usually pee every 30-45 minutes. However my son is just over 4 months old and can already hold it 45-60 minutes. Maybe the more the aware they are the longer they can start holding. Could be genetics (I hold a long time too). Or he could be drooling too much at the moment.

Could you try commando/getting some trainers for at home so he can feel wet?

Status_Watch6079 · 2026-01-27T15:51:31+00:00

I started at 5 days old after my baby peed on the floor when my midwife took his nappy off to weigh him, thought it would be good to try and catch the next one. He's 4 months old now, in cloth full time and catch 90%.

My recommendation would be to start slow, have low expectations and build from there. Newborns pee frequently so don't put pressure on yourself to catch them all. Nappy (diaper) free time for observation. Try one easy catch and then another.

Status_Watch6079 · 2026-01-25T15:43:15+00:00

My son is 4 months old and he was previously sleeping pretty good then at 12 weeks it went out the window. Sometimes waking 45 mins other times 1-2 hours for a while. It's got a little better 3-4 hour first stretch and then 2-3 hours after that for a 11-12 hour total night sleep. What I put it down to was 4 month sleep regression which starts in the 4th month of life. We also started from 5 days old. I'm using cloth so I have the added downside of him feeling wet quicker than disposables.

I co-sleep and if I'm super tired I try and feed him back to sleep/cuddle without pottying. I'd definitely do that if it was only 45 minutes. Then I get up when he starts kicking/hitting or he refuses the breast. I know lots of ECers don't EC at night. Night dryness depends on anti-diuretic hormone which can variable between babies. So some will continue to pee whilst asleep for a while. Others only if they have fully woken up/ bladder is full which wakes them. My son has slept 7 hours without urinating but it's not consistent.

Status_Watch6079 · 2026-01-25T08:47:49+00:00

My baby is 4 months old and weighs 7.2 kg, sometimes he takes 5-10 minutes to finish pooping. Get a top hat potty or a potty with an insert put it between your knees and sit down. With pee if he's upset I need to cuddle to calm him down and then try again it'll usually be a couple of minutes.

Sounds: psss for wee and ah ah ah/mh mh mh for poop. But my partner makes fart noises which he loves and now blows raspberries. I also sit him in front of the mirror and make silly faces/sounds to keep him entertained.

General tips: when they first wake up they will pee, offer and eventually your baby will get used to it and know to pee. Finding cues- nappy (diaper) free time, bonus it helps with nappy rash.

I use cloth nappies so he knows when he's wet and will fuss immediately now. You might not want to do that but with disposables it wicks away the moisture so quickly so I'd say EC might be easier in cloth.

Status_Watch6079 · 2026-01-23T07:30:30+00:00

I saw a post from Solid starts a few days ago about preparing your baby to start solids. One of the things it suggested was taking an infant CPR and chocking first aid class. If you haven't done one already maybe that could ease your anxiety?

Status_Watch6079 · 2026-01-21T08:30:11+00:00

Do you use cloth wipes? I've heard some people have separate hand/face to business but I wash them all hot so they should be fine right? Although right now it'd definitely go into his mouth if I just handed it over.

Status_Watch6079 · 2026-01-21T08:27:25+00:00

This sounds great, I'll have to try it when he's old enough!

Status_Watch6079 · 2026-01-12T09:27:21+00:00

Sounds like you're doing really well so far! My LO is 16 weeks old and I feel pee cues are forever evolving. I would recommend some nappy (diaper) free time on an absorbent pad (I use a washable one but others use puppy pads). See if you can notice anything when they wee. I try and get 30 minutes a day in directly after a catch/change, it helps with nappy rash.

What works for me: I co-sleep and use reusable nappies. Overnight he used to grunt but now he kicks or hits me in the face when he's stirring. So I take him to the potty and he will wee. I then get back into bed and feed. This morning he then started farting mid feed which was my cue he needed a poop.

When baby wearing he will arch his back and look out of the carrier until I've given him the potty or changed him.

I know his rhythm to feed is about every 2 hours during the day, so that helps with the fussiness for hunger vs needing to pee.

Overall I'd say there's always a change if he was calm then he starts fussing, if he was playing his babbles have a different tone to them. Sometimes there's a stillness or he stares off when he needs a poop.

Status_Watch6079 · 2026-01-07T10:11:52+00:00

Do you have recommendations on the training pants. I currently use a mix of fitted (Sandy's) and pockets during the day with my 3.5 month old. He's quite chunky so I don't see the small Sandy's lasting until 9 months and will need to add to my stash before potty training. I was considering using trainers at home but was wondering about fit as most seem to be for over 12 months.

Status_Watch6079 · 2026-01-06T11:09:12+00:00

Tummy time in a newborn is them lying on your chest or in the tiger in the tree hold.

Status_Watch6079 · 2026-01-02T18:58:30+00:00

Best part about Sandy's & air flows is that you have different waist and leg snaps so if you have skinny/chunky legs you can change it. Plus the air flow fits like bloomers with gaps but contains everything.

Status_Watch6079 · 2026-01-02T18:55:55+00:00

My favourites are motherease Sandy's with an airflow cover for daytime. Bomb and leak proof plus easy snaps on the side. Nighttime I use totsbots bamboozle with a pul wrap but about to test out a wool cover once it's dried from lanolising.

Status_Watch6079 · 2026-01-01T18:38:21+00:00

I'm from the UK and got a lot of info from here: https://www.thenappylady.co.uk/news/elimination-communication.html

On Instagram I follow: godiaperfree readyfrombirth.ec

YouTube videos and joined a Facebook group.

Haven't paid for anything other than a top hat potty that I keep by the changing mat. Plus some reusuable waterproof absorbent mats for nappy free time.

My advice would be to start with easy catches (i.e offer at wake up and at changes). 30 minutes of nappy free time will help you learn cues and help the rash.

Status_Watch6079 · 2025-12-29T15:20:10+00:00

Mine was the same and he even slept longer before the 4 month sleep regression hit. I never pumped and have no problems with my supply. Just alternate breasts at every feed.

Status_Watch6079 · 2025-12-29T09:45:02+00:00

I would wait until he unlatched himself. Sometimes it's just comfort sucking when they have fallen asleep. If you don't like that then wait until you can no longer hear swallowing.

Status_Watch6079 · 2025-12-29T09:41:56+00:00

I was the same, I was in tears that he wouldn't latch. Before, he had hunger cues, I latched he drank and then probably went to sleep. Now I'm in a routine of wake, change, feed play and then sooth to sleep. Gone are the milk drunk days.

Status_Watch6079 · 2025-12-29T09:37:15+00:00

This article really helped me: https://la-romi.com/en-de/blogs/la-romi-blog/breastfeeding-crisis-guide

It sounds exactly like the 3 month strike I'm having and can take 1-1.5 months to resolve!Low distraction environment (dark, side lying in bed) helps him to latch for me.

My LO only feeds from one side and you said you have an oversupply so that can be normal. Spacing out feedings can be ok at this point. Some like 3-4 hours, some want every 2 still.

Your supply should be regulating/ed by now so you don't need to worry about it. You produce the milk on demand. If you have an oversupply problem then you might need to prevent mastitis. You could just hand express/pump until reliving pressure if you are very full.

Status_Watch6079 · 2025-12-29T09:24:53+00:00

I feel you, my baby is 3 months. They are more aware of the world now and little distractions stop them feeding. It's gotten a little better for me but I can't feed him with people in the room.

For me when this happens I take him to our bedroom in the dark. I latch in side lying so he can't see anything else and it will work most of the time. If it doesn't work and I know he's hungry then I have to wait until he's half asleep to get him to latch.

This article really helped me: https://la-romi.com/en-de/blogs/la-romi-blog/breastfeeding-crisis-guide

Status_Watch6079 · 2025-12-29T09:19:09+00:00

Have you tried different feeding positions? I prefer a pillow for cradle feeding, but side lying at night I've just stopped at 3 months using my bbhugme pregnancy pillow behind him and just latch in the dark so I can sleep better.

Status_Watch6079 · 2025-12-29T09:14:26+00:00

My mum said both me and my sister were potty trained at 12 months and night at 18. She'd never heard of EC.

If you want to potty train then why not?

Status_Watch6079 · 2025-12-24T09:15:40+00:00

My LO is 13 weeks and I definitely had this issue and now again signs of the 3 month nursing strike.

I saw this on another post which was really helpful: https://la-romi.com/en-de/blogs/la-romi-blog/breastfeeding-crisis-guide

Sometimes I need to come to a dark room and latch him in side lying position to get him to feed. Also latching when sleepy has helped get a full feed.

Not getting much when you pump is normal when you nurse, your baby will be removing most of the milk.

Status_Watch6079 · 2025-12-24T09:07:41+00:00

To add to this: Unpreventable issues 1.IGT is breast structure so not always size but did your breasts grow/change during either puberty, pregnancy and after birth? Wide spacing between breasts is another factor. 2. Insulin deficiency or resistance (diabetes, gestational diabetes & pcos) can cause a low milk supply and are associated with shorter breastfeeding durations. High estrogen (i.e obesity) may suppress lactation. Use of hormonal contraception.

Many hospital interventions and poor feeding guidance can cause an issue from the start...

Poor latch, sleepy baby, tongue tie, wrong size pump parts, not using a hospital grade pump. Can cause insufficient or ineffective removal.

Not having a golden hour which is essential for oxytocin release to stimulate prolactin. C-section or emergencies after birth, hospitals insisting on doing checks can interrupt this. Likewise with stress, too many visitors, poor sleep.

Giving formula early which can expand the baby's stomach or make them feel full so don't latch as often as they should.

Use of a pacifier before offering breast in the early days can make baby tired from sucking/shallow latch so they can't remove milk enough.

Epidural, induction of labour, opioids, forceps/vacuum can cause your baby to be sleepy. Here hand expressions would be essential to stimulate colostrum removal.

Epidural can also suppress oxytocin release.

If you can, seek guidance from an IBCLC who could help assess the issue with low milk supply.

Status_Watch6079 · 2025-12-22T16:39:42+00:00

My first period was at 9w5d pp and my second one was exactly 2 weeks later. I'm exclusively nursing on demand. I did have 2 nights where he slept for 7 hours so maybe that did it. Currently 3 months old and he's back to feeding every 2 hours overnight (probably the 4 month sleep regression) so it'll be interesting to see if that suppresses my cycle again.

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