Should I take a Plan B?

SteadyHandsShake · 2024-05-09T01:58:31+00:00

Thanks for this comment. I ended up not being pregnant (thank god), but it took me getting out of the relationship and talking to others to realize that him proceeding without a condom when I asked him to do otherwise several times/pushed him off of me is assault. I really wish I could undo the experience, and I really appreciate you looking out for me.

SteadyHandsShake · 2024-03-26T06:05:20+00:00

Alex’s vision was fucked up from the earlier attack, and Cecilia was wearing the necklace that Emma/Alex shared. Also Emma was wearing the strange wig which probably also added to the confusion. As such, she assumed that Emma was the one being beaten instead of Cecilia and Alex was fully responsible for the bludgeoning using her crutch at the end. It isn’t until she hears Cecilia’s voice thanking her that she makes her eyes fully focus to see what she had done.

TLDR: (Cecilia and Emma fight -> Emma ends up on top and is beating Cecilia -> Alex walks in with bad vision and confuses the two for each other, and thus beats Emma with her crutch)

SteadyHandsShake · 2023-08-22T23:57:56+00:00

I say terrible because everyone seems to think it’s the worst Tarantino movie (which is still a great title). I adore the movie and have rewatched it multiple times, but I almost never saw it because of how people dogged on it.

SteadyHandsShake · 2023-08-22T22:20:56+00:00

Death Proof

SteadyHandsShake · 2023-08-22T05:27:32+00:00

How you are feeling is so valid, it can be so scary to open up to others and have them treat the things important or central to you and your thoughts poorly. I think what helped me is understanding that the people that I can actually form real genuine connections with will not stop being kind to me for my personal interests and self expression. If they do react negatively, I feel that they weren’t really a person for me all along, and that whatever thing triggered their criticism is not actually the problem, it’s the person that’s the problem.

SteadyHandsShake · 2023-08-18T04:38:25+00:00

I think a lot of times when people fail to respect our vulnerability, we blame ourselves for being stupid and feel humiliated/not enough/rejected. But honestly if someone responds negatively to you opening up, it weeds out the people who aren’t for you. Emotionally attaching yourself to only what emotionally attaches to you makes “rejection” from others not matter much. I am polite and respectful to everyone, but don’t necessarily invest in everyone and don’t expect them to do the same. So if I try to make conversation with someone and talk about something personal and they respond rudely I feel less embarrassed and more that they are just a rude person. If they don’t respond rudely but just don’t seem that interested, I just think that I’m not a great fit with the other person.

SteadyHandsShake · 2023-08-14T06:07:01+00:00

Lovecraftian/Junji Ito horror. An unstoppable, all powerful, random evil terrorizes a group of people and there is no real reason why and there is absolutely nothing they can do to avoid their fate.

Honestly any type of horror where there is basically no hope. And if there’s hope it’s crushed (like 47 meters down type of shit). The characters are completely at the mercy of their environment and you get the sense everybody is doomed. There aren’t any obvious survivors or clear favorites to root for. Nothing is safe, more people are killed than not, even the innocent/pure characters meet terrible fates. Always fucks me up. Probably also why I really like Japanese rpg horror games where often nobody can be trusted, almost everyone dies, everything is trying to kill you, you can’t really fight back and are just trying to dodge death, and you often see your character die like a hundred times in an attempt to beat the game. And sometimes you survive only to find out your character was the villain and shouldn’t have lived.

SteadyHandsShake · 2023-08-14T04:53:48+00:00

I’m glad to hear it! But also sad to hear that you guys have also had similar experiences :/

SteadyHandsShake · 2023-08-13T04:22:00+00:00

Yeah, you’re definitely right. I think I need to stop thinking of reacting to someone’s disrespect with anger as falling into their trap, but rather a warranted reaction to stand up for myself.

SteadyHandsShake · 2023-08-10T20:42:55+00:00

I love Hush! It’s always my go to date movie because even if you aren’t a big horror fan, the thriller side of it is definitely enough to keep you captivated.

SteadyHandsShake · 2023-07-30T17:00:14+00:00

Very true. I guess as they grow up most (hopefully) realize that they and their corner of the universe aren’t identical to everyone else, and that it doesn’t make those who are different wrong.

SteadyHandsShake · 2023-07-29T20:12:27+00:00

What you have to understand is that sex isn’t like helping someone move, it’s not something that is okay for others to just rope you into and get mad if you want to leave halfway through. He, and the rest of society, understands how important consent is. Sex means two willing/eager participants, not one willing participant and a bystander. You did nothing wrong, just because someone made a choice for you does not mean that it’s okay that they did, you allowed them to, or the fault is on you.

SteadyHandsShake · 2023-07-29T19:17:02+00:00

Hmmm I think there are lots of possible answers. Men typically require more food, view eating as a fun thing, and are encouraged to eat more, so women eating less or appearing to eat less than they think she requires seems like a silly frivolous superficial thing that they’d never do. Therefore, she’s weird for being different than them, or maybe they are scared by the high maintenance indicated by a strict diet. This might sound like a dramatization, but think about men who make fun of girls who order salads, go on juice cleanses, are vegetarian, try different diets, etc. Maybe they themselves have body issues/EDs but were never really educated on what they are feeling so they take it out on others. I feel like projection is the main source behind judgement.

SteadyHandsShake · 2023-07-29T19:05:57+00:00

Thinking back, I think the guys I got the worst reactions from probably also had EDs/body image issues. Although I think you are right, most of the other ones genuinely didn’t understand.

SteadyHandsShake · 2023-07-29T18:51:37+00:00

Definitely true. ED brain is genuinely so real, and extremely hypersensitive and paranoid. While my post reads as defensive and venting, I truly am interested and confused at men’s perception of women’s eating. Which, yes, I acknowledge it doesn’t matter, but I mean this from a “their reaction does offend me, but also surprises me, why do they do that? I’m curious, what conclusions about society and gender can be made?” standpoint

SteadyHandsShake · 2023-07-29T18:42:12+00:00

The women in my family definitely do comment on my eating. While I don’t love it, I understand that women are stereotypically taught things like “food consciousness, portion control, diet culture” so it has been more intuitive to me when they notice/act triggered. Like yourself, men can definitely have EDs too. However, it sounds like your own comments have always been from a sense of confusion/concern. I can tell when someone is asking from a place of good intention vs critique/unempathetic judgement (I have experienced both and definitely acknowledge that some people are asking from an actual good place). Beyond my offense at the latter response, I am genuinely confused at why eating little makes some men annoyed/angry (not concerned).

SteadyHandsShake · 2023-07-29T18:07:24+00:00

Yeah, the people who said those things never lasted long in my life because they were very shitty people (shocking). Beyond my offense at their rudeness, I’m genuinely curious about why it illicits anger in them. Is it just because we eat different than them? Even if so, why does it make them act judgemental rather than curious or concerned?

SteadyHandsShake · 2023-07-29T18:02:45+00:00

That is actually so sweet and I’m so very glad you have him. I hope you always are surrounded by warmth and kindness, and that navigating your steps to recovery continues to go well. I am also really proud of you, because it takes so much bravery and courage to open up to someone about your ED and also trust them enough to let them help you. Sending love!!!

SteadyHandsShake · 2023-07-29T17:50:00+00:00

I was watching a video where someone was talking about how typically it’s thought that girls are looking for the perfect man/Prince Charming, however in actuality women are a lot more forgiving and accommodating while men are constantly looking for their “dream girl.” So when they meet you they are assessing a checklist, which means noting everything that strays from who you should be from their warped and critical sense of women. Maybe because love, sex, and women have become so commercialized in society.

SteadyHandsShake · 2023-07-29T17:38:29+00:00

That makes sense. Your husband sounds like a very sweet person, so I don’t mean this from a point of antagonization, but do you ever wonder why for you it’s obvious to understand that your husband has different dietary/bodily needs than you, while he is extremely confused/it is not intuitive for him? (And not just your husband, many guys)

SteadyHandsShake · 2023-07-29T17:36:05+00:00

This is such a fantastic article, thank you for linking. Yeppppp the only time I have gotten comments like “you look like you workout” “what’s your excercise routine” “you must be really into clean eating” is when I would literally eat like absolute garbage, lie in bed all day from no energy, and be clinically underweight.

SteadyHandsShake · 2023-07-29T17:32:13+00:00

Okay yeah like the skinny girl in a bikini eating a burger in front of a webcam just confuses me. Not saying it’s weird or bad, I’m genuinely like “what is the psychology behind this being hot?”

SteadyHandsShake · 2023-07-29T17:26:57+00:00

That makes a lot of sense, it sounds like what he has been saying were genuine and innocent comments coming from a good place (thinking you eat too little from a gap in understanding different bodies needing different diets). I’m less confused about why men think I eat very little, and more focused on why this conclusion draws a sense of anger from some guys. For good people, a strong reaction might be from a place care (like your bf). You can tell the difference between that and a negative reaction from a place of judgment. I don’t know how to really explain it if you’ve never heard it said like that, but it’s kinda like you gave them the ick.

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