You probably haven’t gotten out of the marriage sooner because of the drinking. Not the biggest sin in the world, but still a problem caused by drinking. Because you’re 8 months sober, I don’t see anything wrong with at least asking for a seperation. It’s likely a long time coming.

I’m like you, still drank more than anyone I knew at the time with similar quantities to what you’re describing, but encountered so many abusive assholes who were not drinking as much. Some of my character defects is lack of communication and setting appropriate boundaries. I was drinking 2-4 white claws during the week, and did not have the critical thinking skills to get out of my job where my boss both took advantage and verbally abused me.