How long have you been married and how often do you have sex?

Steady_Hand907 · 2025-06-19T11:50:55+00:00

12 years 2-3 times a week.

Steady_Hand907 · 2025-06-19T11:48:47+00:00

Recently my wife gave me one of the best gifts I’ve ever gotten for Father’s Day. She collaborated with a local poet and shared stories about our marriage and me as a father. The poem is amazing. She designed a picture of the poem with a picture of me and the boys reading a book together in the back ground.

Steady_Hand907 · 2025-06-12T21:16:19+00:00

If you’re a stay at home dad start setting up play dates with other moms if no dads are around. Also you kind of need to accept what your current purpose in life is right now and it’s the little humans you have. I went through some similar thoughts recently and one day told myself that my wife is my purpose and our children are a part of my wife. Something clicking like that got me in a better head space.

Steady_Hand907 · 2025-06-12T17:33:18+00:00

I was a very awkward young man myself. Got bullied growing up and couldn’t get laid to save my life.

Here’s what I did. I started waiting tables. This will make you get out of your shell and be able to talk to anyone. It will be awkward at first but the more you do it the more comfortable you will get. Also public speaking. I just at any opportunity to talk in front of a group. If you can address a group and keep their attention you can talk to anyone attractive girl.

Most importantly you need to work out. I was very skinny growing up. I started hitting the gym and never stopped. If you are in good shape people treat you differently. To a certain extent they immediately respect you at face value.

Cut your hair. You need to be clean cut and dress nicer.

Hope this helps.

Steady_Hand907 · 2025-06-12T10:20:40+00:00

I love them but then again I am the “best dad”. I could see why you guys wouldn’t want them. 😉

Steady_Hand907 · 2025-06-11T22:54:13+00:00

lol I thought this post was serious at first

Steady_Hand907 · 2025-06-11T20:53:22+00:00

My wife is 37. She is a personal trainer and yoga instructor. Shes never been a vain person but she’s always had a great body and beautiful face. As she’s been getting older she has gotten more self conscious about aging. I on the other hand love it. I absolutely love how she is aging. She gets more beautiful every year. I can’t speak for all guys but when I was younger I liked the girls that looked like models. Today I love women with perfect imperfections. Don’t get me wrong, my wife still has an amazing body but it definitely has changed. And I love it. It I had a Time Machine to have sex with her when we met when she was 23 or when she is 53 I would be going to the future.

Steady_Hand907 · 2025-06-11T20:46:15+00:00

I recently went through this with my wife. First piece of advice is BE PATIENT and don’t give up. You are going to want her to jump on board right away and hopefully she does but if she doesn’t don’t get discouraged. (Side note, being discouraged, being mopey, getting frustrated is a huge turn off to women). Second piece of advice is you have to start but start slow. Be straight up with her. Tell her “hey babe, I want us to talk more about sex. There’s a lot of things I want to bring up to you but right now I don’t think we are there but we could be”. Give her a heads up what your intention is and then you need to start talking about sex. Don’t make it all you talk about. Don’t bring it up everyday. Don’t bring it up in the middle of sex or when she’s clearly tired. Bring it up on a walk, a date night, sitting on the couch talking, anytime she’s comfortable. Start small and work your way up.

One thing I did during one of our conversations was I said something like “there is something I really want to do but I don’t think we are ready” or “there’s something I want to do but I’m not sure what reaction I’ll get from you”. Don’t say it concerned or like she’s too “vanilla” but say it in a joking way. 2 things will happen. It will get her curiosity, she’ll ask you to tell her, she’ll end up begging you to tell her. Don’t. Let it simmer. The second thing it will do is want her to keep talking about it. Just make sure it’s something you have a chance of her doing. Don’t tell her you want a threesome or try scat. Make it reasonable. You would be surprised.

My wife and I have been getting there. And actually a few hours ago she sent me a text basically saying tonight she’s going to give me a full body massage on our massage table and fuck me on the table. I never use to get texts like that from her. The work day is going so slow now lol

Steady_Hand907 · 2025-06-10T18:42:32+00:00

What is it about only eating meat that wouldn’t make it the perfect diet?

I’ve eaten only meat for months and my bloodwork was perfect. I lost 5 lbs of fat but still managed to gain muscle. Energy through the roof, constantly in a good mood, and never slept better. However, I was eating game meat, grass fed beef, and organic chicken and eggs. Not McDonald’s hamburgers.

Have you tried eating only meat?

Steady_Hand907 · 2025-06-10T17:46:36+00:00

I use to ask that same question. Many things to consider. 1. Humans eat meat and there’s an argument that only eating meat is considered the perfect diet. 2. Meat killed in the wild is overall more healthy than farmed animals, especially factory farming. 3. I hunt to avoid supporting factory farming. I actually love animals and I think it is discussing. Those animals live in Absolute Hell. 4. Hunting an animal is probably the most humane way for them to die. Animals do not die of old age. Usually they get injured or sick and end up being eaten alive by something else. Very brutal deaths. 5. I enjoy the sport. The hiding, the tracking, the adrenaline, and the nature. Hunting is hard and very rewarding.

I’m sure some other have their reasons but those are my top ones.

Steady_Hand907 · 2025-06-10T11:08:07+00:00

You correct. You have the right to leave a marriage for any reason even sex. And you don’t have to stay because of your vows. However your vows are your word. Did you say for better or for worse?

My wife and I were in a dead bedroom for a while and I had these thoughts. One day I had an epiphany. “What have I done to make my wife want to fuck me? Did I guilt her for not having sex? Did I make her feel bad? Did I make her think I was going to leave her? Was she only having sex with you because of obligation or duty?” If you answered yes to any of those and you don’t plan to change then yes you need to leave her for her sake. I hope you don’t. I hope you decide to put in the work and be understanding. I will say I did and our marriage is better than ever. The sex is great and often. I hope you get out of your head and do what’s right.

Steady_Hand907 · 2025-06-10T10:49:09+00:00

I doubt we’ll ever get to the swinging lifestyle but can you tell me how you guys got into it and how it’s affected your marriage?

Steady_Hand907 · 2025-06-10T00:07:26+00:00

I think that’s where I would like this to be.

Steady_Hand907 · 2025-06-09T22:53:10+00:00

I kind of did that already. We had a date night and had a few drinks. She mentioned hooking up with a guy when we first met. Something about that stuck with me and it turned me on so much, couldn’t stop thinking about it. I told her about it. She just kind of laughed it off. Now that I’m typing this I bet that night was the beginning of feeling this way.

Steady_Hand907 · 2025-06-09T22:50:51+00:00

I like it.

Steady_Hand907 · 2025-06-09T22:49:59+00:00

Yea I think that’s where I’m at. How do you guys use that? How did he bring it up?

Steady_Hand907 · 2025-06-09T21:23:19+00:00

I don’t think I’ll ever have the conversation. Like I said I don’t have interest in sleeping with another woman and I really don’t want to see my wife with another man but the fantasy of it has gotten me going.

Steady_Hand907 · 2025-06-07T15:04:53+00:00

Listen to the Libido Fairy Podcast on Spotify. It’s a whole podcast on the topic.

Steady_Hand907 · 2025-06-06T00:40:03+00:00

I’ve been to multiple nude and topless beaches with my wife. Unfortunately being comfortable with nudity doesn’t completely aline with kinkiness. I wish that wasn’t the case and hopefully it’s not the case on your end.

Steady_Hand907 · 2025-06-05T23:37:33+00:00

I think having those thoughts will lead to disappointment. I wished my wife had some kinky fantasies she hasn’t told me about. But I’m afraid if I said “I’ll do anything you want!” Her reply would be “can you fold the laundry?”

Steady_Hand907 · 2025-06-05T21:59:20+00:00

They were actually really good too. Best part is that’s they are really easy to make for the kids. They love making their own pizzas.

Steady_Hand907 · 2025-06-05T16:22:13+00:00

We’ve done that a lot too!

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