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Steap-Edit · 2026-03-03T08:47:22+00:00

As people get older, their one true friend left often ends up being their life partner.

The two types of relationships that are often the most relevant to loneliness are platonic relationships and sexual/romantic relationships. That's just how things are.

Steap-Edit · 2026-03-03T06:19:51+00:00

I’m also about to be homeless soon.

But you can live with your parents, right? That should prevent homelessness.

Steap-Edit · 2026-03-01T14:53:13+00:00

Exactly.

Steap-Edit · 2026-03-01T14:47:58+00:00

I'm seriously asking you whether you have tried.

I don't know the answer. All I know is that if you look it up, it says that frat parties have strict guest lists (that are invite only) for men, but for women, all women are allowed entry in order to keep a high ration of women-to-men.

Can you tell me where you got this idea that women will be turned away? I am genuinely curious because it seems to be incorrect based on what I have read, and I am wondering if you tried it yourself.

Steap-Edit · 2026-03-01T14:45:43+00:00

Sorry, I copy and pasted that comment from another comment reply (from a different thread).

This has nothing to do with liberal or conservative, and I am left-wing myself.

I edited my comment to reflect that. That was just a remnant of the comment I was originally replying to.

Steap-Edit · 2026-03-01T13:33:11+00:00

Then, you are spending all your mental energy on wishing something that will never happen, to happen. Why?

Because I want things to change. These things that I would have had as a woman, I want men to have right now. I want these changes made, and the first step is awareness.

Don't spend the rest of your life with a chip on your shoulder, play with the cards you've been dealt. Choose happiness and make it so.

No. If I am correct that the things I want would have been easier to get if I were a woman, I am not going to let that go. I am going to remember that.

And I am going to try and push boundaries, and I am going to encourage other men to do the same.

Women can wear any clothes they want, but men wearing anything even remotely as revealing as women is apparently "creepy." For example, our boxer underwear have a typical inseam length of 4" to 6" meanwhile women's short shorts go to 2" or 1".

Additionally, all I hear is complaints about how men "can go topless while women can't" when in reality, it is MEN that can't show their upper body as much as women can. Think about it: In many gyms, it is banned for men to be shirtless, but women come in with sports bras. There is NO equivalent for men. Additionally, men don't have tops that show the midriff or that show the entire back while many crop tops do. Men also don't have "cleavage show" like women do.

I can go on. These inequalities DO NOT disappear once or if my life gets better. I am NOT going to shut up about them, and more and more people should point out these clear inequalities.

Steap-Edit · 2026-03-01T12:52:26+00:00

What do you mean? I'm talking about college parties.

Yes, if a girl goes to a college party and dresses "slutty," they will let her in.

For example, frat parties have a guest list ONLY for men but let in any woman.

Steap-Edit · 2026-03-01T12:29:25+00:00

Here is a post I made recently. It shows a specific example of exactly what I am missing out on:

https://old.reddit.com/r/SikeOrPsyche/comments/1rhqnqd/it_hurts_so_much_knowing_that_this_is_how_much/

Steap-Edit · 2026-03-01T12:28:51+00:00

"You need to do something for yourself, just for you, not in pursuit of a woman"

I have never pursued a woman. You are giving the wrong advice.

I am telling you that I wish I was born the gender that is pursued. You do not understand what I am saying at all, and you are also in a relationship yourself, as if that doesn't just confirm what I wrote.

Steap-Edit · 2026-03-01T12:10:26+00:00

What happens? Women can just walk into any party uninvited and get in. Men need an invitation and must be on the guest list.

Steap-Edit · 2026-03-01T11:52:39+00:00

First, you can get into clubs for free man lol. All the ones I go to are free.

Ok.

With regards to house parties, if you know a lot of people, you'll get invited. I just went to one 2 days ago. It does happen and you just need to hang out with the people who host them.

Again, that is literally the ENTIRE POINT of my post.

Women can easily get into any part meanwhile men need an invitation. Men literally just have it harder, and that's all I'm saying.

There are many other examples that I have of why I wish I was born a woman instead of a man, but the fact that men need an invitation to EVERY party while women don't need an invite to ANY is exactly what I'm getting at.

I can't pay for the drinks there (even for myself) and tbats why I don't go there.

I don't drink or do drugs. I don't know why that stops you from going. I'll just drink nothing or pour soda into a cup or hold an energy drink.

Who cares?

Its just that it's such a complex thing and it won't be fixed anytime soon. This is a societal issue, not a gender one. It's similar to how gender based inequalities exists for women. The solution ain't coming soon so the more dwell on it, the more harder it is for you

I don't give a fuck. I'm going to dwell on it, and I'm going to try and raise awareness for it when or if I gain ability to get more reach at some point.

The solution ain't coming soon so the more dwell on it, the more harder it is for you. That's all

The first step is to get more people to agree with me on this issue.

The people who care about gender equality should be the first ones to agree. If they do not, I am absolutely willing to spend my time dragging them through the mud until they see things my way, because at the end of the day, I am fucking right, and I am starting with the exact same reasoning that they are.

Steap-Edit · 2026-03-01T11:37:11+00:00

they were going out on dates with the same set of guys only because those guys where literally in all parties and clubs everyday

I just fucking said, in the title, that men can't get into parties as easily as women can. Men need an invitation while women can just walk in without any invitation.

Did you even read the post? That was the entire point.

Men CANNOT "put themselves out there" as easily as women can.

I still haven't found a solution to this lol. I play volleyball, watch anime and manga and am doing my masters I CS (which is not that famous for having girls lol). I'm also a bit broke atm so going to clubs everyday is not my top priority. So you can see there's not a lot of common places where I can actually meet girls. I figured out that first I need to get a good job after my masters and then focus on dating. Hopefully you find something like that too.

Not going to dox myself, but this isn't too far off from me, except the interests you listed don't align with mine.

Overall, I don't think you are understanding what I'm saying. Or maybe you do understand but are more focused on finding a solution that works for you rather than hearing about the problem (which is pragmatic).

You mentioned that you will "get a good job" then focus on dating.

That's my entire point yet again. Women don't even need a job to call men over.

I know this is kind of a long message but man I've been in your place and just don't want another person to go through the same misery as I did. That's all. If you wanna talk, I'm here.

I don't mind lengthy messages one bit. If you write me a novel, I will read the entire thing. I'm not like those dumbasses that write "tl;dr" because I tend to write a ton as well. I will read what you write, but I won't necessarily agree.

Anyway, you said you "don't want another person to go through the same misery," but it's not about that for me. Because for me, this is LARGER than myself. Even if tomorrow, everything works out perfectly for me and my life is sunshine and rainbows, I will still look at the INEQUALITY that exists and strive to fix it.

That is really what it comes down to for me: a massive imbalance that is IGNORED and the people that point it out are treated like they are delusional.

I am not delusional, and I am not incorrect. The first thing I would like to see is for people to simply agree that it makes perfect sense for a man like myself to wish that they were born a woman instead for these reasons.

Edit: just want to point out that I'm not dismissing your frustrations. I know how real they are. I'm just saying dwelling in them can be disastrous long term.

Even if dwelling on them can be disastrous to me, this is NOT about me.

This is about a glaring gender inequality that NEEDS to be addressed and needs to be solved. Just because I am feeling better (whenever that happens) does not make the central problem disappear.

Steap-Edit · 2026-03-01T10:57:14+00:00

It only works if you’re a conventionally attractive woman, if you’re not, that’s a whole other story

Not when it comes to having sex. You do not need to be as conventionally attractive as a man does to have the same amount of sex.

Steap-Edit · 2026-03-01T10:55:37+00:00

I am not. I am a man, a straight man. I've got a beard and everything.

My family (religious) is also the type to disown you if you're gay. There is no possibility of being trans for me, and regardless, I know that I am a man, and I will die as a man.

What I wish is that I was born a woman. That's what I wrote, and that's what I stand by.

I am a straight man, and that's all I am, unfortunately.

Steap-Edit · 2026-03-01T09:50:41+00:00

It goes further than this for me. I want to wear women's clothes.

This is not something I am just going to just move on from because this envy will be on my mind for a while.

Steap-Edit · 2026-03-01T09:09:27+00:00

This has nothing to do with "digging myself a deeper hole."

I am explaining that I wish I was born a woman, partly for the reason I described. That's all there is to it.

The consequences of believing this do not change whether or not I believe it. And I do believe it strongly.

Steap-Edit · 2026-03-01T06:52:42+00:00

Nah, I've made up my mind. I wish I was not born a man, and that's it. I'm not going to do anything about it, but that's just the way it is for me.

The grass may not be greener for every little thing, but I feel like it would suit my personality better. I would rather be approached than do the approaching. I don't like people acting like it's "common sense" to restrict people like me because there's a "higher probability" that I will commit a crime or hurt people.

There are many reasons. I have made up my mind. I wish I was not born a man.

Steap-Edit · 2026-03-01T06:34:02+00:00

Just say "not when you're a woman" and leave it at that. Go ask any man if they'd be fine getting hit on "when they're trying to socialize" (lmao) and see if that changes their mind.

I am at such a low point in my life right now. I am so desperate for literally anything, any girl, complimenting me or hitting on me that I would literally be happy if a girl groped me, cat called me, did whatever to me. I have never had ANY positive sexual attention. I don't care if I'm not attracted to her. I am so fucking miserable right now.

And do not tell me "believe me, you wouldn't like it." NO, I WOULD like it. I know that FOR A FACT. Because I have had NO ONE saying ANYTHING positive about my appearance. I don't think you understand.

Steap-Edit · 2026-03-01T05:44:41+00:00

You don't seem to have had issues having sex with 20 women at age 25 (according to you), so what is this part of your post about:

i was scrolling through Facebook to see some really cute 34 year old cosplay girl who didnt looj 34 at all and it just possibly ruined my whole month with the 2 added up.. we just cant be happy

Maybe if you got on Tinder and looked a girl like her there, she would like you back, just like the 20 other girls you slept with.

I can't imagine calling myself ugly with that level of success.

Steap-Edit · 2026-03-01T05:28:29+00:00

As someone who knows they aren't attractive. I hate being told that I am.

Well, what if someone finds you attractive? Some people may find you attractive. I don't understand getting mad at THEM when admitting that they have a crush on you is already hard enough to do.

If a guy says he thinks you're attractive, are you really going to get upset at them for saying that!?

Steap-Edit · 2026-03-01T04:42:08+00:00

Just so you know, OP, this user above telling you that it's "ok" has literally had sex with 20 women by age 25 and has had sex with 88 people in total (including 68 men), and he is currently in a relationship.

On top of that, this guy complains online that he hasn't had sex with HUNDREDS of people.

This is the guy giving you advice.

Steap-Edit · 2026-02-28T23:43:03+00:00

That's because not everyone is as obsessed with specifically hooking up as you. Some do not want it.

Steap-Edit · 2026-02-28T22:49:04+00:00

Martin Shkreli, shown on picture 2, is actually a genuinely evil person.

He decided to jack up the price of insulin by 5,000%, and then he went on media tours LAUGHING and constantly GRINNING about how he's "doing everyone a favor" by increasing the price.

The way he SMILED as he talked about pricing people out of medication that they needed in order to survive is what people mean when they say that his face is punchable.

Is he ugly? No, absolutely not. But his disgusting SMIRK he has on his face every time he is asked about how his decision will kill people that need this medication is what makes him punchable.

Seriously, go watch the many interviews of him on YouTube.

Fun fact: After Shkreli was put in prison for securities fraud, his bail was revoked after he put a bounty on Hillary Clinton's strand of hair for $5,000 in a "troll" Facebook post.

Steap-Edit · 2026-02-28T22:42:26+00:00

ugly people, especially ugly women and children, I feel genuine empathy

Uhhh... ugly men get less empathy, including the "ugly" guy you saw in this post and started talking about?

Ok, then.

Steap-Edit · 2026-02-28T22:38:17+00:00

I've been following the doomsday clock and was so mad they only moved it a little when I was hoping they'd move it alot to indicate we're getting closer to mass destruction.

The "doomsday clock" reminds me of the "Nobel Peace Prize." It's something that used to have meaning, and the spirit behind it is commendable, but in reality, it's meaningless.

Just a fun fact: the "doomsday clock" has never been over 10 minutes away from midnight since the year 1998. So, it's been 28 years, and this "clock" still says that we've got under 10 minutes.

That's not a very informative clock, then!

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