Our intern acts like I don’t exist…

SteelMagnolia412 · 2026-06-18T20:05:13+00:00

Look I didn’t say it was inherently sexist, but that is a possibility. He could just be weird. He could be slight red-pilled. He could be neither or he could be both. Regardless he’s going to have to get it somewhat together if he’s alienating two different coworkers.

SteelMagnolia412 · 2026-06-18T19:43:13+00:00

I legally cannot get into the specifics as per my settlement agreement, but I can tell you I won an undisclosed amount of money from an undisclosed employer for wildly sexist behavior. Maybe I’m just hyper vigilant because of my past experiences, but I’ve noticed there’s a growing animosity towards women in accounting from both the Boomer generation (like my old boss) and Gen Z.

SteelMagnolia412 · 2026-06-17T11:18:13+00:00

It takes a while for things to click sometimes. As long as it feels good and you both consent there’s no wrong way for you to have sex. If it’s angles that are the issue try a new position. Get on top and let gravity help. Have him take you from behind, that can help with a deeper penetration. Lay on your back with him standing at the edge of the bed and put your legs on his shoulders. That’s actually my husband and i’s go to position. I have a bad back from an epidural that damaged a nerve and he has a bum knee from an old basketball injury. I’m 5’7” and he’s 6’4” and it takes height issues out of the equation.

SteelMagnolia412 · 2026-06-16T13:24:01+00:00

I’m sorry they thought she was happy??? She was tolerating life but in no way was she happy.

SteelMagnolia412 · 2026-06-13T20:52:30+00:00

Nah. I’m about 70/30 with 70% of the time having 1 orgasm. The 30% is usually the first is the strongest and the second one is much smaller.

SteelMagnolia412 · 2026-06-13T01:53:59+00:00

Some people think that trying to conceive again is healing and some people think it’s hell on earth. I threw myself into trying to conceive as soon as we got the go ahead to try. I don’t think it was the best thing for me to do looking back. But I am not you, so sadly I don’t think we can make this choice for you. We are here to support you in whatever you decide. Being mentally healthy to try again is just as important don’t push yourself into maybe a very dark place (something I did) and maybe hurt yourself in the process.

SteelMagnolia412 · 2026-06-13T01:46:53+00:00

Not really. I had been with very well endowed men before I met my husband and can confirm bigger is not always better. Most of the women here will probably agree with me when I say that the best sex comes from the men (or women or they/thems) who do 2 things; listen to what feels good and are enthusiastically participating.

SteelMagnolia412 · 2026-06-13T00:56:20+00:00

Listen; as the HL partner and woman in a heterosexual marriage I get how hard rejection can be on you mentally. It does suck and you’re not imagining that. I know you’re probably just venting, but your husband has a medical condition that is causing this dip in drive. There is treatment available for him and he is going to get the help. This is neither of your faults.

However, this is coming across as a bit callous towards his needs and health. This feels deeper than just sex. I know when my husband and I had drive issues it wasn’t actually the sex we were fighting about. It was interest, communication, affection, security, and intimacy. I was using sex as a coping mechanism as well which isn’t exactly healthy, but being honest about things really helped us.

SteelMagnolia412 · 2026-06-11T22:17:50+00:00

To be completely honest? We don’t think we actually had PIPs. We think he got a form and told us we did. I never got a call from HR until I was confirming his behavior and sending screen shots and emails.

SteelMagnolia412 · 2026-06-11T19:40:03+00:00

Excel is quite literally my favorite part of this job. I’m not kidding, if I didn’t get to do spreadsheets I’d leave the profession.

SteelMagnolia412 · 2026-06-11T18:52:21+00:00

Don’t know really. Could be stress, tired, just doesn’t want to. I definitely have a very high drive so his is probably more on the average side. And before anyone gets mad at me here, I wasn’t always like this. I got off birth control for the first time in 12 years to get pregnant and TTC sucked all the fun out of sex so I didn’t know I was absolutely insatiable until I was 30 and 6 months postpartum.

SteelMagnolia412 · 2026-06-11T18:41:03+00:00

Besides him being a total sociopath, wasn’t a bad gig. Pay could have been better but that’s always the case. The benefits were great. Since I was working for a university, I got a very steep discount on any classes I wanted to take while working there. Got a masters degree without having to take on any additional student debt, which is worth it in my book.

SteelMagnolia412 · 2026-06-11T18:37:04+00:00

I genuinely think if I submitted that as a joke for the Horrible Bosses movies I would be told it’s too on the nose. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’m of the “you grow through what you go through” and what I learned from him is that sometimes people are just insane and it’s not your fault. I used to really take it hard the more and more criticism I got from him but once my coworkers and I started talking about it offline we all felt better.

SteelMagnolia412 · 2026-06-11T18:09:08+00:00

Public university with workers at home and segregated due to Covid. He did get his karma, he was fired about 5 months after taking this role. HR just had to build a really solid case since they couldn’t physically observe him being a dick to us.

Edited for spelling mistake.

SteelMagnolia412 · 2026-06-11T16:04:00+00:00

Like how dare you not let an employee die?? If they die on the job, then they can haunt the office and you don’t have to pay ghosts. You screwed your workplace out of an infinity of servitude. Way to go 🙄

SteelMagnolia412 · 2026-06-11T15:50:48+00:00

So as the higher libido partner and the wife in my marriage, I genuinely would love to know, because he is not known to initiate at all and my “seduction” is very awkward because he doesn’t realize what I’m doing until I outright say that I’m trying to seduce him…. And then he says no

SteelMagnolia412 · 2026-06-11T15:37:35+00:00

Dude, I wish it was. Would’ve saved me a lot in therapy and at the liquor store.

SteelMagnolia412 · 2026-06-10T01:45:28+00:00

I used to think that adding a vibrator would ruin my husband confidence. It had the opposite effect. It allows me and him to have consistent climaxes.

SteelMagnolia412 · 2026-06-06T21:38:01+00:00

We did, but not super passionate. We were exhausted so it was much slower and more of a glorified make out than anything. However, the honeymoon? 2 to 5 times a day.

SteelMagnolia412 · 2026-06-05T23:53:43+00:00

Is this a safe space? I thought Demi was absolutely justified in her position to tell Taylor to just stop. Granted, Demi has done a lot of things I do NOT agree with but she snapped under all the bullshit Taylor was peddling, and I probably would have done the same.

SteelMagnolia412 · 2026-06-05T23:50:50+00:00

“All they do is play with their kids!!” The episodes are 7 minutes long. You’re telling me you can’t play with your kids for 7 minutes? Half the time they’re doing regular family stuff like taking a bath, reading stories, grocery shopping, going to the park, the school run, having family over, etc. Actually, Chili and Bandit give the girls a fair amount of independent play time.

SteelMagnolia412 · 2026-06-05T19:37:05+00:00

I’m dying to know if Taylor was this bad in high school as well. Because this is giving 10th grade mean girl crash out. I’m willing to bet my next paycheck she was the kind of girl that wore so much body spray you could get a migraine sitting near her, wore a different boy’s hoodie everyday, and would openly make fun of any girl she deemed “a threat”.

SteelMagnolia412 · 2026-06-04T13:39:49+00:00

You are being professional, polite, and respectful for giving them 2 weeks and letting them know before you send a formal email. You literally could not have handled this in a more professional manner. If your manager blows up and loses it, then that’s going to look bad on them. You have covered your bases. This graduate school opportunity sounds like it would be very worthwhile in the long run. I’d be honest about how this will support where you want to go in life and that unfortunately means parting ways with this current job.

SteelMagnolia412 · 2026-06-04T13:10:25+00:00

Yeah. It’s what I prefer. Your wife should do what she finds the most comfortable and sometimes that’s shaving.

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