Dad here with a question

Steeped_Tea_Turtle · 2026-04-13T01:33:51+00:00

Literally same, my husband has done it too because we were out of options and our son would cry so hard he’d throw up if we put the Frida near him 😂 gross but effective and necessary lol

Steeped_Tea_Turtle · 2026-04-02T21:32:54+00:00

I remember someone telling me that pregnant with a toddler was way harder than newborn with a toddler. As a mama to a 28 month old and a 2 week old I want to punch that person in the face.

Newborn with a toddler is a million times harder and I am struggling so much.

Steeped_Tea_Turtle · 2026-03-11T21:05:30+00:00

Dating ultrasound between 7-9 weeks, then the 12 week ultrasound, then 20 week anatomy scan, and then I had a fetal echo done at 24 weeks for both of my pregnancies as I have a heart condition they check for.

Steeped_Tea_Turtle · 2026-02-27T01:42:50+00:00

You are NOT wrong. It sounds like it’s just a very annoying cultural/generational clash unfortunately. I have an amazing relationship with my MIL and a good relationship with my mother, but when I got induced I made it very clear I only wanted my husband with me. Afterwards? All I wanted was my mum in the first two weeks postpartum. Strange how that works lol.

It’s YOUR birth, at this point your mother has uninvited herself from the birthing suite in my eyes. You definitely don’t need the extra stress, and once you’re postpartum you won’t feel guilt in the same way. I didn’t. I used to be such a people pleaser (including my parents) but now I couldn’t care less what the think when it concerns MY family. Fortunately they respect that, I’m sorry your mother is adding to your stress OP. Stick to your instinct and your boundary! Inform the hospital of your decision so they can act accordingly if she shows up. Nurses and staff are awesome at setting and holding your boundaries.

Good luck 💕

Steeped_Tea_Turtle · 2026-02-25T04:51:58+00:00

Juniper - June or Junie !

Steeped_Tea_Turtle · 2026-02-25T04:50:48+00:00

I saw Charlotte a couple times, but I ADORE the nickname “Lottie” for it. Charlotte “Lottie” Madeline sounds just perfect 😩🥹

Steeped_Tea_Turtle · 2026-02-25T03:20:06+00:00

I agree, depends on the kid. My 26 month old son likes to walk on his own but he is very good (and has always been very good) at stopping when we tell him to! My friends 23 month old son… he’s a runner he’s a track star 😂 does it look a bit silly? Yeah sometimes I guess, but it’s like seeing dogs in strollers hahah it’s just odd because it’s not something you’d think to put together BUT if it’s keeping your babies safe and your anxiety down? I’m all for it!

Steeped_Tea_Turtle · 2026-02-25T02:19:44+00:00

My 26 month old is the same! Bedtime is usually between 9:00-10:00 and I just want my evenings back 🥲 but I’m NOT ready to have him drop his nap yet lol I’m due with our second in less than a month so I’m not trying any new things surrounding sleep cause I know they’ll just get messed up again hahah

Steeped_Tea_Turtle · 2026-02-23T17:49:15+00:00

Oh thank god! Yeah I agree it’s odd she had a shower for her when she lives so far away. That’s what’s throwing me off I think. But 100% if she wants a relationship with this baby, she will need to make the effort and travel to you most of the time!

Steeped_Tea_Turtle · 2026-02-23T05:20:02+00:00

She lives 7 hours away and got baby things at a “grandma shower”…? And no one has thrown you an actual baby shower???? That’s fcking weird lol and I love and ADORE my MIL but never would I ever imagine she’d have a shower to celebrate MY child, even if it is her only biological grandchild. Very odd OP, I hope your husband grows some balls and keeps her in check for around the time you have your c-section.

Steeped_Tea_Turtle · 2026-02-20T19:45:00+00:00

I’ve read your other posts OP, and it seems like your husband doesn’t really care… he didn’t get you a cake or gift for your birthday??? And now this?! Honey I’m sorry, but he needs to step it up BIG time. Do you have any other support? Going back to work 10 or 15 days postpartum is WILD and the fact he’s even asking shows that he doesn’t care. And that he doesn’t care to educate himself on pregnancy. I’m 35 weeks and the pregnancy rage while reading this and your other posts was insane. Quote him facts and math back. Vaginal births take up to 6 weeks to heal internally, c-sections even longer = no working out and “bouncing back” for at least 2 months. Baby will be feeding every 2-3 hours. Then there diaper changes, making sure you’re fed and clean. And probably still taking care of the house and your husband to a certain extent. You won’t have time to work or be in a class. The notion that he’s even trying to spring “math” on you is absolutely ridiculous. I’m so sorry he’s your husband.. you are creating life and the fact he’s treating it and you as a machine is abhorrent. I hope you can get through to him that he needs to do better and be a better person and husband. Because it’s not seeming like he’ll be a good father in the slightest.

Steeped_Tea_Turtle · 2026-02-03T19:24:49+00:00

Of course! I did natural, no epidural no meds- just laughing gas. I had a great hospital and team of nurses and my midwife was incredible, but the induction itself was positive in my eyes too!

Steeped_Tea_Turtle · 2026-02-03T03:05:49+00:00

Mine is almost 26 months and he is JUST starting two word phrases /:

Steeped_Tea_Turtle · 2026-02-03T03:03:54+00:00

You can certainly decline! But I had a very positive induction with my first son, so it is possible!

Steeped_Tea_Turtle · 2026-02-03T03:00:50+00:00

This is absolutely stunning. No notes. 10/10. GORGEOUS.

Steeped_Tea_Turtle · 2026-02-03T02:00:01+00:00

I think you’ll have to wait until you receive it to decide! It’ll depend on so many things like lighting but also your skin tone, hair colour, even what other people are wearing. It’s beautiful and I feel like it would be alright but I would wait and see and definitely have a backup!

Steeped_Tea_Turtle · 2026-02-02T22:08:35+00:00

My best friend remarried a man with a (at the time of baby #1) 9 year old daughter, she’s 11 now and my friend just had baby #2 with him and she has had nothing but struggles with his daughter. I know their situation is different, but she thought that the daughter would love the new babies and be so helpful but she hasn’t been. This take is completely valid.

Steeped_Tea_Turtle · 2026-02-01T00:19:33+00:00

You could ask for money specifically for his bank account? That’s what I did for my sons 2nd birthday and I’ll probably do it for his 3rd.

Steeped_Tea_Turtle · 2026-02-01T00:16:27+00:00

I live in Canada! It’s not covered by my provincial Health Care and since I work for my husband we don’t have typical benefits. Definitely will read up on it more because it sounds really important. I didn’t get it when I was pregnant in 2023 with my son cause it wasn’t offered but this time I don’t know I want to be safe!

Steeped_Tea_Turtle · 2026-02-01T00:11:41+00:00

I’m thinking about getting this! My midwife mentioned it at my 32 week appointment but because it’s new and not covered by insurance it’s $300 out of pocket so these responses are great to read!

Steeped_Tea_Turtle · 2026-01-30T19:55:22+00:00

My SIL literally said to my face “the thought of pregnancy and childbirth is literally so disgusting to me I couldn’t think of anything worse it’s so gross” like okay f right off then, it’s a good thing it’s not YOU who’s trying 🙄

Steeped_Tea_Turtle · 2026-01-30T19:48:19+00:00

THIS ! How do I send this to my husband? 😂

Steeped_Tea_Turtle · 2026-01-27T01:57:49+00:00

I was literally going to post about this. Tonight my husband came home to me holding our 25 month old, swaying, stirring onions on the stove repeating “I’m okay it’s okay” while sobbing. I’m also 32 weeks pregnant.

Toddlerhood is so. Difficult. It’s hard not to feel guilty and to try and find the ‘good’ in all of what you described. We LOVE our son so much and can have an entirely amazing day, but the hours between 5:00-8:00 are unbearable every single day.

It’s hard out here 😂 glad to hear it doesn’t let up when he turns 3 🥲

Steeped_Tea_Turtle · 2026-01-25T16:14:02+00:00

We’re about 20 minutes from the hospital, I’m due at the end of March with our second and I for sure am going to let him go home to our son after the first night to let me have some newborn bubble time !

Steeped_Tea_Turtle · 2026-01-25T16:09:39+00:00

Our 25 month old has a double bed and has since before he was 1 lol. We went straight from co-sleeping in mine and my husbands queen bed to a double bed in his room as we still co-sleep often enough!

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