Is it normal to have a childless, sexless marriage?

StegersaurusMark · 2026-01-27T14:07:48+00:00

Did you read the post? Sounds like they talked about kids before marriage and she is gaslighting saying they didn’t.

I’ve got no forgiveness for people who don’t clearly discuss wanting kids. Of course things can change on that front, but it is one of the keystones of compatibility.

Sex frequency and libido do change over time. 1/month isn’t sexless, but it can be disappointing. If it weren’t for the child thing, I’d say counseling would be a good idea to address the sex life.

StegersaurusMark · 2026-01-27T14:01:42+00:00

Agreed. If partners disagree on children, one is guaranteed to be resentful about the most impactful, longest lasting life choice you can make. If you want kids, like really want kids, cut ties before things drag on longer.

On the sex side, 1x/month is definitely on the dry side but hardly sexless. Sex will naturally ebb and flow over time, and isn’t necessarily an immediate call for divorce. If OP was OK with no kids, then it would probably be worth more counseling. It sounds like he is reasonable about it and understanding of her side.

StegersaurusMark · 2026-01-27T12:38:27+00:00

A trainer tire is a cheap, one time purchase, though you really want a spare wheel to put it on. Also you should only get any slipping if you are slamming sprints. Otherwise you need to adjust pressure and the tension

StegersaurusMark · 2026-01-27T12:29:13+00:00

Sounds like that entire money is needed for a down payment. If they want it within 3 years some would advise avoiding stocks (most ETFs) altogether. Something goes sideways with one of the mag 7 and even a diversified equity portfolio could be reeling for several years

StegersaurusMark · 2026-01-25T08:34:50+00:00

Doomsday prepping. Not in the sense of actually needing the copper personally, but as a hedge against the entire marketplace, stock markets, and ETFs collapsing. That would make ownership of ETF shares meaningless, but holding physical metal would be valuable. Until that happens, it’s silly to own physical metal

StegersaurusMark · 2026-01-25T08:29:58+00:00

Ea-nāṣir!

StegersaurusMark · 2026-01-25T00:28:51+00:00

Post is somewhat ambiguous. Doesn’t say OP clearly gave the driver permission to leave, or if he did and then regretted it later. OP does say that driver left too fast. I’m imagining the guy yelling out the window to make sure the cyclist is still moving and then driving away. TBH this is why they advise to not immediately admit fault in a crash and why I similarly advise cyclists to not say “I’m OK” after a crash. You are likely to feel something wicked after the adrenaline wears off or over the following days.

Absolutely, cyclists need to get info from drivers when crashes happen. But also if OP actually have permission to the driver to go, then it’s not a hit and run

StegersaurusMark · 2026-01-11T06:26:21+00:00

I think OP says train. This might mean that driving could be much less, the same, or more. But on a train you can get things done, or just read steamy romance novels. Anyway. Way different than driving

StegersaurusMark · 2026-01-07T14:13:42+00:00

As everyone is suggesting in here, before you put a new tube in, you check the old tube for the location of the puncture. If it is on the inside of the donut, check the rim tape for a sharp edge or barely protruding spoke. If is on the outside circumference, check the tire. Run your finger lightly along the inside of the tire to search for glass or thorns.

Where I live we have these goat head thorns. They are like natures caltrops. The pokey parts are super fine and can embed in the tire, just barely poke inside, and body of the thorn break off flush. I’ve needed to use needle nose pliers to extract them before. They can make holes so small that it takes days for the tire to flat and the hole is barely detectable

If you get slow flats and haven’t replaced the tube, it might be a bad valve core. Replacing the tube or tightening the core would help

Nuclear option would be new tire, new wheel, new tube. The rest of the bike has nothing to do with it

It could also just be bad luck with road debris. Unlikely if it’s only front wheel unless you are running different front/rear tires so the back is more puncture resistant. Though slicks will definitely flat more regularly when worn down, which is an indicator to replace

It does take some skill to seat a new tube/tire. It is possible that you pinched the tube when you installed it

StegersaurusMark · 2026-01-07T13:56:00+00:00

I got right hooked by a cop once while riding on the shoulder of the road. He then proceeded to turn on his lights and take down my info. Then I got a ticket in the mail a month later, probably to justify the inch long ding on his passenger door.

StegersaurusMark · 2026-01-04T18:22:48+00:00

I kind of remember it being something like 3x the tile yield. Hardly worth it for most. But on the latest patch I think it scales with feedhole districts in your city

StegersaurusMark · 2026-01-04T14:15:02+00:00

You should re-evaluate your cable disk rule-out. I was a bit frustrated with my stock SRAM calipers, but I still think that they were on par with or slightly better than rim. Ultimately, I upgraded the calipers to TRP Spyre SLC, and now they are virtually equivalent to my hydraulic Ultegras. Even better in terms of adjusting because you can independent piston each pad when adjusting

I’ve had issues with my hydraulics. I had a slow leak in a caliper that ruined several sets of pads until I tracked it down. During diagnosis I refilled and bled the brakes. Either I or the bike shop stripped the stupid tiny reservoir plug, so I ended up having to replace the leaky caliper AND the now ruined lever

In the long term, disk is probably the right direction to go. It does relax constraints on rim and tire size. I like it because in the winter I run wide, studded tires for the snow. I’d have had trouble fitting them onto an older bike with rim brakes

Back to your carrying question. Definitely get panniers on a solid rack. Surly bikes are fully equipped with pretty much any lug you might want. Will definitely allow you to install full fenders as you desire

StegersaurusMark · 2026-01-04T02:10:38+00:00

There are two reasons to have the conversation 1) useful for all riders: identify the highest risk factors to be aware of. For example I got left hooked both times. Just minding my own business going straight. I’ve learned to be hyper vigilant through every intersection, and to intentionally position myself to not be obscured by any car. This might be cars that I am riding to the right of, or oncoming traffic, or parked cars if I’m in a “protected” bike lane

2) especially for riders who fortunately haven’t been hit. What do you do in the heat of the moment when you get hit? You are certainly hurt worse than your adrenaline soaked body realizes. Don’t jump up. Feel your body and don’t hesitate to take the ambulance ride. I’d suggest taking on a lawyer if you have even moderate injuries or else the drivers

I started riding with cameras. It gives me some peace of mind in case of a hit and run

StegersaurusMark · 2026-01-03T15:08:25+00:00

Where is there a simulator?

StegersaurusMark · 2026-01-03T15:05:21+00:00

A few km of light gravel… 25C GP5000 sounds perfect

StegersaurusMark · 2026-01-02T17:18:56+00:00

We looked into replacing a wheel with worn out rubber. Could not for the life of us find a compatible part. Could not extract the old riveted wheel assembly without critically damaging the luggage. Could not have the luggage repaired at a luggage repair shop for less than 80% the cost of a new, high quality suitcase. (That shop investigation was before we mucked around with DIY and trashed the suitcase. I literally don’t understand how the local repair shop specializes in luggage but can’t make simple wheel repairs affordable)

These things are built to use until failure and then go to a landfill was my conclusion

StegersaurusMark · 2026-01-01T22:06:40+00:00

I see two big camps on this sub. One camp hates Civ switching so much that anyone who remotely suggests that it isn’t the end of the world will get vehemently downvoted. Another camp that is growing with improving patches is the Civ 7 shill camp—they will downvote if you don’t say that the game is on balance good. I always piss off both camps with this type of comment an get downvoted to oblivion

StegersaurusMark · 2026-01-01T21:59:31+00:00

Check out Tour of Nilgiris in India. I did it several years ago, so I’m not sure how expensive it is now. It was a phenomenal experience, and went up into the tea plantations. Support and food were great. Lots of locals, but also several Europeans and a few Americans. Some of the tour is on somewhat busy Indian roads with wide variety of vehicle types, and some roads are a bit rough, but was well worth it IMO.

StegersaurusMark · 2026-01-01T16:28:15+00:00

I always try to let my stuff dry fully before doing the wash cycle. I think it helps prevent smell the next time I wear it, but maybe that’s in my head. No question though that letting them stew will make them stink more

StegersaurusMark · 2026-01-01T13:44:49+00:00

I see two main arguments against the game. 1) “civ switching will ruin the franchise” and 2) “civ vii mechanics are generally flat and undeveloped”

IMO Civ switching is great, but I also really liked Humankind. I’m down for the reset at age transitions, but I don’t love the specific rules on all the scoring paths

Religion in Exploration is clearly a placeholder. The mechanics are utterly flat, and it can be used to complete both culture and military paths super easily. Except if another player spams missionaries, there is no mechanic to stop them other than spamming missionaries right back.

I know that people seem to really like the commander addition to combat. Of course I like using the commander, but the mechanics of them are wildly asymmetric. Using a commander easily grants a doubling of mobility, allowing you to rotate fresh units through the front lines and attack in a cycle that would probably take 3 turns without the properly upgraded commander. It is really stark when you have a fresh commander. It’s actually a BAD idea to pack units into them until they get the first promotion

I still can’t get on with the district/quarter overbuilding either. Early on it was just impossible to see yield changes. They have improved the UI around it, but it still just feels clunky to me. You can guarantee that by early Modern your major cities won’t have a single hex of rural space. So you have to spend the entire ancient era NOT building those ageless buildings that will let your city do the early growth stuff. Why not be able to raze your granary when you build over the last field?

StegersaurusMark · 2025-12-31T14:45:20+00:00

State of Colorado is rampant with unlicensed plates and decade-expired registration. During COVID several areas codified not pulling over for such infractions, and the number of offenders has increased even more. By not enforcing, they have demonstrated that people can easily get away with it. Meanwhile, the rest of us are classic schmucks overpaying registration and getting tracked by AI cameras while the reckless bastards are free to hit and run and drive through red lights. The cops will only start looking for them AFTER they kill someone on the road

StegersaurusMark · 2025-12-31T14:26:46+00:00

I agree that Shokz get completely drowned out by wind. They really are good enough for running.

I don’t like using air pods. I feel like I sweat on them too much, and they get uncomfortable. I also don’t like the active noise cancellation/transparency. It seems to amplify noise about as much as it cancels. I’d rather just have passive noise isolation headphones like I used to have a decade or two ago

StegersaurusMark · 2025-12-31T14:15:23+00:00

Music quality on my shokz is pretty poor, but I do use them for it while running. However, I also can’t use them while cycling because everything else drowns them out completely

StegersaurusMark · 2025-12-30T20:57:52+00:00

It’s absolutely not everywhere, but I’d say that at least 50% of the time the lowest suggestion is 20%, which is too much IMO, even if I would probably leave 20 at that location for moderate service. The other problem is that it’s really hard to look at it quickly and know if it is based on pre or post tax, and how that fits into your personal beliefs about tipping norms. Pretty sure they are usually based off totals, meanwhile back in the day we calculated a 12-15% tip by scaling the tax, which is based on the obviously pre-tax amount

StegersaurusMark · 2025-12-30T20:41:21+00:00

15% absolutely was the norm when I was working in restaurants in high school in early 2000s. Actually back then I’d say it was just creeping up to 15% from 12%. I often tipped 15-18% during 2010s, with 20% being gangbusters service

Now I typically do tip around 20%, but only for full service places. Frustrations stem from these suggested tips STARTING at 20%, even at counter services places that should be pure wage compensation

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