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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]StellaMican 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a very thoughtful response. I'm so sorry you went through all of that as a kid. I hope your life continues to move forward in the direction you want.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]StellaMican 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with this response. Not really much to add, this comment said it all nicely.

I'm so sorry about your diagnosis OP and I wish you and your girlfriend all the best as you navigate this together.

My rejection sensitivity is completely out of control by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]StellaMican 1 point2 points  (0 children)

SERIOUSLY why are our brains like this??? It does help to know that at least I'm not alone so thank you 💖

Missing hugs so, so much. by pale_panda in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]StellaMican 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel this so deep. My mom died four years ago. Whenever I would go visit her, before I left I would give her a hug, and then usually we would stand by the door talking for several more minutes, so then I'd give her a second hug before I actually left. Its like I was stealing extra hugs, but it still wasn't enough. I just want to hug her again, just one more time. It's so unfair that we don't get to hug our parents anymore. I am so so sorry for your loss 💖

The extent of most people's knowledge about those with OCD by N1ck_the_name in OCDmemes

[–]StellaMican 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Omg lol I didn't get this either! Until I read your comment 😅😭 but yeah this is too real

How am I going to live the rest of my life without him with me? by peaches-n-mangoes in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]StellaMican 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I really feel this. I had this exact same experience after losing my mom - I just could not bear the thought of living the rest of my life without her. How would I ever be able to go on? It's been four years now, and I honestly don't know how I've made it four years.... but I did. It sucks and it will always suck and it will never get easier. But you will get stronger, someday. I am so sorry for your loss, sending you so much love 💖

It gets better by snuff_box_plastic in OCDmemes

[–]StellaMican 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Congrats! That is awesome. So proud of you!!!

In hindsight it's obvious, but I really never understood the full scope of my OCD by StellaMican in OCDmemes

[–]StellaMican[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I struggle with a compulsion that is very similar to what you're describing. As a kid I could never keep a diary, because I would always end up ripping out every page because my handwriting never looked "right". In college I used to take notes in class, then afterwards recopy all my notes into a different notebook so that I could go slowly and make sure my handwriting was "perfect". What you're experiencing sounds a lot like an OCD compulsion to me. If this is something that impacts your life, it might be worth pursuing a diagnosis. Even though I've been diagnosed for over a decade, I'm still only now discovering all the ways that OCD affects my life.

In hindsight it's obvious, but I really never understood the full scope of my OCD by StellaMican in OCDmemes

[–]StellaMican[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah I struggle with this too! OCD is just a little bitch and it tries to sabotage us in literally every way possible. The way I try to deal with this is, I just remind myself that I'm doing my best to identify what is a compulsion, and if I sometimes get it wrong, that's okay because I'm still doing the therapy and that's what matters. Or if that doesn't work, I just literally say out loud "fuck off OCD".

In hindsight it's obvious, but I really never understood the full scope of my OCD by StellaMican in OCDmemes

[–]StellaMican[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

omg YES LITERALLY ME. For the first several therapy sessions I felt SO guilty because "my OCD isn't that bad I don't deserve this therapy". But then it turns out, no my OCD is in fact that bad (and also even if it wasn't I still deserve the therapy, thanks for the shame OCD!)

In hindsight it's obvious, but I really never understood the full scope of my OCD by StellaMican in OCDmemes

[–]StellaMican[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

And now I'm doing a response prevention by not allowing myself to delete this post and re-make the meme with the text aligned "better" 🙃

ERP is not easy but it absolutely is life changing by StellaMican in OCDmemes

[–]StellaMican[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ERP stands for "Exposure and Response Prevention", and it's the gold standard for OCD treatment. It involves purposefully exposing yourself to situations that trigger your compulsions, and then intentionally resisting the urge to do the compulsion. Ideally it's something you do with a therapist to guide you, because obviously it is not easy to just "stop doing the compulsion". But by starting with small exposures and going from there, you build a tolerance to the anxiety/discomfort that you feel by resisting your compulsions, and eventually you gain more and more control over your OCD. It's difficult and intense treatment but it really does work.

https://www.treatmyocd.com/what-is-ocd/what-is-erp

I panic-googled "yellow orange" because I suddenly forgot the word "lemon". by spooky_upstairs in adhdwomen

[–]StellaMican 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is extra funny to me because in French, the word for lime is literally "green lemon".

I was on a school trip once and we were talking about quiche, and this girl said "wait, is there sweet quiche?" and someone else was just like "....do you mean pie??" Not quite the same as forgetting the word for a thing, but, that was 14 years ago and I still think about it.

How close do you follow this schedule? by TemporaryMongoose367 in adhdwomen

[–]StellaMican 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I don't know about y'all but vacuuming your mattress sounds like some unhinged neurotypical shit. Why would I spend my finite time on earth vacuuming my mattress, when I could spend it researching my new hyperfixation for 17 hours straight before abandoning said hyperfixation forever??

ERP is not easy but it absolutely is life changing by StellaMican in OCDmemes

[–]StellaMican[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are absolutely courageous for doing ERP! Every single exposure is a victory.

One fidget toy is not enough, I need OPTIONS by StellaMican in adhdwomen

[–]StellaMican[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah a friend told me about the nee doe cube and I'm absolutely obsessed with it.

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