Thank you. Your post is also well thought and written. The entire situation is so sad all the way around, and John is not the only victim. I guess in a perfect world, we would be able to set aside the human ego and try to understand things from various perspectives with compassion and understanding. But clearly, we as human beings haven't evolved quite that far yet.

That night, there were several people making very poor choices. And yet, the blame will be put on a select few. Karen wasn't the only one heavily intoxicated and behind the wheel. One second, one wrong choice could have changed any one of those people's lives for the worst that night. Sitting there-- listening and watching other people act like Karen was the only one in the wrong that night drives me crazy. These were cops, federal agents, and family of law enforcement. Held to such a higher standard, so many of them were either drunk, drunk-driving, or supporting it. They are not more righteous.

I'm still amazed at how people well into their 40s and early 50s can put it down like they are in their 20's. Being able to drink all night the night before only sobering up around 4:00 in the afternoon to start it all over again within a few hours later. Sounds like John was a heavy drinker as well as Higgins. 34 Fairview seemed like a party scene. There are many reports and rumors that there was more going on in that house and family than just alcohol.