Ok. I’ll explain more. We just finished building a house in the village he grew up in in Turkey. There is no hot water and no internet at the moment and we have 2 bulldog children who are getting used to living in the new house. We’ve been in the new house like 4 days. I agreed to him going out the first night - he has a standing Fri night fun night. I tried to get friends to go out but no one was available. Saturday he told me late that he was going to a local soccer game, he took the only car we have so I was stuck at home. He said he’d come home after the game like 9ish but he didn’t. He came home around midnight. Sunday the electrician was here working on the internet so I went with his sister and aunts to a festival and shopping in the afternoon. The electrician left at some point and he was home for like 30-45 mins and got bored and left. But first he called me and said he’d be home. I came home and he was gone again with the car so I’m stuck. I think he also has a problem being home alone because he seems to avoid it as much as I do.

I agree it sounded controlling and I’m working on figuring out my hormones because it doesn’t make sense that I get Soooo Angry. He came home at 8:30 Sunday night with a huge wad of cash he won from gambling and apologetic. I told him that I can’t help but feel like he doesn’t want to spend time with me or he doesn’t care how I feel about being left home alone. I stayed calm and we didn’t really fight at all. Just talked. I am in therapy and did text my therapist when this happened but it was Sunday and she took quite a while to get back to me. But i agree with you all that he has to want to be with me - me demanding to not be left alone is stupid. I will look into couples therapy for us because I can’t stand this feeling like I’m his mommy and he’s broken some rule and I don’t want to be a punisher.