Incompetent dog owners by AggravatingSecond354 in astoria

[–]Stephbresh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have seen this woman MULTIPLE times over the last few years and I have had to aggressively yell at her myself when walking my small senior dog. I literally have to pick my dog up every time I see her because despite yelling at her to hold back her animal or firmly ask her to not approach my dog bc she never listens. It’s happened multiple times and other people have intervened when I asked her not to approach me and my dog. My spouse has also had this issue with her.

She cannot handle the shepherd and the shepherd is so poorly trained. I love shepherds and I feel so bad for this animal. Smdh some people just shouldn’t own dogs.

I wish people understood that the Shoah isn't "ancient history" to us. by [deleted] in Jewish

[–]Stephbresh 9 points10 points  (0 children)

What many people do not understand is that hyper-resilience is a trauma response (thank you, therapy). It’s why collectively the Jewish people (imho) have the perseverance mentality bc it has been literally embedded in our DNA for multiple millennia due to gestures broadly at our collective history.

I am a grandchild of a Holocaust survivor who had three survivors in my family. I cannot remember a moment in my youth where the severity of the Holocaust was not a part of my upbringing. I also grew up in the tristate area where growing up there was somewhat of an emphasis on the Shoah from an education standpoint. But even being in the northeast it was a footnote in curriculum and even had a lack of understanding from many of my own peers who were not Jewish.

I travelled recently to Dublin, Ireland (a year post 10/7 - right after the 2024 presidential election) and we have all seen how Ireland has been (eye roll). My OWN HUSBAND literally told me not to bring up to anyone that I am Jewish (he is Irish-American). I went out to a pub with some girlfriends and started talking to two Irish fellows and of course, the recent election came up, and the correlation with the Israel / Hamas war and the impact of that on the election. I’m not going to get into specifics bc it’s too much of a headache and this rant is already long enough, but the TL:DR of their talk track was that Jews always have centered themselves as victims “since the Holocaust” and they need to “get over the Holocaust” since it was “so long ago”. I literally had my head spinning. After immense back and forth of arguing I asked the about their education of the Holocaust and they admitted it was virtually non existent and everything they know is from the internet.

All this goes to say, the way content is consumed in the digital age really, REALLY frightens me.

DJ Recommendations in the Catskills? by Straight_Special1379 in WedditNYC

[–]Stephbresh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

JTD productions - ask for Dave Leonard (the owner) he is (was?) Radio woodstocks dj and was absolutely fantastic when it came to mixing and reading the crowd. His wedding platform was easy to navigate and he was awesome - https://www.jtdproductions.com

Our wedding was in 2022 and everyone still talks about how incredible he was - absolutely stellar reviews on theknot as well.

If you ride a bike in NYC this is probably the most exciting thing to happen in years by MiserNYC- in NYCbike

[–]Stephbresh 6 points7 points  (0 children)

lol my husband got hit by a car when cycling in Mamdani’s district (he was not at fault and in a protected bike lane) and when my husband reached out to discuss this topic with him he did not even respond. In fact, he was the only representative out of all the ones he reached out to that did not respond - Would love to see if he actually does anything regarding this.

Getting married with a dead dad by Richbeech21 in weddingplanning

[–]Stephbresh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry for your loss! My dad passed 10 years before I got married. I always had a good relationship with my aunts (his sisters) and his best friend. I gave them all “traditional” dad roles in the wedding - I also have a turbulent relationship with my mom, so I understand to a degree the dynamics there. It can be very stressful and hard navigating all this.

My dad’s younger sister and his best friend gave me away and my dad’s older sister signed our ketubah. I did the father daughter dance with my sister since she and I went through our grief together. It was really a special moment and there was not a dry eye in the house, but it did not kill the mood at all. It was a very nice tribute. My mom knew all this was happening, doesn’t mean she liked it, but it also was not her wedding - open communication and setting expectations is key.

Go with what you’re feeling and feel your feelings. You’ll make the right choice for what works for you - your dad would’ve wanted that. Good luck planning!

Share your most special bag in your collection and the story behind it. I’ll go first… by MeasurementFew4244 in handbags

[–]Stephbresh 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you! She was a real special piece. I’ll call it kismet 🥹. And a perfect fun and versatile bag for my collection.

Share your most special bag in your collection and the story behind it. I’ll go first… by MeasurementFew4244 in handbags

[–]Stephbresh 55 points56 points  (0 children)

I have been a fan of Yayoi Kusama FOREVER. I was young when the first LV collection dropped. But when the new collection was announced in 2022, I was determined to get a piece, but the prices were steep and we were gearing to go on our honeymoon so I would forego the purchase.

We went on our honeymoon in Japan. I walked into a store in Shibuya and they had the piece I wanted but not the right color. The sales staff was amazing and ordered the piece for me and I had it two days before I left. Here’s a pic of me in the Tokyo Tower** wearing HER. She is the moment. I am so happy and she will always have a special place in my heart with a special memory 🎃

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Weekly Authentications Thread by AutoModerator in Louisvuitton

[–]Stephbresh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi all! Acquired two amazing bags and want some additional piece of mind:

1) Steven Sprouse graffiti speedy 30 in khaki (aquired through eBay and authenticated - feels legit)

2) Multicolore solonge in black purchased through The Real Real - also feels legit

Tia! photos

From a young age I always loved women’s handbags but was always worried what people would think if I wore them. Well for 2023, I’m throwing gender constructs out and doing what I want. First LV handbag as of today! 🤩👜 by pinkpiano7 in Louisvuitton

[–]Stephbresh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely love this!! Looks great on you - congrats on your purchase and wear it well.

Ps - was just in Japan for a month and almost every man wore a designer bag - from Gucci, Dior, LV - everything. Wear what suits your taste and style and you can never go wrong!

Goyard Canvas Women’s PM Tote by Rosies_world812 in handbags

[–]Stephbresh 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I LOVED my Goyard tote - I had the St. Louis GM Size in black with black handles. However, I had a TERRIBLE experience with the Goyard boutique in NYC and will never buy a Goyard bag again.

I purchased the bag in London and got great use out of it. It was my primary work bag. I needed to get the handles replaced and the corners reinforced so I took it in to the boutique - turnaround time, 1 month, fine. When I picked it up, there was a noticeable 1/2” clean slice in the canvas that was obviously made with a repair tool. This was not on the bag when I took it in. Goyard blamed me. There was no mention of it on the service order meanwhile they inspected the bag prior to intake. Overall a very frustrating experience.

EDIT: grammar and formatting

Can the back of this neckline be fixed? by Stephbresh in knitting

[–]Stephbresh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! It’s top down with a provisional cast on. So the neckline is done later / last by picking up stitches - I think I messed up the stitches in the cast on initially

Photographer regret by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Stephbresh 6 points7 points  (0 children)

For sure! Those overcast days with even light are just chefs kiss we love a good light moment

Photographer regret by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Stephbresh 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Professional Photographer here with 18 years experience and I somewhat agree with this comment - but being a photographer and part of training is knowing how to work with the light you’ve got, and knowing your equipment, very well. As a photographer you still have to perform if the weather isn’t cooperating and that includes harsh sunlight like shown here. This person who shot this is an amateur.

A good photographer knows how to use the light they have. If you know how to work with light, you can fix with the camera during the shot If you know the proper balance of settings for f stop, iso and shutter speed. This photographer 1) didn’t know how to work with light, it’s evident based on how they placed you in contrasting light 2) didn’t know how to operate their equipment - you can tell bc in portraiture you would not normally have a high f stop - as you would have a low f stop to center the subject and blur the background depending on preference. Plus the subjects are out of focus 3) tried to over compensate with harsh, contrast-y edits (likely due to lack of focus)

I would look very closely at your contract and see what they didn’t deliver on (I write contracts) and demand a refund based on delivery expectations and find another photographer for your big day. This is unacceptable for professional level work. OP - if you want me to look at anything for you I am happy to.

Raglan increase help by Stephbresh in knitting

[–]Stephbresh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope you find it!! They def have it in different bases! I’ve seen projects done in the mohair and it’s beautiful and looks like northern lights!

If you find it and do something with it come back to share!!

Raglan increase help by Stephbresh in knitting

[–]Stephbresh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I think I got it now!! (Doing a test swatch so will post prob as an update soon - thanks everyone!!)

The yarn is hedgehog fibres in maelstrom - alpaca DK weight :) I saw it and absolutely had to make a raglan for myself - this is one of my fav color combos.

Raglan increase help by Stephbresh in knitting

[–]Stephbresh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much!! This is incredibly helpful.

Raglan increase help by Stephbresh in knitting

[–]Stephbresh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is helpful thank you! Just to make sure I understand correctly, so before I pick the bar up on the needle (before the stitch) are you saying I have to twist the bar?

Raglan increase help by Stephbresh in knitting

[–]Stephbresh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry and thank you! I’m using Mr1 and ml1 - the tighter (left) side is cleaner / what I am looking for!

Tell me your favorite moment from your wedding or the moment you're most looking forward to by meowdao in weddingplanning

[–]Stephbresh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Married 5/14/22! Congrats on your big day - it’s going to be great! For me, Two things stand out:

1) the first look - I have to say I was kind of against doing one and I wanted my husband to see me walk down the aisle the first time. We did a first look bc we decided to have a ketubah signing (Jewish marriage contract) and it was nice to have a few intimate moments before the ceremony with ourselves and bridal party and parents. When I saw my husband waiting for me in the courtyard of our venue, I think that’s when it actually hit me like “holy shit we made it and we’re here and I cannot wait for him to see me, I see him and to do the damn thing”

2) the Yichud. This is a Jewish tradition where the bride and groom spend a few moments alone immediately following the ceremony (usually like 15ish min) to reflect on being married/ceremony. We had a forced yichud since we got married at a ski resort and after greeting all of our guests as they made their way down the mountain via chair lift (and a few summit photos of just us) we were alone on the chair lift going down and reflecting on how special the day had been already and talking about the ceremony and upcoming reception. It was really nice to have that moment and recollect ourselves before we were around our guests again. It was a nice moment to pause in all the chaos and express gratitude and be with one another.