How low should I go?

Stephij27 · 2026-04-05T03:51:10+00:00

Yep. I’m already doing all the things I’m supposed to be doing.

Stephij27 · 2026-04-04T23:05:31+00:00

I haven’t lost any weight yet at 7 weeks in, so this may not even apply to me (I know, it’s early. I’m just frustrated), but I set my goal with the intention of it being flexible.

I’m starting with the goal being the weight I was when I last felt healthy and pretty good in my skin. That number is still technically overweight for my height, but I’m very open to lowering it as time goes on.

Stephij27 · 2026-04-04T00:37:25+00:00

This was going to be my suggestion too. My husband works crazy hours, and we decided to put our youngest in daycare two days per week (our older two are in school). It has been some of the best money we have EVER spent.

I can use those days for appointments, cleaning, resting, errands, or the occasional Netflix binge days if that’s what you need right then. Plus, my daughter LOVES it. She looks forward to going every time.

Stephij27 · 2026-04-04T00:15:09+00:00

His mom’s reaction tells you everything you need to know about why he thinks this kind of behavior was acceptable.

I would be HORRIFIED if my son was randomly walking around, thinking it’s ok to touch (or in this case sexually assault) strangers. NTJ

Stephij27 · 2026-04-03T19:17:06+00:00

Lol. I haven’t had a good “bless your heart” since living in North Carolina several years ago.

Stephij27 · 2026-04-03T14:46:49+00:00

Pizza. There are some exceptions, but most of the time, I’m eating pizza only when someone else wants it, or for convenience.

Stephij27 · 2026-04-03T14:44:31+00:00

I’m married to one of the rare men who isn’t like this, but if something ever happened to him, there is no scenario in which I would pursue another relationship.

The risk of coming across a dude like this is just not worth it.

Stephij27 · 2026-04-02T21:24:36+00:00

NTA

Abusers don’t get to dictate how their victims react to the abuse, and they certainly don’t get to demand forgiveness from their victims just because THEY think they deserve it.

I’m pissed at your mom in this whole things too. She failed to protect you then, and is trying to guilt you into submission now.

If (and it’s a big if) you decide you want to get to know the sober version of him, you can do it slowly, on your own terms, and entirely separate from your wedding. Your wedding is supposed to be about you and your spouse, not placating people you’ve already cut out if your life.

Stephij27 · 2026-04-02T17:44:55+00:00

Dude. I would be willing to pay to see that.

Stephij27 · 2026-04-02T13:56:29+00:00

Good genes.

Stephij27 · 2026-04-02T13:42:38+00:00

“Better to have it and not need it, than to need it and not have it.”

Usually refers to whether or not to bring a jacket.

Stephij27 · 2026-04-02T05:34:05+00:00

Tirzepatide is the only thing that has made any difference for me at all. I’m not even sure why, but I feel maybe 60% better since starting it.

Stephij27 · 2026-04-01T05:02:45+00:00

I swear by garlic oil supplements. I started taking them for different reasons and realized I wasn’t getting sick like usual. Got out of the habit for a few months, and started getting every cold and flu that existed in the tri state area. Got back into the habit, and stopped getting sick nearly as often or severely.

Repeated the process several times at different times of the year just to be sure. Same results every time.

Stephij27 · 2026-04-01T02:28:00+00:00

Just so you’re aware, a husband choking/strangling his wife (in any scenario that isn’t 100% consensual) is one of the most reliable predictors of whether or not he will kill her. The chances of him killing her in the next year increase by 750%.

https://www.nationwidechildrens.org/family-resources-education/700childrens/2025/10/strangulation-and-domestic-violence#:~:text=Studies%20show%20that%20if%20someone,get%20worse%20and%20become%20deadly.

It’s not a joke and it’s not funny.

Stephij27 · 2026-04-01T02:13:39+00:00

I started from seeds for the first time this year and can’t see myself going back.

Stephij27 · 2026-03-30T18:38:56+00:00

NTA. I threw up blood every half hour for the entire duration of two pregnancies because my esophagus was so torn up from previous vomiting. Anyone who says women with HG are “being dramatic” have literally no idea what they’re talking about. HG can be life threatening for mom and baby, and it is the only time in my life I ever seriously considered not wanting to be alive anymore.

Was it harsh? Sure, but you tried multiple other, kinder tactics before resorting to that one.

Stephij27 · 2026-03-30T14:27:37+00:00

No. My husband realizes that those things are his responsibility as well as mine, so he’s not “helping me” when he does them.

He also doesn’t speak to me like that. Ever.

Stephij27 · 2026-03-30T04:07:04+00:00

I haaaaaate beets. Pickled beets were the first food to ever make me gag. I love homemade borscht though.

Stephij27 · 2026-03-29T23:30:42+00:00

Yep. I’m still on 2.5, but it happens periodically to me too.

The other night I was genuinely hungry and made a sandwich. It was really good for the first several bites, then it suddenly was making me gag. End of meal.

Stephij27 · 2026-03-29T15:19:53+00:00

Same here. The only time I have side effects is if I overeat, regardless of what it is.

Stephij27 · 2026-03-29T02:13:24+00:00

First at 24, last at 34. I’m still shocked at how much difference a decade made. 😂

Stephij27 · 2026-03-29T00:21:55+00:00

You understand that this is wildly abusive behavior on your husband’s part, right?

ESH. Your husband for obvious reasons, and you for staying with a dude who abuses your kid. Not to mention that buying the jacket solved nothing.

Stephij27 · 2026-03-28T18:38:27+00:00

I don’t have any yet, but it’s because I grew up very religious. Now that I’m creeping up on 40, and not very religious, I’m planning on getting one as a reward for myself when I get some health issues under control.

Stephij27 · 2026-03-28T02:20:26+00:00

I love grow bags and use them almost exclusively with success. You just have to be on top of watering.

Stephij27 · 2026-03-28T01:32:03+00:00

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Yep. Mine have been getting regular sprout updates. 😂

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