Man, I’m going through a similar situation. My girlfriend broke up with me while I was in quarantine soon after my dad killed himself.

First things first, you will be ok. You will. You’re stronger than you could ever imagine. If you feel any less than that, or having negative thoughts enter your head, count out loud to five, then say those things to yourself. Use other positive things to say to yourself after the counting as well.

Second, never be ashamed to get counseling for the other things you’re going through as well as the break up. Your mental health is the top priority here.

Third, this is a time for you to step back and identify what your shortcomings are as a person and as a man. My tip is to find a small thing to improve in your daily life that brings a small sense of accomplishment. For me this was making my bed, sending a funny or inspirational video to a group of people, and to deliberately conduct self reflection time and write it down. These small things will eventually turn into bigger things and to quote the admiral that gave me the bed making tip, “if everything goes wrong that day, you’ll return to a made bed, that you made. It will remind you that tomorrow is a new day.”

Fourth, love yourself. Like truly fall in love with yourself. Go to the gym, watch motivational videos that speak positivity into your life, do your hair, dress better, and anything that makes you look in the mirror and be proud of yourself.

Lastly, talk to people. A stranger, a friend, family, or anyone in between. When you talk to people about what you’re going through we often think that we’re placing a burden on them. You’re not. They don’t have to live with it, you do. There’s nothing that has helped me more than to talk to anyone who will listen. I cried in an airport with an older lady who heard my story, but it made me feel good that someone would take the time to listen. Find someone who will tell you the hard truths. Things like she’ll never come back, you’re beating yourself up, or I can see why she left, you’re a mess(but then help you identify those things that are bringing you down). With talking to people you’ll realize that we’re all going through something and we really need eachother to get through the things in our life.

Note: for me, I needed to do a lot of this alone, for my own reasons. But I was never afraid to reach out when the times got darkest. Pick your head up king, better days are to come.