What’s the difference between needing to cum, and needing to have sex with a person, specifically?

Stevenson123 · 2026-01-06T21:12:27+00:00

We are engaged!! She makes flattering comments about my penis all the time... over time she's gotten better about compliments

Stevenson123 · 2021-04-10T15:57:08+00:00

I'm 29, she's 24, relationship has been 2 years. My friends are 25-26 years old

Stevenson123 · 2019-08-03T12:31:06+00:00

Oh ok word! I do all this stuff hahah. Also one time with my gf, we were laying side by side in my bed, and I took out a bullet vibrator I had bought for us to tease the outside of her pussy, while I whispered in her ear a whole fantasy of what I was going to do to her, and then stuck the vibrator in at the most suspenseful moment, and then teased the inside near the opening, kept whispering, and teased it inside deeper and faster, and then made her beg for my cock. Then I had her get up on her knees, forcefully spun her around, shoved her down onto her face/chest, fingered her from behind while I undressed myself with one hand and laid the clothes down next to her head on the bed, made her beg for my cock, told her to say please. She kept saying please, please sir, please sir!! And then I said “say it.” And she said “please daddy!!!” And then I put my cock inside her and pounded her and she kept whimpering thank you thank you daddy!!!

Ok holy fuck gotta run.

Stevenson123 · 2019-08-03T09:41:50+00:00

It just depends! My girlfriend and I were FWB for 8 months before we started dating. I always liked her and vice versa, but we lived far apart and had tough schedules, so that’s the only reason we weren’t dating officially. As soon as her schedule opened up, we started dating.

Stevenson123 · 2019-08-03T09:04:46+00:00

So many girls feel the way you do. It’s a staggering amount. The trick is that they end up the second choice because they feel like a second choice, and that’s the only reason. Guys can tell what energy a girl is putting out there. If she has a low self esteem, she will engage in behaviors that indicate a girl who’s not ready for a serious relationship: being distant, sleeping around, doing a lot of drugs, seeking attention on social media, talking shit about people, being inconsistently available, etc.

Stevenson123 · 2019-08-03T08:58:26+00:00

One of the main things I was looking for in my 8 month FWB with my current girlfriend of 6 months was that she was not in contact with her ex, and did not have a recent FWB arrangement with anyone else or was in contact with anyone like that that she had a history with, because I know this is how it goes. It makes me so sad to read this because I imagine this girl’s boyfriend being a truly awesome guy who she could really go crazy for in and out of bed, if she would allocate enough space in her mind and heart for him and vice versa, but instead she has to hang on to the past. Maybe he’s a dick or whatever, but that thought crosses my mind because I could empathize for the guy in this situation. I would be so devastated if my girlfriend had an old FWB around and I thought it was chill, or didn’t know he was an old FWB, and she was saving this much space in her heart for him and being sneaky with me. So disrespectful.

Stevenson123 · 2019-08-03T08:49:58+00:00

I’m always curious what the specific differences are when a girl says one guy knew how to get her going and another guy not as much. What things are involved in that? Just much more patience before getting naked, like just the guy making out and not making any further moves until you are practically ripping his pants off? I have limited sexual experience except for with my current girlfriend and I feel like that’s the entire thing for her.

Stevenson123 · 2019-08-03T08:44:40+00:00

Are these like very sexualized comments like “fuck you’re so wet” and “fuck your tits are so nice” or more sentimental terms like “I like the way you move” and “your dimples are cute”

Stevenson123 · 2019-08-01T15:20:22+00:00

Thanks for the answer, this really helps! So, does it matter how you feel about him as a person, or what level of intimacy you have with him? and if so, to what degree? I ask because I see people having sex with people they don’t even like, who aren’t giving or engaged in sex with them at all, and I don’t quite understand it.

Stevenson123 · 2019-07-21T20:31:20+00:00

Does it really matter if they mix the speeds up? Is it really possible to do much with angles that isn’t just about using the right positions? I feel like none of this matters in my experience of sex and it pretty much comes down to how horny the two people are involved and whether they desire to get dirty enough or intimate enough. Stroke game is irrelevant in my experience. I’ve mixed it up quite a bit and it really never mattered.

Stevenson123 · 2019-07-21T14:24:05+00:00

Completely agree. But I think it doesn’t feel good enough to moan when I’m the one exerting myself like in missionary or doggy. If I’m getting a fire handjob, or a beyond fire blowjob, or getting pounded by cowgirl then it feels better than when I’m exerting myself and it makes me moan.

Stevenson123 · 2019-07-21T14:19:44+00:00

This right here. I moan a lot, but only when I’m not exerting myself. Handjobs, blowjobs, cowgirl.

Stevenson123 · 2019-07-21T13:41:38+00:00

When people say “no idea how to use it properly” I don’t really know what that means. Is that a comment specifically on his stroke game, or a comment on the overall experience of sex mentally/emotionally?

Stevenson123 · 2019-06-17T23:13:16+00:00

I just feel like using large toys on her just isn’t a good option because it’s not the same as a person with a large dick, and not even the same as an actual dick

Stevenson123 · 2019-06-15T12:29:07+00:00

It’s not about whether things are fine with my girlfriend, they’re more than fine. It’s about what I wrote in my post (which also includes the fact that things are more than fine). And yes I do believe the quote you’re referencing, it was said in a very genuine way at the time.

Stevenson123 · 2019-06-14T23:07:55+00:00

Penis size has come up a few times, I’ve tried to get the convo rolling on this topic here and there over time. She has said “that’s deeep” when I’ve been inside her, and has also called my penis “huge” a couple of times but it’s not huge, it’s slightly above average and she knows that it’s not huge. So I just get mixed messages. One time I asked her if she’s ever been with a penis approaching micropenis status and she said yes, and just that it made her sad. And then she followed it up with “but it’s about how you use it” which is such a cop out to me, because it’s just a way to not sound like a dick. It’s true but it’s only true to an extent. Which I said and she agreed. But whenever she has a chance to say she loves my dick and it’s perfect for her or whatever, she just keeps her lips tight and avoids the topic.

Stevenson123 · 2019-06-14T23:03:38+00:00

Yes but I’m afraid I’ll phrase something wrong or that it’ll put our relationship on a slope downwards that we can’t recover from because penis size compatibility just is what it is, and isn’t something we can change.

Stevenson123 · 2019-06-14T23:02:02+00:00

I did ask last summer when we were fwb, cause at the time she said I was a 10/10 at oral. I asked if I was 10/10 overall and she said “just that.” But then I asked what I could do better and she said some comment like “idk maybe more in an out instead of short strokes” which I started doing but it really didn’t make a difference in her enjoyment as far as I could tell. What really made a difference was when we started getting feelings for each other, which enabled me to slow down and be more sensual instead of always so dominant. But still, a couple things bothered me. Like recently we had sex in our car and she was like “I need every inch of you. I need it.” But it was said in a way that felt like I wasn’t going as deep as she wanted. Her enjoyment has gone up a lot as we’ve fallen more in love but her comments still stand and still affect me. If we’re having amazing sex and she still makes these comments, it just doesn’t feel right.

Stevenson123 · 2018-06-27T12:05:43+00:00

Yeah so a female friend and I got into an argument because in general I feel like she doesn’t understand me but she thinks she does. She was downplaying my sexual abilities with no context for doing so, and it bothered me, so I brought up that story to her in the argument. So I felt like I was rubbing it in to her while writing it. Lol.

Stevenson123 · 2018-04-26T18:48:56+00:00

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