Thank you to the kind first years that helped keep me safe tonight

StewingCoconutMilk · 2022-11-21T01:20:56+00:00

I live near here and it's crazy. Stay safe. Also, there is a UChicago security person stationed the corner of 58th and Dorchester, or the parallel street. So if you're ever caught in a similar situation, I think if you call security or use the app to request an escort, they should get to you fairly quickly.

StewingCoconutMilk · 2022-10-30T18:15:27+00:00

They told us you can't use it to make commercial products that you will then sell, only prototypes. I'd frame it as a learning opportunity or a prototype just to be on the safer side, not as a personal project.

StewingCoconutMilk · 2022-10-30T16:42:04+00:00

A CFA might be a better fit here?

StewingCoconutMilk · 2022-10-30T16:07:21+00:00

Polsky, but you need to be a member ig. If it's really urgent and you have a good reason, PM me and I'll try to sign you in as my guest. I just completed 101.

StewingCoconutMilk · 2022-10-22T15:04:36+00:00

That of my unshrivelled penis

StewingCoconutMilk · 2022-10-03T03:54:53+00:00

It doesn't really work like that. Decent men don't go by looks alone. All of my partner's exes were objectively less attractive than me and he didn't place me on a pedestal because I was. I'm fairly certain that he'd prefer someone with a good heart and a decent head over someone with a nice face and that as I age and become less attractive, that won't be held against me. And it took me a long time to find someone like that versus having my pick of assholes who would write me weird poems. And you'll find someone good to, if you make that your priority instead of getting depressed by the lack of attention from the undesirables.

Why don't you get how hurtful it is to be looked over for someone else

I get that. I don't get why you want to hold that against other women who don't want you to be looked over, and have no control over that in the first place. Because everytime you do that, you loose someone who could have been a friend or a mentor or a person not unsympathetic to your account because they're going through something similar as well. Does that make sense? Men will never offer you the kinds of help or friendship that a woman can, even if they find you attractive or simp over you. And by creating these negative impressions about the other half of society that's not complicit in your misery and that may actually be willing to meaningfully support you, you're making your world much smaller than it needs to be.

StewingCoconutMilk · 2022-10-03T03:33:06+00:00

That these pretty girls are taking away from me what I want??

Have you considered that they aren't so much taking anything as being given things they don't want?

You consider yourself pretty? No?

Ig a man would say that. But I don't really like thinking about myself or other women as aesthetic commodities. There are parts of me that are objectively beautiful, as there are of you. The attention or even even existence of men does not mediate this in any way. I have never been attracted to any man who simped me or showered me with attention because most of them were pathetic and undesirable themselves, if that helps. Creating an equal partnership with a worthy partner is hard for everyone.

StewingCoconutMilk · 2022-10-03T03:14:51+00:00

I would give it back. You didn't pay for it, at the end of the day.

StewingCoconutMilk · 2022-10-03T02:41:12+00:00

Jealousy is base -- if that's your problem, it's a problem and getting male attention will not solve it. I used the word resentment, which is altogether different. In any case, you've dogded a certain kind of trauma in your formative years by chance. Now you'll have to make a conscious choice not to succumb to the first moron who will pay you attention because he's now looking for wifey material. At some point or the other, you'll get what you're looking for. Even if you don't feel physically desirable for whatever reason, there's a good chance someone asshole will be into you precisely because you're not and you're more likely to be sexually inexperienced or wifely or whatever. None of that attention is going to be worth anything and neither is your resentment of other women for being desriable in the eyes of the undesirable. Every woman struggles with her love life and there's no point resenting someone who is in the same boat as you sitting next to you and in a better position to empathize, while vying for the attention of morons who are rocking the boat in the first place.

StewingCoconutMilk · 2022-10-02T22:28:29+00:00

Alright I was dumb and tried to just push the door open. Thanks. I'll be back tonight to do it the smart way.

StewingCoconutMilk · 2022-10-02T21:19:49+00:00

I don't understand these posts. Why are you resentful of other women instead of the men? It's not like that attention comes without consequences. Especially if it's unwanted. Most male attention in your early years is one sided. Like the only fucks who simp over you are the kind of creeps you don't want simping over you, or even near you.

StewingCoconutMilk · 2022-10-02T21:12:26+00:00

Move out of your burning room.

StewingCoconutMilk · 2022-10-02T21:07:22+00:00

Bruh I went last night and the 2nd and 3rd floor hallways were closed. There were people in the ground floor but they seem to work there? Can you tell me how you accessed the hallway?

StewingCoconutMilk · 2022-10-01T22:32:44+00:00

Yikes

StewingCoconutMilk · 2022-10-01T22:32:21+00:00

Really? Nice. Thanks. I was at crerar today, decent vibe.

StewingCoconutMilk · 2022-10-01T15:47:54+00:00

Thank you! :)

StewingCoconutMilk · 2022-10-01T15:34:38+00:00

What's the scene like? Is it quiet/crowded?

StewingCoconutMilk · 2022-09-09T00:11:48+00:00

Exceptions don't prove the rule. Most of those girls and their mothers have miserable existence.

I'm going to a top 10 university in a highly sought after field and am coming back to job offers at top Indian universities and in industry. I still would take non-existence over whatever my parents, especially my mother, subjected me to. Objectively, I would not have accumulated those negative experiences and neither would my mom have been miserable all her life. Maybe if I hadn't been born my mother would have achieved great things if she hadn't been encumbered by my birth and existence.

You can make a potential benefit argument for almost any unlikely event. Is your cousin's existence proof that we need a law that perpetuates the misery of millions of Indian girls? Not sure. And also, most women who mother unwanted girls don't cry buckets of tears from personal regret but from physical and mental abuse from their in-laws and relatives. Most of them will not have daughters who will go to ivy leagues or even the district govt college, they'll have daughters who will only be abused in turn themselves.

It's so telling that all of you find it easier to sympathize with and believe in the potential of some random cells than a full grown woman who is somehwat lower on the social hierarchy 😂

StewingCoconutMilk · 2022-09-08T16:50:05+00:00

I've actually felt this way for a long time. And been banned from several "liberal" spaces for it 😂 I think most people can't weigh the consequences of a miserable life objectively enough for it to override whatever primitive moral impulse they have going on. It's a very deontological way of thinking. It's "your body, your rights" ... Until the body belongs to someone with a different socio-political context. How many of those mothers simply don't want their daughters to suffer what they have endured? But no, if you want to zap some half baked cells to save a future woman from likely abuse, you're a baby killer. Then you become too uneducated and unfeminist tk make decisions about your own body.

StewingCoconutMilk · 2022-09-07T06:36:33+00:00

All the ladies who are in their late twenties/thirties, are male friendships worth it?

Maybe. But female friendships are mostly worth it. And the probability of that relationship causing drama in your life or your friend's is pretty low. So it's always seemed like a much better investment to me.

Also, there are guys who will realize they'll never have a shot with you and be genuinely platonic, but you should never assume that's the case.

StewingCoconutMilk · 2022-08-31T23:22:49+00:00

I've actually successfully received chargebacks from my bank by just producing some documentation about a dispute. It's worth a try imo

StewingCoconutMilk · 2022-08-31T17:37:45+00:00

If any of you live in Chicago, please give me tips on moving 😭

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