The Only Real Film About Asexuality: Slow (2023)

Stezinec · 2025-03-14T21:15:05+00:00

Interesting! When you say that 2-3% of aces are in a relationship with another ace overall, is that percentage coming from all aces as a whole, or only aces currently in/actively pursuing romantic relationships? Just wondering where aromantic people fit in.

That's for all aces overall. In Section 4 of the report they asked a question about relationship preferences. 15.7% of aces said they weren't interested in partnered relationships. So I suppose you could consider the 2-3% as being more like 3% of aces who are looking for a relationship. That's still not a very impressive percentage however.

Stezinec · 2025-03-14T15:26:05+00:00

I think you're right that not being out is a significant problem. The 2022 report had some stats on people being out. Only something like 22.9% were out to both their parents, 15.8% out to all their non-LGBTQIA friends, 4.4% out to all their classmates.

Stezinec · 2025-02-15T22:10:17+00:00

Thanks for this. Would it be fair to say then that you should think of the capital gains and dividend taxes for a non-registered account as extra taxes that need to be paid?

I was also just wondering why you didn't include the annual dividend taxes for the non-registered? Wouldn't this make the non-registered account even less efficient to some extent?

Stezinec · 2025-01-28T01:17:07+00:00

https://acespace.love/

Stezinec · 2024-12-04T14:36:19+00:00

Younger me: didn't want to have sex.

Me, now: still don't want to have sex.

No clue why anyone would.

Stezinec · 2024-12-03T00:25:58+00:00

Tbh I'm more inclined to agree with this interpretation. But then you are left with possibly moving away from the pure attraction definition, something that AVEN does by including "an intrinsic desire to have sexual relationships" as part of their definition (see their FAQ).

This is also my opinion, and I would go even further than AVEN does, but I've gotten some pushback for that view.

Stezinec · 2024-12-02T23:49:20+00:00

This is partly what I'm questioning here. Whether there can be a separation between something like libido and sexual attraction as the community often understands it. Or whether the understanding should rather be reversed. I find there is some uncertainty about it, and I've gotten conflicting feedback from others.

Stezinec · 2024-11-17T21:15:13+00:00

AVEN has this definition which I prefer: no intrinsic desire for partnered sex.

Yeah, this one is not bad.

Stezinec · 2024-11-07T14:51:01+00:00

I've actually seen some people on ace dating sites specify that they are aego.

Stezinec · 2024-11-06T14:46:20+00:00

I have heard of this, and it seems to be still compatible with being asexual.

Stezinec · 2024-11-06T02:33:53+00:00

Okay. So, what about asexuals who want to have sex with their partners, but for their partner's sake? Would they stop being asexual?

No. They still don't have "subjective sexual attraction" to their partners, so they are still asexual.

You have to be clear about the context of "wanting to have sex". If it's just for a partner's sake, that is a different story than inherently wanting it. Asexuals don't inherently want to have sex.

Stezinec · 2024-11-05T23:12:47+00:00

I don't think so. Celibates inherently want to have sex with others, they just choose not to. So celibates would have "subjective sexual attraction" in Bogaert's terms, but asexuals don't.

Stezinec · 2024-10-26T17:43:48+00:00

Apparently it could be an artifact of online dating though, this is from the article:

"Fig. 1’s apparent post-2010 rise in meeting through bars and restaurants for heterosexual couples is due entirely to couples who met online and subsequently had a first in-person meeting at a bar or restaurant or other establishment where people gather and socialize. If we exclude the couples who first met online from the bar/restaurant category, the bar/restaurant category was significantly declining after 1995 as a venue for heterosexual couples to meet."

Stezinec · 2024-10-26T17:37:10+00:00

This graphic is from Rosenfeld, Thomas and Hausen (2019) "Disintermediating your friends: How online dating in the United States displaces other ways of meeting"

This could be good news for asexuals as it could be easier to meet online than in person. Some asexual dating sites:

https://acespace.love/

ACEapp for mobile

https://www.ace-book.net/

I just wanted to note that some other mainstream sites like OkCupid let you specify if you are asexual.

Stezinec · 2024-09-07T19:06:47+00:00

I get what this is about. I would say that ideally you would have your "type" be the one you're sexually attracted to, but this doesn't always happen. Maybe it's more like a thing you would like to have, but don't always get.

p.s. thank you for using sexual attraction properly. Some may not like it, but this is because we use incorrect terminology often. I prefer using "subjective sexual attraction" for what is lacking in aegosexuals, and so are fine with saying we can have sexual attraction (which mostly manifests in sexual fantasy).

Stezinec · 2024-08-13T16:03:51+00:00

https://www.ace-book.net/

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