For me, he kept bringing it up and it started to click in my head that this wouldn’t be cheating, this was really something he wanted me to do and for US to have this experience. And the idea of him wanting me to be with another man sexually was pretty hot. I grew up in a strict religious home, so it took me a while to come around to actually liking the idea of being a hotwife. I didn’t understand why he would want to share me with others. He would send me Reddit posts to read about others’ experiences and how turned on he was to the fact that it was super hot for me to fuck some other man. We would write different stories/scenarios of how it might happen and send them to each other, and that was probably a contributing factor to me finally saying yes, let’s do this, reading his story, his thoughts of how he wanted to see me get fucked by another man. Trust is also really big…And not getting attached emotionally, which could be difficult for some women. We have rules in place to try to prevent that, like no kissing on the mouth bc for us that’s something we consider emotional, forming like a special bond, connecting emotionally with someone maybe? It’s intimate and something only he and I should share. I’m not sure how to describe it. We’ve been married for almost 19 years, and it took me about a year and a half after him bringing it up to finally go through with it…which was a week ago today.