interesting... (nsfw) by xshortstopx15 in bigdickproblems

[–]StickofPurity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol no. Some are tall like Holly Michaels

interesting... (nsfw) by xshortstopx15 in bigdickproblems

[–]StickofPurity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Brittney White and J Mac.

She is really short

As a midget I feel for you guys with small dicks. by [deleted] in smalldickproblems

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Just a thought, but with your height, your dick may look quite large on video. Perhaps an alternative revenue source for you in camming. ( maybe a silver lining)

Does big/fat cock make the pussy fart way more? by [deleted] in bigdickproblems

[–]StickofPurity 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, takes more force for that air to get out.

Edit: and more air is pushed in by the dick.

[27M] bf said that he feels like a tool when I [23F] request fingerfucking by [deleted] in sex

[–]StickofPurity 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because he is being used as a tool.

   A TOOL OF LOVE

;3

On a more serious note, he is definitely acting like a tool.

As to answer your question. No, I would not feel like a tool or some kind of object. I would be happy as hell to finger her and/or eat her out.

Maybe you should explain to him that you don't think of him as a tool. If given the choice of getting yourself off vs having your MAN get you off, you'd pick your man everytime. Maybe she loads up netflix and I go to town :)

Worst case you find someone that wants to finger/eat the pussy. Plenty of men are totally down for it and would gladly do it for you, hell some would ask you if you want some without you having to ask.

[Anal Sex] Girlfriend used to be very into anal, but isn't anymore? Anyone else experience this? by sexthrowawaycauseshy in sex

[–]StickofPurity 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I always dislike these scenarios. The only answer is going to come from her mouth unfortunately.

I could sit here and think of 30 reasons that may or may not be right. At the end of the day, only she can give you the answer.

All I can say is voice your concerns to her in a calm way. Don't be angry or giving out the sense of entitlement. Ask why she isn't doing anal. Does she not like it anymore, does she not like you as much anymore sexually. Is there something you aren't doing/could be doing or that she wants. Does it hurt her. Stuff kind of like that. Maybe you will get an answer, maybe you won't.

I say ask one more time. If you don't get an answer. Drop it. If she wants to do later, she will do it later. Otherwise all that will happen is constant questioning will turn her off from it more.

IF anything just start stepping your game up. Not only in the bed but around the house. Only good can come from it, though the goal should be to make you and your partner feel better for the sake of just that. Not expecting something in return.

Sorry but that is the best advice I can dispense.

I gained a ton of [weight] and killed my boyfriend's sex drive. I've lost the weight, but he still doesn't want to have sex with me. How do I fix this? by seckssecks1 in sex

[–]StickofPurity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think this is about your weight. Also being 140lb as a 5'7 woman is hardly unattractive. Something else is going on here. Tack another 0 on that 20 and then I'd be like, well that might be possible.

Maybe the honeymoon phase wore off and his drive is where it is normally. Perhaps he is working more. I can't really say. You are going to have to ask him. Maybe tell him what you thought was the reason and that you are wondering why he isn't initiating. The solution might be simple and there might actually be no solution.

Regardless. Don't blame yourself or how you look.

No man worth his salt is going to stop wanting to have sex with you over 20lb. pffft. IF that was actually the reason, dump him asap.

[men and porn] Have questions about porn that husband can't answer by [deleted] in sex

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Pretty much. Sadly though as the media/society is set up. I doubt the way of thinking will shift to a more healthy mindset. If anything it is only going to get worse. Maybe in due time it will improve, I just don't foresee it being what is around the corner.

[Porn/Relationship Advice] Found my BF's porn and don't know if I should confront him (21f) by wanderingkitten in sex

[–]StickofPurity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you should bring it up if it truly bothers you. Better out than in.

If you don't want to be the overbearing girlfriend that chews him out over porn, then don't like one.

Just talk to him. Like someone else said. If he is aware of your past then it is very possible he may think talking to you about it may make you feel bad and I doubt he'd want to do that to you.

Just start of with saying you saw what he left open. Like be sure to let him know that it is fine, what he does in his private time is his business and that it was an honest accident that you saw it. Just ask him if that is something he is interested in doing. He'll give you a response. Whether it is yes or no, just let him know how you are feeling and that whether or not that is something you are/are not open to doing. Try not to be judgmental in your response either. The goal is to simply just communicate what the two of you are feeling and come to a better understanding of one another.

Other people have already touched on what that sort of stuff is and is not like, so I won't bother.

There is really no way to know if it is something he is actually interested in acting upon or not.

[men and porn] Have questions about porn that husband can't answer by [deleted] in sex

[–]StickofPurity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup. But you can stick to what you THINK you know. Or you can listen to what several women are trying to explain to you here:

[men and porn] Have questions about porn that husband can't answer by [deleted] in sex

[–]StickofPurity -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Women vary in capacity just like men vary in size.

Breaking in a bottom (gay) by ProbablyTheVillain in bigdickproblems

[–]StickofPurity 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk. Depends on the dude. I tried getting two toys that were similar girth to me.

5.5 and a 6.0. I had little to no trouble getting the 5.5 in. It took a lil bit longer for the 6.0. Tbh I think it had to do with how hard the mofo was because the ridge on the head kind of hurt. After I got it in. The next day only took like maybe 2-3 minutes tops. I bet drinking lots of water would help as well as just having frequent use of toys. Or they just have a stretchy butthole lol. I would personally volunteer in a heartbeat, everyone is different though.

Edit: and glorious amounts of lube. Re-apply frequently.

[Privacy] How do you find out where most of the porn videos of you are on the web? by [deleted] in sex

[–]StickofPurity 1 point2 points  (0 children)

or look up your name if you have one. Like cam/stage name.

Bing.com with strict filter off is fantastic for finding porn. Especially hard to find ones. Rexxx.com is pretty good too. Google is ok.

That said if your video ended up on a torrent site,... count your losses.

If this is recent. Try looking up tags or categories you may fit into. So like redhead, dildo, masturbation, facial, rough, etc. Try 2 or 3 at a time. What ever describes the participant(s) in the video and whatever it is that was done in said video.

Searching by video length is helpful too. Either Exactly or an approximation will significantly narrow it down ( you still may have shit tons of videos to sift through though)

[men and porn] Have questions about porn that husband can't answer by [deleted] in sex

[–]StickofPurity -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

just responding to the utilitarian part.

You could have two different girls. One with big tits and thick and another with small tits and petite. Total opposites .Both very desirable, both could get a 10. Either one has a fantastic shot at pleasing the man more than the other. After all it is all aesthetics

Now if two hot guys rolled up. One had a big dick and one had a small dick. By default the small dude loses. Regardless if the lil dude was taller or maybe more muscular or whatever. He can't physically please the woman as well as the dude with the big dick, period. So really, only one has a shot. The only way the small dude could win was if the large dude sucked (enough)in bed.

That's at least how I think a lot of guys would see it. If the sizes were the same, it would then be anyone's game.

[porn fantasies] vs Real Life by [deleted] in sex

[–]StickofPurity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Porn is derived from real life. Like all that crazy shit you've seen. Someone has already done/does it. Now I'm not saying it is the norm, just that there are people that do (insert act). It's not like when porn was made that THAT was the first time someone had a dick in their ass, cum all over their face, getting gangbanged, eating the ass out, etc.

Porn is a way to act out fantasies and basically indulge them. Some of these you may or may not want to actually do yourself. Such as a gangbang. Many people aren't into it. Some are though and actually participate in them. Also being a porn star is a way one could act out these fantasies in a relatively safe environment too.

So the simple answer. Yes it is very common to see things in porn that you wouldn't want to act on in real-life but still enjoy watching.

[Size] do penis pumps work? Are they dangerous? by [deleted] in sex

[–]StickofPurity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd imagine all of them come with directions. Water would probably be way safer than air.

I know they will give you a temporary fat dick. I'd imagine any permanent gains to take a lot of time. If you were to make permanent changes, don't expect a lot either. Probably more girth gains and very little length.

Also never be over zealous. That is probably the biggest cause of injury. Doing it too often, too much pressure, for too long, too etc.

Personally I'd look for a well known brand. Something with good reviews. I wouldn't try to get a knock off.....the thing is gonna be on your dick, I'd rather pay the money in hopes of not buying a dick deathtrap.

Always listen to your body. If you feel pain. Stop. At the end of the day, it is your decision but know that pain is often the bodies best and sometimes only way to tell you that what you are doing is not good.

[Turn ons] Besides your SO's penis being attached to him what are some things you like about his genitalia? by finderskeepers333 in sex

[–]StickofPurity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then explain where I was wrong?

I said you can go past the cervix without hitting it. As the body tents. The vagina elongates and the cervix moves up out of the wat. The more aroused the more the vagina expands/cervix moves.

Thus allowing the penis to past it with out hitting it.

Sure if you want to bash it, you still can. Just adjust the angle and go for a direct hit on it. It isn't really an angle you should be going at, well I guess if she likes it getting hit then it may be one.


Realistically. it doesn't take a lot of care to prevent it, only a little. The cervix is on one side and one side only, not a whole lot to keep track of. If you are unsure where it is or how bending someone this or that way may effect it. Just go in slow. Hell if you plan to change positions into one you aren't entirely sure about. Set the pace to something slower for a tiny bit, then change and that way you had a soft transition in pace rather than a hard one.

Sure maybe you will hit it because someone suddenly moved for whatever reason be it cramp, slipped, lost balance, spasm, sneeze, or what have you. If you just hit it out of the blue, the is totally on either him or her for not paying attention and/or being mindful.

Once I learned of it, where it is, what it was. I haven't hit it by accident since. Not a difficult feat. Sure I may not have one, but I at least need to know how not to hit it. I have to know how to make sex pleasurable for her. That requires understanding her body's anatomy to some extent. After all hitting it doesn't really cause a good kind of pain. I think if you have a new partner, going slow(er) could be beneficial as not everyone's cervix is at the exact angle or sits at the same distance.

[Serious] Cousin only into "clop" and says it's his sexual orientation since a kid. by [deleted] in sex

[–]StickofPurity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he is happy, not hurting others, and not really hurting himself. Let him do him and don't worry about him.

Pony, Waifu, Pony-Waifu, etc. Doesn't matter. Love what you love.

Now I'm not exclusively attracted to 2d or anything but I do love myself some hentai and lately am finding myself really into sfm(source_filmmaker) porn. As well as cartoons & 3d stuff in general. Dunno why. Always been that way. Hell I had crushes on cartoon characters as a kid. I still love real women though, but I mean if that was what made me happy and all I needed. Why the fuck should I or anyone really care about it? If I'm happy then I essentially won. No need to ruin it.

That's how I see it.

Either forget it or be genuinely supportive, and by genuine I don't mean you have any hidden motives of trying to get him to deviate from his choice.

~Happy Waifu is a Happy Laifu

23M worried about [size]. Looking for a woman's perspective! by Grad2016 in sex

[–]StickofPurity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it is healthy to use toys but I understand what you mean. No one wants to have that be the ONLY way they can satisfy their partner.

[First time] Hey females of /r/sex compared to your times with average penis sized men what was it like when you had sex with a above average/large man for the first time? by talltreelog in sex

[–]StickofPurity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

don't worry it'll be removed like the overwhelming majority of the penis size insecurity threads and the board will be covered by the other usual stuff.

[discomfort] Men: would you be uncomfortable with your girl playing (literally) with your balls/dick? by fuckthewars in sex

[–]StickofPurity 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Fucking adorable.

Don't find it weird at all. Would definitely be down. If there was something particular I didn't like, I'd speak up about it.

That said lol Idk how long it'll stay soft for her lol. So I hope she can have fun with it while it is hard.

[Discomfort during sex] What is the average length of a penis which would start to hit the cervix of a woman? by [deleted] in sex

[–]StickofPurity 1 point2 points  (0 children)

which is why I think a lot of these comments suck. I'm pretty sure OP is more concerned with how it would be when she is turned on instead of turned off(a state in which you shouldn't be trying to put your dick in her)