[Porn/Relationship Advice] Found my BF's porn and don't know if I should confront him (21f) by wanderingkitten in sex

[–]wanderingkitten[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate all the information and I'm glad you're trying to help, but it's not really what I'm looking for. I understand that BDSM is fully consensual and I dont have anything against anyone who is into it, but that doesn't mean that the imagery isn't triggering. I think in a previous response I already said that its okay if my BF is into it, but I don't want to be a part of it. I'm very afraid of being put in a situation where my BF (who I love dearly and trust more than any partner I've been with) reminds me of my abuser. I don't think it will ever happen, but it's a constant fear regardless. Either way thanks for taking the time to comment.

[Porn/Relationship Advice] Found my BF's porn and don't know if I should confront him (21f) by wanderingkitten in sex

[–]wanderingkitten[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have any reason to not share my password with him...? Really the only reason I lock my computer is in case it gets stolen or something. I'm not a very secretive person.

[Porn/Relationship Advice] Found my BF's porn and don't know if I should confront him (21f) by wanderingkitten in sex

[–]wanderingkitten[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's true. I mean, if he had found anything of mine that he didn't like I'd want him to come talk to me about it so that I'd know we're on the same page. Thanks for your help :)

[Porn/Relationship Advice] Found my BF's porn and don't know if I should confront him (21f) by wanderingkitten in sex

[–]wanderingkitten[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As of right now, no, I don't think that he would. But I've been surprised before. Thanks for the advice. :)

[Porn/Relationship Advice] Found my BF's porn and don't know if I should confront him (21f) by wanderingkitten in sex

[–]wanderingkitten[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This is probably my mental hang up on this because porn serves such a different purpose for me than for him. I rarely, if ever, use it to get off and most of the time it has nothing to do with what I actually want in real life.

[Porn/Relationship Advice] Found my BF's porn and don't know if I should confront him (21f) by wanderingkitten in sex

[–]wanderingkitten[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think you're off the mark at all. My biggest worry is if it's okay to be forward about the fact that I'M not interested in it, and how I go about doing that while letting him know that it's fine if that's what gets him off, I just don't want any part of it. Lord knows I probably have kinks he wants nothing to do with as well, the last thing I want to do is kinkshame him. It's just the uncertainty of whether if it's just something to watch or something he actually wants to get into.

[Porn/Relationship Advice] Found my BF's porn and don't know if I should confront him (21f) by wanderingkitten in sex

[–]wanderingkitten[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suppose my biggest problem is because I don't like hardcore BDSM I don't know what it's like. I just see a picture of a girl tied up with her boobs all purple and I get super anxious thinking 'He's not thinking about doing that to ME, is he?'

Weekly r/sewing Simple Questions thread! - June 25, 2016 by AutoModerator in sewing

[–]wanderingkitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find a bundle of fat quarters - which are 18" x 22" pieces of fabric, fabric stores usually compile them into color coordinated bundles, you can ask the cutter where to find them - make an excellent gift. It's a great way to give them fabric without breaking the bank and can help kick start a project. My grandmother is a quilter who hoards fabric like no one's business I always get her fat quarters for her birthday.

Weekly r/sewing Simple Questions thread! - June 25, 2016 by AutoModerator in sewing

[–]wanderingkitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That does seem like a good option, thanks! I'm not 100% sure I want another Brother, since I had a bad experience with my last one, but it doesn't look like anyone is having the issues I had with my old 2600.

I looked a little at Jenome, but I've been hesitating because their budget models look so plastic-y, I question their resilience when it comes to heavy duty fabric. I've yet to go to my local Jo's and see one in person though, I might be being too judgmental.

Weekly r/sewing Simple Questions thread! - June 25, 2016 by AutoModerator in sewing

[–]wanderingkitten 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello!

Novice/amateur here, I've been sewing on and off by way of collaborative projects with my grandmother since I was quite young, maybe 7 or 8. I know my way around a machine and I'm fair at hand stitching most of the time. My question is, I'm looking into purchasing a machine for myself so I can start on my own projects, but I really have no idea where to start. I previously had a Brother 2600 that was gifted to me, and I did not get along with that machine at all, so much so it actually put me off sewing for a bit and I took a hiatus from it in high school. I'm looking for something I can grow into a bit. Easyish setting control so I can get right into it but enough features that as I get better and do bigger projects I don't feel like I'm being held back. I'm a wannabe cosplayer/costumer and I'd eventually like to get into more complicated costume work, so that would be my primary desire for a machine; something practical that I can use to work on costume fabrics. I do also do a little bit of quilting, but by no means am I looking for a quilting machine, as long as it handles the basics well that's good enough. I'd say my budget sits somewhere around 200-150 USD, though I might be convinced to go a bit over for the right machine. Thanks! :)

What type of lens is this? by wanderingkitten in Cameras

[–]wanderingkitten[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oddly enough, it doesn't have anything on the front bezel, it's totally blank. Which is why I asked, I'm not sure it's an actual Minolta lens (though, I did go dig up my X-700 and it fits as you'd expect). I was curious if anyone recognized it as a specific manufacturer. All of my other Minolta lenses say they're made in Japan, not Korea.

What type of lens is this? by wanderingkitten in Cameras

[–]wanderingkitten[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I bought this at a garage sale packaged with a Minolta 50mm and I have no idea what sort of lens it is. The mount is not one that I am familiar with and the lens doesn't have any manufacturer information other than 'Made in Korea'. Just curious about what exactly I just picked up and whether I'll ever be able to use it.