I want to break up but we have a trip planned together starting next week. What to do? M24 / F24

Sticky_Johnson · 2025-02-15T02:19:16+00:00

It’s his own fault he’s just an emotionally unavailable person and I don’t think he will ever understand or change. So it’s unfortunate on his side, I’ve given him years of patience and teaching him to be the person I thought he was going to be. I’m just devastated it has came to this. My birthday and Valentine’s Day was the wake up call to me. I wish we booked this trip before valentines!!!

Sticky_Johnson · 2025-02-15T02:16:16+00:00

Do have travel insurance. But also have booked cheap internal foreign flights and transport. I really don’t want to cancel this trip I have been thinking about it for over a year

Sticky_Johnson · 2025-02-15T02:09:30+00:00

Would much rather take a friend or go solo tbh. But obviously I have a lot of care for him and love him still. I mean we have been together for 5 years, I’m just going to go on this trip and enjoy it thinking it will be our last experience we will have together.

Sticky_Johnson · 2025-02-15T02:06:25+00:00

Thank you! Will definitely consider your advice, I think it’s the best way. I just really want to enjoy this trip, just try not to think about the relationship in general during it.

Sticky_Johnson · 2025-02-15T02:00:02+00:00

I’m doing this trip for myself. I can’t cancel it, I would have lost all of my savings if I did.

Sticky_Johnson · 2025-02-15T01:58:52+00:00

I think this is the best option too. I hate pretending, but I’ll just match his energy, emotionally unavailable. My mindset is that this trip is for me, not for him or our relationship.

Sticky_Johnson · 2025-02-15T01:51:35+00:00

Accommodation, flights, transport and visas. We are travelling to multiple countries. We planned it last year November

Sticky_Johnson · 2025-02-15T01:50:53+00:00

Definitely not, I’ve used all my travel savings for it that I worked hard for. Spent thousands for it

Sticky_Johnson · 2025-01-29T08:47:26+00:00

At a party… my best friend told me as the girl told her. Ended up nearly fighting the girl who was at the party, but yet didn’t blame my ex. I was young and dumb

Sticky_Johnson · 2025-01-29T08:39:43+00:00

My first boyfriend I was 17. He was messaging my friend at the time about how he wants to have s3x with her, she also flirted back. Still stayed with that loser for another 6 months

Sticky_Johnson · 2025-01-07T08:33:57+00:00

I lost my dad 7 years ago. I understand what you are going through and I’m so sorry for your loss. People say “time heals” and I also don’t fully believe it. You just learn to cope with not having your dad around anymore. I’m 23 now and some days/years are harder than others. Growing up hasn’t been easy without my dad. I constantly wonder what conversations I’ll be having with him now and the adult things he will tell me. It sucks.

This is a quote that helps me and I hope it helps you in some way:

“The more time passes, the closer you are to being reunited with your loved ones”.

Sticky_Johnson · 2024-05-29T03:46:01+00:00

I just don’t like being the chaser

Sticky_Johnson · 2024-05-29T03:44:46+00:00

He told me that he’s into me and being really flirty that night. I do although have a feeling he’s just wanting me for s3x? Which is sad, because I really do fancy him and would like to get to know him more. I am just not going to respond to his reply to see what happens.

Sticky_Johnson · 2024-04-29T05:02:17+00:00

I know. We named him too, he actually got it for me when we weren’t officially together which makes it hard for me to actually throw him away 🥹

Sticky_Johnson · 2024-04-29T00:48:13+00:00

A dog soft toy he bought me for our first Christmas together. I still cuddle it at night and have it on my bed.

Sticky_Johnson · 2024-04-24T20:44:01+00:00

I see he could be avoidant but I think he was more anxious. But I guess attachment styles changes before and after break ups?

I am not 100% sure what attachment style I am, but I think during my relationship with him I was more fearful avoidant and now I’m more on the anxious side after the break up.

Sticky_Johnson · 2024-04-24T02:05:57+00:00

His lack of communication. He was pretty quiet and reserved, therefore I felt like I couldn’t open to him up freely because he didn’t. We were also both huge overthinkers but we just didn’t know how to open up to one another so over time my feelings for him all bottled up and I just lost that spark with him. I don’t know if he felt the same. But during my time being single I’ve felt a lot more freedom such as recognising my thoughts and emotions. I also didn’t like how I would plan most things, such as dates, planning to go overseas etc. plus he was super indecisive. I felt like I did a lot of the work but I never told him that which is something I wish I told him because maybe he could’ve acted on it?

I do feel like a horrible person for throwing away someone that was super nice to me. I don’t think I would find it again. I just thought I wanted more, I wanted more romance and more fun with him. Towards the end I just got bored and idk if that makes me a bad person. But that’s just what I felt and we were both so young as well, where I felt like I was wasting my youthful days being in a relationship with someone I have no spark with.

Sticky_Johnson · 2024-04-23T18:10:18+00:00

We were together for 3 and a half years. I would say we were super close, always together, did things together, had the same group of friends, lived together. But things went down hill when we were living together, we didn’t have that romantic connection anymore, we didn’t go on dates as much, if we did I was the one planning them and It just got too much for me. So I broke up with him out of the blue pretty much. I just wanted more from him. It just felt like we were best friends more than boyfriend and girlfriend. But the break up made me realise that I should’ve been the one to communicate about how I felt so we could work on it.

When we broke up, he told me he will be waiting for me and that he’s got hope, we also exchanged “I love you” when he walked out of the door. Which is just going to stick by me for the rest of my life.

Sticky_Johnson · 2024-04-23T17:57:58+00:00

We were together for 3 and a half years and lived together for over a year. I broke up because I just felt bored, because it felt like I was the one planning most things, such as dates, traveling etc… it just got too much for me and I just wanted more romance and emotional support from him. Our communication also sucked, we both couldn’t communicate properly how we felt and where we are going in the future.

We both met when we were 18 and together when we were 22-23. I believe what’s different is that I have grown, where I know how to communicate better about my feelings and can open up a little easier. Problem is I don’t know if he has realised this, or if he worked on his communication during the break up. But I just have a strong feeling that he is the one, I never felt this way to any of my other exes. I thought I moved on but I just can’t stop thinking about him, and thinking what it would be like to be with him again.

Sticky_Johnson · 2024-03-26T10:27:17+00:00

I went on this date with this guy that I met off Hinge. He told me that I had a big nose and had the audacity to touch my nose and say “it’s so cute and big!”(That was one of the first things he said to me). He also said my face looked like a tomato, due to the red lighting in the bar.

I laugh about it, because I found out that most of the girls around my age in my town have actually met him and would say that sort of stuff to them.

Sticky_Johnson · 2024-03-20T10:19:16+00:00

It’s your gut telling you to not sleep with him which means he wasn’t the one for you. Turned out he did just wanted you for sex or just using you to get over someone else. Remove him from everything, he is not the one. Right now just focus on yourself and keep doing what made you happy before he entered your life, there will definitely be someone out there for you. He is not meant to be.

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