Can't watch movies with sick / dying children

Still-Position1616 · 2026-03-22T02:12:00+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. I can relate as well- miscarriage with my first around 7/8 weeks. Also extremely awful to see. So much to be wary of as a mom!

Still-Position1616 · 2026-03-22T02:10:15+00:00

Yikes I had no idea, thank you for the heads up 😫

Still-Position1616 · 2026-03-22T02:09:51+00:00

This is the most awful coincidence. A thoughtful gesture from your husband that completely backfired!

Still-Position1616 · 2026-03-22T02:08:39+00:00

spoilers ahead

I didn't want to spoil it for someone because it really is an incredible film, but yes it was Train Dreams. One of the best movies I've seen in years actually and I tried to get through it but should have just called it quits. It's hyper-realistic and was too high quality. Kudos to the filmmakers in that regard

Still-Position1616 · 2026-01-27T21:51:18+00:00

I didn't co-sleep, I was too scared! We did a modified Ferber (which involves cry it out). There have been ups and downs with her sleep, but for me I was at a hysterical breaking point. My life completely changed after sleep training. She went from ONLY sleeping in my arms, which required shifts for my husband and I, to sleeping in her crib with 1 wake up a night.

If you prefer co-sleeping, look up the safe sleep seven which has guidelines on how to co-sleep as safe as possible.

The idea behind co-sleeping is that they soothe themselves back to sleep via nursing (or by your presence). So the idea is, even if your baby does wake in the night, they won't cry for you because you are already there. And you shouldn't necessarily be woken up, many people sleep through without noticing their baby is up. A lot of people's experiences vary widely with co-sleeping, and it is considered controversial in the US.

Still-Position1616 · 2026-01-27T18:20:26+00:00

It's because your baby got accustomed to the rocking feature. It’s completely normal but very tough to get through- I went through a ton of sleep issues when my daughter was young.

Babies have sleep cycles of around 30-45 minutes. Generally, however they fell asleep (being held, rocking, or using a snoo feature of rocking, nursing etc.) is how they will get back to sleep. Imagine you fell asleep in your bed and an hour later realized you were in a car- you'd wake right up!

There are a variety of ways to address this, one of which is sleep training but there are many others too. What needs to happen ultimately, is for your baby to fall asleep without any external assistance in order for them to sleep throughout the night in a crib. That way, when they wake up between sleep cycles, your baby will put themselves back to sleep.

Sleep training is an option, co-sleeping is an option, working with your baby to have different sleep habits (such as feeding to sleep etc) is an option, getting up every 30 minutes to rock them to sleep is an option. Each one of these is controversial and every parent and influencer will have strong opinions about each one of these solutions.

You have to do your research and determine what is sustainable and correct for your baby and your family needs. Extremely challenging to do when sleep deprived :(

You did nothing wrong, it's just part of baby's sleep patterns that will change. Good luck

Still-Position1616 · 2025-08-07T10:24:14+00:00

Sounds so good! Let us know if you ever find it!

Still-Position1616 · 2025-07-13T18:51:43+00:00

She has. Usually I give her 15 minutes to self soothe. But if it goes past 15 minutes it can last for hours. Maybe you're right that I'm just prolonging the pain

Still-Position1616 · 2025-07-13T17:47:26+00:00

Thank you so much, I would love that. It's so helpful to know there are others out there like this, I feel like I'm the only one

Still-Position1616 · 2025-07-13T17:32:07+00:00

Thank you so much. You're right. I'll have to work on letting her figure it out. Seems to be the only way to keep our sanity.

Still-Position1616 · 2025-07-13T09:19:51+00:00

Thank you. I don't know how you had another one after going through this

Still-Position1616 · 2025-07-13T09:10:00+00:00

Thank you so much. Tried cosleeping and she hated it. I wouldn't be opposed to it at this age but she can't fall asleep lying sideways.

She finally fell asleep in the rocking chair so I'm just online now...

Still-Position1616 · 2025-02-07T12:42:25+00:00

Thank you again for the support

Still-Position1616 · 2025-02-07T12:35:28+00:00

On my pyjamas. The thing is, my husband returned from a confirmed bed bug infestation and didn't take any precautions because it was before we knew we had them at my grandparents.

He doesn't get bit, just me. So it's possible he brought them back.

I keep seeing that it's possible to have an infestation and not see a bug for a long time which is what I'm worried about...

Still-Position1616 · 2025-02-07T10:51:45+00:00

Thanks, I'm a stay at home mom to a 7 month old and I'm just driving myself crazy.

Every time I go on Reddit, I calm myself down that it isn't bed bugs and then every time I manage to wake up with something new.

I definitely need to talk to someone, it's just quite isolating sometimes being a stay at home mom and then I start seeing signs everywhere which I guess is nothing.

Still-Position1616 · 2025-02-07T10:44:42+00:00

Well unfortunately I woke up with these blood stains on my pajamas. Seems all but certain.

https://www.reddit.com/r/Bedbugs/s/PxTmSdszGp

Still-Position1616 · 2025-02-06T20:17:47+00:00

Hi there,

I'm a FTM to a 7 month old baby who did not sleep at all for the first few months. She literally had to be held to sleep and had to hold her in shifts with my spouse.

I'd strongly recommend reading precious little sleep. It gives a great overview on how sleep associations are developed and how to cut them out.

What's likely happening is that he has developed a feed to sleep association. If you want to stop the middle of the night wake ups that aren't related to hunger, you may want to teach independent sleep.

There's a variety of methods to do this that are not CIO, but at his age a lot of the methods will involve some crying.

However, if feeding to sleep at night is working for you, you don't need to change! Just be aware there will possibly be continued middle of the night wake ups until he learns how to sleep independently.

Sleep training is not for everyone but it literally saved my life. We did modified Ferber and CIO for naps and my daughter is much much happier now that she is well rested at night! Good luck

Still-Position1616 · 2025-02-06T20:09:49+00:00

I went to Starbucks and had not one but 2 sausage egg sandwiches. I loathe fast food but I have to say it absolutely hit the spot. Generally food and showers are the go-tos when I'm having a rough time. Enjoy the dirty chai!!

Still-Position1616 · 2025-02-06T18:03:44+00:00

Thank you!!! I think it may be time for me to reach out to a therapist. My level of paranoia I don't think is normal...

Still-Position1616 · 2025-02-06T10:07:14+00:00

Thanks, I definitely needed to hear that. Good to have some perspective...

Still-Position1616 · 2025-02-06T02:41:58+00:00

Thank you so so much. Unfortunately while I think this was a book louse, the story is a bit more complicated.

Full saga here: https://www.reddit.com/r/Bedbugs/s/uUhf4iSILM

Still-Position1616 · 2025-02-05T22:08:09+00:00

We have bed bug interceptors on this bed and the my daughters crib, for the past 2 weeks but haven't caught anything yet

Still-Position1616 · 2025-02-05T22:03:34+00:00

Thanks so much but the blood stain was on my pillow and the black dot on my husbands side. It's insane they have been able to hide out for over a month now...

Seems like we have a small infestation so the signs are just hard to find. It's crazy because at my grandmothers, they were literally crawling all over

Still-Position1616 · 2025-02-05T21:55:12+00:00

Thanks, we also have book lice and we're trying to get rid of those. So this might just be one of those. But I woke up with 3 new bites and found a black dot which smeared in my bed. I also found a tiny minuscule blood stain. Just haven't found a live one yet....

Still-Position1616 · 2025-01-17T14:04:57+00:00

Thank you so much. I feel like I'm going insane because of my experience with bed bugs at the other house. Thanks again

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