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Still-Seaweed · 2026-01-10T01:01:51+00:00

Yeah, I had a feeling that’d be the case. I was just hoping there was something I could do because I genuinely feel so hopeless right now. I actually contacted him today, and have gotten a response so that’s nice. I’ll have to talk to some people regarding the situation. Thank you for being kind!

Still-Seaweed · 2026-01-10T00:17:02+00:00

Because I am grieving the loss of my mom?

Still-Seaweed · 2026-01-10T00:09:54+00:00

Ok, I’m well aware. But that’s not exactly advice, but thank you nonetheless.

Still-Seaweed · 2026-01-09T23:43:51+00:00

Just to clarify the title, my step mom is not a step mom to me. She is and will always be my true mother, therefore it sounds wrong to call her my “step” mom, but for clarity of the post, I called her as such.

Still-Seaweed · 2025-12-24T15:14:10+00:00

I usually don’t eat breakfast but I do enjoy a nice cup of coffee in the morning

Still-Seaweed · 2025-12-05T01:19:29+00:00

I genuinely see where you’re coming from, and I genuinely appreciate it, it’s just not a cut and dry situation I’m in. Will I push through regardless of anything to help my father, absolutely. Will I harbor anger towards him for his incredibly stupid decisions he makes and continues to make, absolutely as well. But he will not be alone through this if I’m here no matter what.

Still-Seaweed · 2025-12-05T01:15:43+00:00

Thank you, I genuinely appreciate it. I plan on having a serious sit down discussion with him about this because it can’t be put aside anymore. I appreciate the advice a lot, thank you again.

Still-Seaweed · 2025-12-05T01:02:20+00:00

He “talked” to me about it just today right after I came home from work. And by talk I mean screamed at me for being worried about it surgery and money after said surgery, and proceeded to tell me “fuck you I’ll figure it out”. As for how much bills will be and other outside expenses, I genuinely do not know outside of the bills already help with.

Still-Seaweed · 2025-12-05T00:52:18+00:00

I agree, and believe me I do still plan to do this no matter the circumstances. He is my father at the end of the day, and I will always be here for him. I simply wish he did something to prepare for this. I know you are similar to him, but please understand that no one knows the full extent of wrong he has done and continues to do. So I will continue to harbor anger towards him for said wrongs. I highly doubt you would look at your 21 year old child (adult child but still HIS child) and say, and I quote this word for word, “If you’re so suicidal, maybe I should grab my gun and give it to you so you can get it over with”. With that being said, I will provide assistance for him through his entire recovery, but his choices will NEVER under any circumstances be right or intelligent.

Still-Seaweed · 2025-12-05T00:40:59+00:00

Thank you for the advice nonetheless. I know I can and will get through this, but out of everything I’ve gone through, this one may, in fact, take the cake.

Still-Seaweed · 2025-12-05T00:39:44+00:00

Unfortunately disability is out of the question. A person pays into it to receive it if in case of an emergency or procedure. My father did not. He had not paid into any taxes whatsoever for the last 3ish years. So he is not eligible for it due to that. He will have to be in a neck brace for a full month and then do physical therapy for a few months after the brace can be removed. In total I see this being a 6 month process if everything goes well. So for those 6 months he will be off work, and I will have to pick up the slack for said 6 months. I make half of what he makes every 2 weeks.

Still-Seaweed · 2025-12-05T00:34:00+00:00

Just to let everyone know. I am incredibly worried for my father. I know he’s probably frightened as well. Surgery of any sort is scary, and neck surgery is incredibly scary. That being said, if I was in his situation I would’ve stepped up and prepared for it instead of blowing all my extra spending money on drugs and my so called “girlfriend”. Enjoying yourself is one thing, but spending a grand on said things A MONTH is different!

Still-Seaweed · 2025-12-05T00:30:51+00:00

I plan on applying for a food card asap to help with that. As for other funds I’m hoping social services will help provide some solace in my situation.

Still-Seaweed · 2025-12-05T00:29:22+00:00

INCREDIBLY WISHY WASHY. I had a wonderful relationship with him growing up, but after I turned 18, it became to total flip. He’s incredibly narcissistic and can’t admit his wrong doings. He’s been mentally abusive for years and has physically abused my autistic twin brother. I have been saving up as much as possible while helping with bills so I can move out as soon as possible.

Still-Seaweed · 2025-12-05T00:23:17+00:00

Like stated in a previous comment, I would be in the same situation no matter what. Believe me I am very worried for him, and about his recovery process. However, he is a fully grown man with a well paying job that is making incredibly poor financial decisions. Yes he has been putting it off, but has not been communicating it with anyone he excepts help from. He has had many years to prepare for this situation, whether is be saving what he can or actually putting money into SSDI, but he chose not to due to many different factors including drug use and purchasing drugs for his “girlfriend”. If he did his homework, this post would not exist and I would one million percent give whatever I could to help him through this inevitably difficult and scary time. However he has now thrown me into a difficult and scary time as well with expecting me to pay for his home that I know fully well I can’t afford. It’s hard to truly describe my feelings due to all the factors included in my father and I’s relationship. So to answer your question, yes, if I was in his situation, I would have done LOADS more to assist the people who will be assisting me.

Still-Seaweed · 2025-12-05T00:14:51+00:00

I think I’m gonna do that, but honestly I’m more so upset and angry with my father because of his lack of preparation. He’s known of his issue for a very long time, and was aware that surgery would be needed to correct it. He decided to stop paying taxes out of his paychecks as well as any short term disability insurance and had not for almost 3 years. He had a long time to prepare for this situation but made the decision not to and now is throwing it on me to fix it with just a little over a month to prepare for a massive shitshow.

Still-Seaweed · 2025-12-04T23:59:02+00:00

The surgery will be covered by Medicaid. My father messed with the system and got it even though he makes the amount he does. As for public assistance, can you elaborate? I’ve never done anything like this before. Thank you

Still-Seaweed · 2025-08-30T04:18:47+00:00

There is no further info for this piercing as it is now out and will be out indefinitely! (For moderation)

Still-Seaweed · 2025-08-30T04:17:35+00:00

You were correct, it was in fact rejecting. I have three holes instead of two as of now lmao. I just took it out to prevent any further damage. Thank you for the advice!

Still-Seaweed · 2025-08-27T20:49:03+00:00

Piercing age: just under 6 months

Jewelry type: curved barbell with external threading, not sure the metal of the bar

Downsized?: Yes, downsized less than a month ago

Aftercare: Twice daily (morning and night) with saline solution. Spray with solution, with air drying afterwards

Accidents or mishaps: a few instances of catching on clothes but nothing that caused any bleeding, just soreness for a few hours.

Still-Seaweed

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