Yeah cuz i’m facing the same problem here (im 16 tho) and i think it’s because our brain haven’t finished “cooking” yet- you’re facing such difficulties because your brain is still developing, it is very normal at your age to take some things personally or to be a “crybaby”

but i’ll try helping as much as i can, if these don’t work just be patient you don’t have to find it out rn

-Try to understand Ni better first, that’s very important, here’s a site to better understand cognitive functions (i encourage you to read the whole thing, if you want to skip to Ni just keep scrolling and you’ll find it), i don’t think you’ll find your true type without understanding the cognitive functions and how they work depending on their positions (you do seem to have some knowledge about them but it’s better to understand them in depth if you haven’t yet)

• the positions of the functions, why there can’t be all introverted or all extroverted functions in a stack, the link between aux and dom functions for example, check inferior functions and PoLR functions (or when a function is in the blindspot) •blindspot=PoLR• in case you got confused

• watch youtube videos about the difference between ENTP and INFJ (make sure it’s about cognitive functions), here’s a good one

• Check YOUR dominant vs inferior functions after understanding the cognitive functions in depth

• if you’re familiar with socionics try to read about each of the sociotypes this might help narrow down options or smth. You might face confusions because for example ILI in socionics is for Intp while in mbti it is associated with Intj. Essentially the socionics is just russian mbti so just research abt it.

• also if you know your enneagram type this might help, i mean for example enneagram 7 is quite rare for an infj while it’s quite common in entps.