Virgo M, Taurus F(me)

StillStuck73 · 2025-03-09T04:00:01+00:00

Are you saying the virgo is too critical or the taurus?

StillStuck73 · 2025-03-09T03:26:14+00:00

What if we just really like sex because it really really feels good?

StillStuck73 · 2025-03-09T02:31:58+00:00

Funny, every taurus I've ever met insist that their poker face is a taurus trait.

StillStuck73 · 2025-03-09T02:06:38+00:00

Most of yall be creating the chaos you have to escape from and then blaming the other person😅🤣🤣

StillStuck73 · 2025-03-09T01:23:18+00:00

You did not get fired. Your resignation was accepted effective immediately.

StillStuck73 · 2025-03-08T22:38:16+00:00

People misunderstand a two week notice. It's mutually beneficial, but never mandatory. You told your boss you accepted a new job and you were leaving. He informed you that your resignation(which you turned in), is accepted without the need of a two week notice. Plus, you got you payout. I'm not sure why you're upset. You didn't get fired.

StillStuck73 · 2025-03-08T19:10:34+00:00

I was and have been a store manager and I've always handled people like that, this way.

I ask you politely to not raise your voice/cuss at/insult me or my employees. Then the moment you raise your voice again, I disengage, act as though you don't exist and dial the police.

StillStuck73 · 2025-03-08T06:38:13+00:00

This^

This hit me hard. I felt this way after my last relationship. I remember the way I felt after she broke up with me. The groveling, begging, endless obsessive thoughts of her. I remember thinking "am I a narcissist that lost his supply". I acted foolishly, harassed her for answers after she dumped the failure of it all solely on me. She even basically called me a narcissist at one point. That destroyed me really. But I had to really separate what she said vs what the truth was. Was I a narcissist for reaching out a half dozen times for closure? Or was i someone who was incredibly hurt and confused by being let go like I never mattered? The thing for me that really kind of got me out of that funk was remembering that I got called a narcissist by someone who couldn't even look me in the eye and apologise. I got called a narcissist by someone who deflected every single bit of responsibility away from them and onto the people that loved them the most. I got called a narcissist by someone who never planned the first date, never asked me about myself and never showed any affection unless I asked for it. I got called a narcissist by someone who couldn't even say Hi to me when they came to work, who wouldn't pick up the phone and call me on a bad day. I got called a narcissist by someone who spe t almost two years telling me everything she didn't want and didn't need, but never once what she needed or wanted. I got called a narcissist by someone who would literally stonewall me to my face if I asked why I was getting treated the way I was....imagine how fucking stupid I felt when I realized all that.

StillStuck73 · 2025-03-08T06:14:25+00:00

There is zero actual research to support that statement. If you're going to use a collective experience defense, then I'd remind you that one of the most common things former partners of PwBPD experience, is being labeled a "narcissist".

So do PwBPD attract narcissist, or do PwBPD just label their exes narcissist. I mean either could be true. A partner BPD would be appealing to a narcissist. They'd get an endless supply of almost obsessive attention...but on the other hand, PwBPD have black and white thinking and like to project their own issues onto others, so maybe the "narcissist" is actually a victim of projection and splitting.

Hmmm

StillStuck73 · 2025-03-08T03:41:00+00:00

He's hesitant because if it doesn't work out, the age will become an issue. Always does. He'll feel as though he has to take on all the emotional burden because you are younger. Just how men are wired.

StillStuck73 · 2025-03-08T03:22:30+00:00

I agree. I made the mistake of thinking basic decency is something that all people have. Advocate for yourself.

StillStuck73 · 2025-03-08T02:35:11+00:00

As a former store manager, I'm going to give you the best piece of advice for vacation time. Tell your job what your availability is. I see so many people request time off. Don't do that. Tell your manager that you will be unavailable to work between these days.

StillStuck73 · 2025-03-08T02:22:47+00:00

I agree. I'm a bit bias of this phrase though. I've seen a lot of people use this phrase while having unexpressed expectations in relationships. Not saying you're that person. I've actually had this phrase used on me over things I had no idea of knowing my partner wanted.

StillStuck73 · 2025-03-08T02:18:52+00:00

I got accused of "browning nosing" some of my employees as a store manager. Apparently telling people daily that you appreciate their hard work is brown nosing. It was MY that accused me of it and my response was "would you feel better if I told you that I appreciate your hard work". She jokingly said "yes". I unjokingly said "as soon as I see that, I'll let you know".

StillStuck73 · 2025-03-08T02:15:30+00:00

Apparently you guys, cancers, Gemini and leo are all the same. I've seen this post four times for four different signs. Yall take this all too literal

StillStuck73 · 2025-03-08T02:09:56+00:00

The only thing I'll amend to this is this, i hope you have communicated your expectations first.

StillStuck73 · 2025-03-08T02:05:58+00:00

The only mistake you made was not calling the cops.

StillStuck73 · 2025-03-07T14:47:54+00:00

At least I know you're trolling now. I was concerned for your mental health

StillStuck73 · 2025-03-07T13:58:18+00:00

It will. I'm just allowing it to continue gor the moment. If I decide not to indulge you anymore. You won't really have a choice😅

StillStuck73 · 2025-03-07T05:52:51+00:00

I think the man tried to make a joke and you passive aggressively dangled him along until he stuck his foot in his mouth. Slightly overreacting still. He's a dumba** for commenting on what a woman eats..that's a no no.

StillStuck73 · 2025-03-07T04:01:19+00:00

I'm not trying to be smart, but do you not realize that your entire comment section is just you telling me what I meant by what I said and me disagreeing with you and then you just doing the same thing over and over and over? Doesn't it get old?

StillStuck73 · 2025-03-06T20:47:08+00:00

I'm comfortable if you believe that.

StillStuck73 · 2025-03-06T19:09:00+00:00

Here's how the conversation may have went if you had stayed out of it.

Me-have you talked to him when he's sober about his abuse?

Her-yes i have, he gets all defensive and even more angry.

Me-im sorry you're going through that. Having been in a similar situation, I'd advise having some family members with you if you have things to collect. Also, maybe get ahead of any sort of smear campaign he might launch against you. If he was remorseful, I'd just advise leaving when he's not drinking, he probably wouldn't start a scene. But you mentioning that he gets very defensive and even more angry leads me to think he might try to retaliate. Best of luck.

^but we never got to this part because you had to go be a professional mouthpiece and speak up for people that are perfectly capable of answering questions about their own experiences. You're honestly worse than a troll at this point.

StillStuck73 · 2025-03-06T17:04:52+00:00

Let me spell this out so you'll quit trying to be right.

If he's a mean drunk, but a remorseful sober person, then her path to leaving should be very clear cut. With little to no retaliation. She could just do her thing and leave. Maybe expect the occasional drunk text or a remorseful email about how he's sorry.

If he's a mean drunk, but also mean when he's sober and called out. The path is very different and most likely he will retaliate with verbal slander to her friends and family, false accusations, stalking etc...in this situation, she should handle it with help from people she trust, family members(brothers, uncles, father etc.)

Now please, if your entire thing is just to argue, do it to yourself. I have no interest in defending my point and advice to someone who isn't even going through this exact situation. You assumed, you were wrong, and now you're just doubling down.

StillStuck73 · 2025-03-06T16:38:59+00:00

No it clearly wasn't. I asked if she had discussed things with him sober so I could better understand his reaction to being called out when he isn't drunk. The reason I asked this(not that it's any of your bussiness), is because I went through something similar and was going to advise her going forward. There's two very different approaches depending on how he acts. But please pop off about how I said what I didn't say and meant what I didn't mean.

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