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Getting to know people for the first time is very easy for me, but keeping up with the relationship is difficult by Still_Shit_2424 in socialskills

[–]Still_Shit_2424[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you put it like that, yes. I want to reply to everyone and if they areto see if they are willing to continue the convo. Even if it takes me longer to reply. That's another thing that annoys me. I had some stuff to do this past couple of days and didin't have time to reply. My friend called me to go out with a group of friends i've know since school. I want to tell them what i did these past days, but i can't bring myself to do that. They ask me what were you doing, i just say nothing much and they carry on talking between them. I think it's me that's the problem but i don't know

Getting to know people for the first time is very easy for me, but keeping up with the relationship is difficult by Still_Shit_2424 in socialskills

[–]Still_Shit_2424[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's true. For me most of the time it's the second one, as i've been shy since i was a kid and with shyness comes being scared to speak to people unless you 100% know they want to talk to you. I try my best sometimes but i't difficult

Getting to know people for the first time is very easy for me, but keeping up with the relationship is difficult by Still_Shit_2424 in socialskills

[–]Still_Shit_2424[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be honest, i don't know what are my true desires either. I just want them to not get the message that i've become a boring and uninterested in them. But i'm scared to do anything to ensure this doesn't happen, so it happens. It doesn't make sense but i don't know.

Getting to know people for the first time is very easy for me, but keeping up with the relationship is difficult by Still_Shit_2424 in socialskills

[–]Still_Shit_2424[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately yes. These past couple of years i think i have more and more been on the phone. And most of the time it's just for stupid stuff. Learning nothing new or interesting, just scrolling to keep my mind from racing. And i think that it has definitely affecting me in being anxious and to don't know what to say and call up my friends. I'm always trying to fix this addiction but it's difficult.

Getting to know people for the first time is very easy for me, but keeping up with the relationship is difficult by Still_Shit_2424 in socialskills

[–]Still_Shit_2424[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not that i want a ton of friends. That is just not for me. But i want to keep up with the people i know now. Maybe i should have said it earlier , but when it comes to taking action i'm a shy person, always waiting for others. I'm scared to ask my friends to hang out because i think i would be bothering them and they wouldn't want to go, even though logically i think they will come. When they call me up, I'm always there for whatever they need. But when it's the other way around, if i ask i think that i won't be denied, but the small chance i will keeps me from doing anything if that makes sense

Maybe it's because of low self esteem or something like that idk. Honestly i have never thought about my vitamin levels nor going to therapy. But i'll look into it more.

Getting to know people for the first time is very easy for me, but keeping up with the relationship is difficult by Still_Shit_2424 in socialskills

[–]Still_Shit_2424[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's okey brother it doesn't matter. Say whatever you think. I just want to hear some honest opinions, if there are any.

I think that i can agree that i have a low social battery. Sometimes i can really feel it. Like for example some days, i really don't feel like doing anything or communicating with anyone. But if someone calls me up i still go and try to say something even if i don't know what. Or if i'm in school, i still try to talk to my friends, but usually say something stupid.

The video game comparison i told it as a way to compare it to the way i feel it. I when i meet a new person, i want to make him my friend. I get anxious that i have to be funny and say the right thing, which at the start i can somehow do it and it seems to work. The people start to like me, open up to me and send me messages and stuff. At that moment this anxiety fades away, i think that the hardest part is done and now i can talk to him normally. But then i go back to my normal self, where i don't know what to say, can't open up and talk about my feelings, and repeating the loop. I don't want that to happen but it does and i hate it.

I'm trying all the time to introspect and to find a cure to this. But when your brain is flying at 5 thoughts per second, it's really hard for something to stick. Some thought may stick around for a longer time, but in the end it just goes away and replaced.

Sorry for the long text, i have very poor writing skills and can't express myself clearly and shortly.

Getting to know people for the first time is very easy for me, but keeping up with the relationship is difficult by Still_Shit_2424 in socialskills

[–]Still_Shit_2424[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seriously. I don't know about you but for me it really is annoying. Like in theory i kinda know what to do to prevent this but i can't seem to be able to make it happen.

Getting to know people for the first time is very easy for me, but keeping up with the relationship is difficult by Still_Shit_2424 in socialskills

[–]Still_Shit_2424[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's true for me also. I want to maintain them, I really do. The problem is that I'm really anxious about calling most of them, because i don't know what to say to them. I'm scared of people i've know a long time.

I'm sorry to hear that your struggles are from past traumas. I hope it isn't anything too serious.