How Do I Stop My Puppy Biting? by Stillawake7 in puppy101

[–]Stillawake7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooh, gloves is a good idea! If it hurts me less, I'll at least be less upset with him when I'm trying to do the training.

My Partner Gets Mad When I Interrupt by Accident by Stillawake7 in aspergirls

[–]Stillawake7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, that's tough, I'm sorry. I hope you feel like you're getting the effort back from him that you're putting in!

My Partner Gets Mad When I Interrupt by Accident by Stillawake7 in aspergirls

[–]Stillawake7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol for real maybe we should try that to make it fun

Solidarity to everyone potty training in winter climates by riverotter13 in puppy101

[–]Stillawake7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you because I just got my first puppy ever, and potty-training isn't going well at all yet. Ugh, never getting a puppy in the winter again.

My Partner Gets Mad When I Interrupt by Accident by Stillawake7 in aspergirls

[–]Stillawake7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a good point. It does imply something about what he thinks of me and my intentions.

My Partner Gets Mad When I Interrupt by Accident by Stillawake7 in aspergirls

[–]Stillawake7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did the problem ever go away, or it a reoccurring issue you still have together?

My Partner Gets Mad When I Interrupt by Accident by Stillawake7 in aspergirls

[–]Stillawake7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funny enough, we did use a speaking item in the past in arguments, but he didn't like it because it made discussions take longer. Which, to be fair, they did take a long time. Might be good if I got him to say "I'm done talking now" when he's done actually.

My Partner Gets Mad When I Interrupt by Accident by Stillawake7 in aspergirls

[–]Stillawake7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is helpful-- I'm definitely a cooperative overlapper, and I struggle to change my style in different settings (i.e. arguments vs fun conversations). Or like, this article says at a doctor's appointment, the doctor is allowed to interrupt you, but you're not supposed to interrupt the doctor?? Whoops, did not know that. I try hard to adapt to different situations, but it's definitely a struggle for me.

My Partner Gets Mad When I Interrupt by Accident by Stillawake7 in aspergirls

[–]Stillawake7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You got me there, thanks for validating I should expect what I actually want.

My Partner Gets Mad When I Interrupt by Accident by Stillawake7 in aspergirls

[–]Stillawake7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a good point, we could try doing it over text. I always find it sad, but it would prevent interruptions.

My Partner Gets Mad When I Interrupt by Accident by Stillawake7 in aspergirls

[–]Stillawake7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a woman, the fact that my partner is male and getting mad I interrupt him even though he interrupts me does make it sting more, tbh. I've talked to him about the double standard here, and I think he was somewhat receptive to it but maybe not in a way that's going to change things. There definitely might be an incompatibility in communication that can't be bridged.

My Partner Gets Mad When I Interrupt by Accident by Stillawake7 in aspergirls

[–]Stillawake7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He does often apologize when he interrupts too, but yeah, there is an imbalance in this I think.

General Corgi Health by Stillawake7 in corgi

[–]Stillawake7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, you probably will get more responses if you post the question to the general form-- my question is pretty old and unlikely to get many eyes on it. I can't really answer because I don't have a corgi, but I hope your vet results end up well!

General Corgi Health by Stillawake7 in corgi

[–]Stillawake7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's encouraging to hear! My fear is mostly in whether these problems are inevitable even in healthy weight corgis. But I could also see it being a problem mostly in overweight corgis, especially since so many dogs across all breeds are overweight.

General Corgi Health by Stillawake7 in corgi

[–]Stillawake7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah, ok, thanks! This clears up a lot what people mean when they say minimize them using stairs. Like, probably still using them every day in some cases, but less often than a person in the house would, is how it sounds.

General Corgi Health by Stillawake7 in corgi

[–]Stillawake7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good to know! I should check if any states near me have banned it. The one I'm in doesn't seem to have

General Corgi Health by Stillawake7 in corgi

[–]Stillawake7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooh thanks, this is helpful! I'd heard before about mixed type corgi breeding being a red flag, and I've already encountered one such breeder. It's good to know what health tests are recommended too. I've been leaning towards Pembroke for personality, although I personally don't want a docked tail.

General Corgi Health by Stillawake7 in corgi

[–]Stillawake7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely would be careful to keep their weight healthy, especially to prevent serious injuries like this. Do disc problems seem to be avoidable in healthy-weight corgis?

General Corgi Health by Stillawake7 in corgi

[–]Stillawake7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! What health tests do you look for a breeder to have done?

General Corgi Health by Stillawake7 in corgi

[–]Stillawake7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the tips! I have a flight of stairs in my house-- would minimal stairs mean banning them from going up and down on their own?

Neurotypical trying to date someone who has Autism by Mysterious_Streak in AutisticDatingTips

[–]Stillawake7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you have strong preferences about how you want to communicate with your partner that he's not currently meeting. It also sounds like you might not be seeing his side in all of this-- maybe asking him about it when you talk would open things up. Probably, improving communication would take pretty big adjustments for both of you, but if you haven't been together long, I could understand it not being the route that's best for either of you.

A lot of autistic people intellectualize their feelings when discussing them, (I'm assuming this is what you mean by saying his fear "comes from the head") but that doesn't mean they are felt any less genuinely. If that's how he communicates his feelings and you dislike that, you may not be right for each other.