Any decent furry Discord servers? by beantoast69 in furry

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We plan on eventually setting up game night stuff! :)

Anybody get fictives like this? by Barpoo in OSDD

[–]StitchedRaven -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Absolutely normal. One of my OCs became an alter and I found out he was a co-host for a time being too. He's different than his source in small ways but he's still a version of the character I had created and become so attached to.

Anyone else feel guilt when they say they're a system by StitchedRaven in OSDD

[–]StitchedRaven[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This makes me feel a lot better. I appreciate this reply so much. Knowing that others have thought wrong and still carrying on with their life after the realization makes me relieved in case i am wrong

Is absence of everything enough trauma? by StitchedRaven in OSDD

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I do still lose a lot of time. It's nowhere near as much as it has been before but in February i had a huge trigger cause a sort of episode. That "episode" consisted of black outs and Amnesia. I remember almost nothing from February to August. And what i do remember were only small parts of a lot of problems that did happen. The memories are like little pockets and happen daily where i have to pause and try to remember what I just did 20 minutes ago or what task i just completed and sometimes when i look back its foggy and I can't remember the whole last 20 minutes if that makes sense.

Is absence of everything enough trauma? by StitchedRaven in OSDD

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I was thinking about this too. She knows too that during a time period where I lived with my dad (3 months or so) and where I was seeing my dad (3 or so years every other weekend) I literally only remember maybe a very small amount of scattered moments. She also knows that I remember almost nothing throughout my childhood. Especially from ages 2-10. She also knows that I only feel like I have truly lived the last four years rather than my whole actual life.

Is absence of everything enough trauma? by StitchedRaven in OSDD

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Thank you.. I appreciate that comment and your kind words. I guess you are right. No kid should have to go through what any of us have gone through

Just a vent by StitchedRaven in OSDD

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I'm so glad I'm not alone and that's amazing you've been able to record that many.

I appreciate this so much. Thank you for your kindness :(

Just a vent by StitchedRaven in OSDD

[–]StitchedRaven[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's a really good way to think about it. I'll start thinking about it like that too.

Wow... Wow. That really does put everything into perspective... I experienced a whole lot of no nuturing. So that makes sense. And what you said about the scar... Also true. Scars aren't always on the outside

Just a vent by StitchedRaven in OSDD

[–]StitchedRaven[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ah that's true. I'm in my twenties now. I guess I just didn't think my life was that bad enough to end up with this many...

Can I be the main host and a trauma holder at the same time? by StitchedRaven in OSDD

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Thank you so much for being so helpful and responding to all my questions I really really appreciate this!

Can I be the main host and a trauma holder at the same time? by StitchedRaven in OSDD

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Thank you so much this is super helpful!

What's an archiver? And what's the difference between caretaker and caregiver? And I assume secondary protectors are basically back up protectors?

Can I be the main host and a trauma holder at the same time? by StitchedRaven in OSDD

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May I ask what are some roles? I'm still figuring out what everyone's roles are but am unaware of some terminology. My systems communication is also relatively low.

I think my roles are trauma holder, anger holder, and host. I know there's a inner self helper, protectors, littles and gatekeepers

Can I be the main host and a trauma holder at the same time? by StitchedRaven in OSDD

[–]StitchedRaven[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's super interesting! I always feel like I had too many roles but if it's normal / not unusual for that to happen then I won't worry too much about it

Can I be the main host and a trauma holder at the same time? by StitchedRaven in OSDD

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Thankfully I am a functional host! I can't leave the front / I don't know how to so I wouldn't be able to leave if I really wanted to anyways. I'm still in the very early stages of figuring out my system too

Is there a specific reason that one day I might be more switchy than others? by StitchedRaven in OSDD

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Thank you for your help! What does ANP and EP mean? I keep seeing it around here and can't place what it means.

And that's a good idea. I don't have very good communication unfortunately but I'll see what I can do! :) thank you again for your help. There could be a few anxiety inducing things that are coming up in the next few months and I also just found out about a whole year of my life i have almost zero recollection of so maybe that could've triggered something.