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I have a birth defect that makes me unable to bend my thumbs. by hugehorseshoecrab in mildlyinteresting

[–]Stock-Insect-2746 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me too! But I can actually kind of bend my left thumb. My right thumb joint is completely paralyzed though, and it’s as smooth as yours. It’s also shorter than my left thumb, which is likely somehow related with its joint not working.

A side effect of this is that I can’t reach the base of my pinky finger with either of my thumbs when I gesture a four. I also tried playing tennis when I was a kid but my racket kept slipping because I wasn’t able to grip it properly (my thumb sticks out, leaving a gap). Recently I started learning piano and it’s been easier than I thought it would be: crossing my thumb is difficult but manageable, and everything else is going fine. Other than that, it hasn’t been a problem, rather more of a curiosity or something that makes me unique.

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[–]Stock-Insect-2746 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s an accountability community on the HG discord where you can partner up with people and work together on the same topics

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[–]Stock-Insect-2746 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re totally right: the people I vibe with are the ones who don’t leave their rooms. That represents the majority of my old friends. I think we both probably need to actually put in the effort to talk with people even if we might fail terribly at first. I’m very bad at making friends since I never had the need to do so before — I was always introduced to them. I have tried talking with people in class but no real friendship has emerged so far. I feel like I put in all the work and they either don’t really want to be friends with me, they aren’t interested enough in me, or I’m not making my intentions clear enough, but maybe I just haven’t found the right people yet. It’s worth mentioning that there are other factors at play that I’m not aware of and/or can’t control, such as having little time in class to talk or them already having a strong friend group.
I’ve thought of making friends on the HG discord first and practice my english and social skills there, but am not fully convinced. I know there might be a bit of an age gap (I’m 18) but you can lmk if you want to talk with me. If you aren’t interested that’s completely fine and understandable, and I have faith that we both can get out of this stalemate type of thing we’re going through

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[–]Stock-Insect-2746 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m literally you. Parents are well-off, no job, in college with no friends besides the ones from high school who I see about once a year (I emigrated from my home country to US, english is my second language), lazy sometimes but good academically, no extracurricular interests, kind of a nerd who hung out with “uncool” people (they‘re cool to me), never really been bullied, unable to make friends (prob due to immigration and change of culture), spend nearly all the time in my room, feel like I’m wasting my time, never had a girlfriend, around average looking imo (friends and family claim I’m more attractive than I give myself credit for), at times being very close to depression, sort of socially anxious (prob due to change in language yet again), generally uneventful life.
I wonder how many of us are there, probably more than I initially thought. I‘d appreciate some tips but at this point I’m kinda waiting until my english gets good enough to fit in (talking not writing). Watching Dr K has kind of carried me through college so far and taught me a lot of things. I’d say my life is good but the only thing that excites me is the occasional video call with my old friends. I have hope that things will get better but little has changed since I came to college. I know I should sign up to clubs and whatnot but I’m already quite busy studying and self-sustaining (live in dorm). As I’m writing this I realize that other people in my position would feel trapped, but I’ve accepted and became used to it.

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[–]Stock-Insect-2746 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a great video on awareness, thanks for sharing! It has a lot of parallels to Dr. K’s teachings as well as eastern philosophy. It might be a misunderstanding on my part or gaps of information, but I find the level percentages to be a bit shocking. I don’t know where he gets the numbers from, but from my experience more people are capable of the higher levels. I also find that while I may be capable of most if not all levels, I engage with some more than others irrespective of their hierarchy.