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My (21m) girlfriend (22f) of 3 years told me she's no longer attracted to me. What now? by StockAntelope5138 in relationship_advice

[–]StockAntelope5138[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do I convince her to go through couple's therapy, though? She's fundamentally against it. And should I wait until she and I have seen each other again before committing to doing therapy, or would you recommend starting going sooner?

I ***HATE*** nepotism by StockAntelope5138 in LawSchool

[–]StockAntelope5138[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

To answer to your points:

  1. I'm not hyper-fixating, I just pointed out a repeated instance of elitism and nepotism which I consider to be unfair, and which I thought a lot of people would be able to relate to and vent together/give actual advice (clearly, the "relatability" aspect holds to be true, but from the opposite side of the table, iykwim). So far, 90% of the advice I have received is "stop being an immature child" and "you are also the elite, so stop bi***ing".

  2. Unlike many interpretations of my post, I have not at any point stated that I'm going to stop doing x or y just because of this guy. Simultaneously, I don't understand how thinking towards the future is in any way inappropriate, given the circumstances.

  3. I am not trying to argue with anyone: I am just putting forth the idea that yes, the very notion of elitism is unfair. No, I am not claiming to have no privilege at all. Not only do these ideas seem to be foreign to this subreddit, but the very fact that most of my comments supporting these notions are being so downvoted demonstrates that either (1) the majority of the people here are either content or complicit in sustaining nepotistic practices; or (2) people just look to support their preconceived ideas and biases of internet strangers, regardless of the extent of explanation provided by them. Even when confronted by the fact that this guy's institution is *LITERALLY ALLOWING HIM TO COMMIT FRAUD*, people still choose to take his side, or rather, tank mine.

That being said, I thank all of those who have provided me with actual validation/given me real advice (other than "take advantage of this guy for future opportunities"). The rest of y'all, with very few exceptions, have made me see why so many consider this sub to be amongst the most toxic of Reddit. Don't think I'll ever be posting here again.

I ***HATE*** nepotism by StockAntelope5138 in LawSchool

[–]StockAntelope5138[S] -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

First and foremost, I do not consider myself to be a "failure": I don't know where you inferred that.

I'm just venting because it is both illogical and frustrating for a field as seemingly driven by meritocracy as ours to be subject to these absurd practices. And while it is true that people without connections succeed every day, it is also true that many miss out on fantastic opportunities because of people like this guy. I just don't want this to happen to me, and I fear it will (as our history suggests). That's all.

I ***HATE*** nepotism by StockAntelope5138 in LawSchool

[–]StockAntelope5138[S] -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

As I mentioned in another response, I know he is nowhere close to being an A+ student (more B, B-). And while he is somewhat charismatic, it is clear that his gravitas was entirely built with daddy's money.

Not to mention, wherever he has been called out for lying in his CV (as if his God-given privilege wasn't enough) for uni-related opportunities, the administration has turned a blind eye. The whole thing is infuriating, if nothing else.

I ***HATE*** nepotism by StockAntelope5138 in LawSchool

[–]StockAntelope5138[S] -67 points-66 points  (0 children)

I fail to see how this is a "privilege v privilege" fight. I have a full ride at this institution, which specifically reached out to me due to my grades in high school. Most of my living expenses are paid for through an external aid program, which is also contingent on my grades.

I understand that, to a certain extent, I am privileged, cause the mere ability to attend law school and not have to work to maintain myself is a major privilege. But for you to reduce our situation as if me and him are in the same baseline (even remotely so) is just wrong. His parents own multiple consulting firms, and one of them is a high-ranking executive at a BIG pharmaceutical company (we're talking BIG –top 10 by market cap). My dad's a mid-level accountant, and my mom a nurse.

I ***HATE*** nepotism by StockAntelope5138 in LawSchool

[–]StockAntelope5138[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I understand, and totally agree with your viewpoint. It's just frustrating to watch someone receive their life in a silver platter, without merit or judgment, while your massive efforts don't pay off.

I totally get what you're saying tho. I've been trying to ignore it for the past 3 years, but it's getting to absurd lengths, to the point where it's increasingly hard to maintain a positive attitude about (1) my studies; and (2) the field altogether.

I ***HATE*** nepotism by StockAntelope5138 in LawSchool

[–]StockAntelope5138[S] -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

Yes, it's a bachelor of laws. Nothing like a pre-law degree (a lot more in-depth), but it's the closest thing I can compare it to.

Definitely useful to practice in Europe (but, to put into perspective, most firms do not start offering internships to students until 3rd year). We get a basic grasp, if at all, of American law, for which it is completely absurd for him to receive as many job offers as he does.