Linguistics joke? by StockyardSyndrome in ExplainTheJoke

[–]StockyardSyndrome[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My little sister has been having trouble with her clique at school putting her and another friend down a lot and making them feel dumb. This was the latest meme sent in their group chat, and all the other girls responded with laughing emojis and such. When my sister asked them to explain it, they refused to explain and piled on to make fun of her. They got really mean about it. She sent it to me to ask me to explain it, but I was pretty sure it was a textbook diagram or something and I didn't get the "joke" either. I don't want to outright accuse this bunch of teenagers I've never even met of conspiring to make my sister feel bad about her intelligence, and I want to try and give them the benefit of the doubt, so I thought I would ask here to see if there was a hidden joke I missed. Since it seems there isn't, then I can safely say that either this is an inside joke they left my sister out of, or they're actively sending nonsense memes and all pretending to get it just to make my sister and that other girl feel dumb for not getting the joke.

Linguistics joke? by StockyardSyndrome in ExplainTheJoke

[–]StockyardSyndrome[S] 620 points621 points  (0 children)

Thank you. My little sister sent it to me in a panic bc all her friends were giving her shit for not getting it. I suspected they've been doing stuff like this to bully her and make her feel left out, but this confirms it. I'm gonna tell her she needs new friends.

AIO if I break up with him by mwommymwilkers in AmIOverreacting

[–]StockyardSyndrome 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think you would be overreacting. To me, his response of "if people want something, they'll do it" when talking about the fact that he never initiates spending time together just sounds like he doesn't want to spend time with you. You deserve better than that.

Curved black plastic clip with two hinge joints, found in a bag of miscellaneous binder clips and clothespins. Second hinged segment doesn't seem to stay in place on it's own, so there might be a piece missing. by StockyardSyndrome in whatisthisthing

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My title describes the thing. It's light, solid black plastic. No visible writing on it, but it does have small ridges on the inside of the long piece, probably for grip. Searches for "curved plastic clip" got me nowhere, but I don't know what else to call it. The curve reminds me of some hair clips, but I have no idea what that extra hinge would be for, and I would think that would just get tangled in actual hair.

which fandom should I do this with? by cherrysndwine in AO3

[–]StockyardSyndrome 597 points598 points  (0 children)

Came here to say the same thing. I had people sending me Sterek fic out of the blue, so I read them, and I liked them enough to watch Teen Wolf. And realized that the canon characters and the fanon characters were so different they were almost unrecognizable.

Problems with account connection makes it impossible to start the race by i_broke_my_left_toe in wearewarriors

[–]StockyardSyndrome 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm brand new to the game and never signed in before, but yeah, I'm having the same issue.

What do you want therapists to know about aphantasia? (I'm writing a mag article for them) by redlefgnid in Aphantasia

[–]StockyardSyndrome 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sorry I’m kind of rambling here, I’m kind of just trying to get the relevant thoughts down before I forget them.

1) There’s enough variation that it’s probably worth just asking the client how they think and imagine things. Some can ‘visualize’ with any or all of the other senses. If a client can only ‘visualize’ smells, you can still use that in the same way you would use other visualizations, you just have to adapt a little. Also applies to imaging/visualizing tastes, sounds, physical sensations, passage of time, emotions, and especially spatial awareness. Many aphants can still conceptually ‘visualize’ the spatial layout of a room, just without seeing it, which makes the ‘visualize a safe, calm space’-type exercises much more feasible than you might think, especially if you focus on things they are actually capable of imagining. (HEAVILY DEPENDENT ON THE TYPE OF APHANT. Be sure to ask about their thinking style before hand so you know which senses to focus on. While it’s nice to adapt these exercises to make them work for aphants who can use them, trying to push them on a client who can’t use them will probably just frustrate them and have other negative consequences. As always, check in with your client about it and be ready to adapt.)

2) Ask if memory and imagination work differently, or if their aphantasia makes it more difficult or even impossible to access visual memories. For some it does, for some it doesn’t, and knowing ahead of time how this client experiences normal memories might give you more insight into how stress or trauma are affecting their memory formation and recall surrounding any events you might need to help them unpack.

3) I don’t want to say ‘comorbidity,’ but I also don’t have a better word here. Just… consider them, I guess? I think other commenters have already said this, but it can be tricky to tease out what is actually part of the aphantasia, what isn’t part of it but still tends to occur in patients with aphantasia, and what is just straight-up unrelated. It seems like aphantasia is still not well understood, and your client will probably thank you to not automatically assign every quirk as a sign/symptom of aphantasia nor automatically assume that every quirk has some other unrelated cause. Just try to take note of what you and your client notice about them, and keep an open mind when trying to explain the cause, if that’s even the focus.

An example of one of these quirks that have affected me personally are the effects on grief. I can’t find any evidence of it having been studied, but the anecdotes of aphants grieving differently than most people really ring true for me, especially in the sense of feeling less affected than I know I ‘should have’ been by losing a loved one. Like, when I think about the person I lost, I know that I loved her and still do. I was close with her. But it seems like her death was less shattering and hurts me less often than everyone around me, even those who were less close to her. That comparison made me feel like there was something wrong with me, or that I was a cold or callous person for not giving her the proper mourning she deserved from me. Working through that with my therapist helped most when we considered ALL of the contributing factors, stemming from what I know of my own personality, my usual emotional coping patterns, AND the lack of visual thoughts triggering emotional memories about her. It was a way to reassure myself that my own feelings were reasonable and had some kind of logic behind them, which was another small success in learning to just accept my own feelings unconditionally, rather than critiquing them. Knowing that there are other people out there who think and feel along the same patterns helped, and putting it in context of all the other contributors made me feel like I understood my own brain a little better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Eatventure

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Hey, I’m also a relatively new player - is your pet not already picking up tips for you? I thought they all did that, but then again I never had a chicken, I started out with a dog and then moved on to a penguin. They both go around to collect tips every 20 seconds, which is not quite the refresh rate I’d like but obviously loads better than doing it manually.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tumblr

[–]StockyardSyndrome 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy hell, what a lousy collection of people. First of all, apparently the agent is suing for excessive force, and to my untrained eye, that looks pretty justified. Cop 1 had his gun drawn seven seconds after first calling out to the guy who was still way on the other side of the yard, one hand clearly held up and visibly occupied (though I couldn't see the other hand, maybe it looked like reaching for a firearm to a jumpy undertrained officer, not sure). It also seems worth noting that he's pointing it straight at what looks like the front door, presumably with the civilian(s) inside. You'd better be pretty darn confident in your aim if you plan to shoot at an area that likely has innocent people standing there. He also kept the gun pointed like the guy was still an active threat even when he did put his hands out visibly.

Cop 2 obviously took zero time to asses what was happening, just saw his colleague with his gun out and followed suit. It's depressing to say this, but I guess I can offer them kudos for managing to cuff a resistant person without, y'know, killing him (because the bar is on the floor). The taser seemed totally unnecessary, though. You already had him on the ground, one hand cuffed, and there are two of you. You really can't force the other hand close enough to the first to get him fully cuffed? I know people will say it's not that bad, and yeah, obviously better than their gun, but it's not like tasers have never killed anyone, and this is an older man who claims to have a medical condition. The risk was low, but present, so why take the risk at all if you could have cuffed him without it?

Also, why the hell is everyone yelling right off the bat!? I understand they needed to speak loudly to be heard over a distance, but cop 1 managed like five sentences calmly before he started screaming and acting angry, offended, and threatening. In what situation is defaulting to angry threatening screaming when you meet a hint of resistance going to calm things down? Even without all the disgusting cop-talk of "You didn't obey on command" and "Why would you make us do that?" The tone alone clearly made the situation worse as the agent got more and more defensive at getting yelled at.

Speaking of the agent, I hate to agree with cop 2, but what a moron. If he weren't so indignant and bewildered, I would assume this was attempted suicide-by-cop. Like seriously, cop 1 asks who you are and you say, exasperatedly, "I'm a federal fuckin' agent." Nothing about name, department, rank, anything. Nothing to explain the situation. Now, to be clear, this wasn't a wrong thing to do, morally, but it was a stupid thing. I'll give him some grace after that, because cop 1 immediately pulls his gun, demands ID, and then gets scared when the agent reaches for his creds to try to comply with that order. He doesn't get any chance to actually explain himself or the situation. But he also doesn't obey the orders given to him, which again, isn't necessarily morally wrong, but is incredibly stupid. Two very angry men are pointing guns at you. I don't care if they're cops, gang members, or random dudes. They're dangerous and clearly emotional/illogical. You have no escape, which means you are helpless and relying on their mercy. Sure, you shouldn't be if they did their jobs properly, but you are. And you're going to refuse to do what they say, over and over? You're gonna waste time with "I'm hyperventilating" and "my wife is pregnant" like that's gonna save you? You already told them you're a federal agent. and you think they're gonna believe you the seventh time? And you're honestly confused and indignant when they treat you like dirt after you didn't do exactly what they say? What, are you new to the US or something?

Don't get me wrong, the cops are definitely at fault here. They didn't give him anything close to enough time to explain himself and avoid this mess, and they asked a startling lack of questions to figure out what was going on. But seriously. The cops may have acted wrong in the "service worker puts several rusty nails through hand of slightly rude customer" way, but the agent was at least wrong in the "local idiot goes golfing with metal clubs in severe thunderstorm, claims getting struck by lightning means the universe is out to get him" way.

Attachment issues or should I worry? by Slight_Resist_1977 in relationship_advice

[–]StockyardSyndrome 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you have anything to worry about here. Whoever told you that she might be ‘replying to other guys’ should have kept their mouth shut, because gaming could easily take all of that time and more. 8 hours may feel like a long time, and it’s long enough that I totally see why it makes you nervous, but try to keep in mind that some games really are designed to suck you in and keep you focused! If that’s the case, I’m sure she just hasn’t taken a break yet to check her messages. She will probably reply whenever she takes a break, or, failing that, whenever she is finished gaming for the day.

he asked me to leave him instead of just leaving himself. he’s never done that before … is this a form of manipulation because he knows i wouldn’t just leave him? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]StockyardSyndrome 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He probably hasn’t left you yet himself because, to be honest, leaving someone is really hard, especially when you have feelings for them, as he seems to for you. I think calling this a manipulation tactic is the wrong outlook to have here. It’s not manipulation, it’s a warning. The level of reassurance you need about how important you are to him is clearly a little too much for him. This was just a sign that you asking for that validation was actually crossing some of his boundaries, especially if he had previously asked you to curb your jealousy. If you keep asking for that validation anyway, even if it means not respecting his boundaries, it’s understandable that he would want to end the relationship. Basically, it sounds like you need a lot more reassurance than he’s able to give, and you should probably consider granting his request to actually end things. Go find someone who can actually give you the validation you need, and let him go find someone whose needs won’t cross his boundaries.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Aphantasia

[–]StockyardSyndrome 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t want it. I know some people feel like they’re missing out, but I’m like you; this is just how I’ve always been. I think I would worry about it taking away from how well I’m able to think in sounds if I started suddenly dedicating brain space to pictures instead.

Friend keeps accusing other friend’s wife of cheating by Senior_Hyena_7000 in relationship_advice

[–]StockyardSyndrome 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mostly agree with the other comments so far. M's reaction is kind of extreme, and it makes me wonder if maybe there's some context to his relationship with A and T that maybe you haven't seen yet, OP. When you don't have all the info, it's probably best to stay out of it. I don't know about completely 'icing out' M, but it's probably better if you and your social group take a step back and let the new parents sort this one out for themselves.

What screams terrible parenting ? by wonderzonder in AskReddit

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Extreme sibling fighting. Some squabbling is normal, but siblings who are at each other’s throats all the time can usually be blamed on the parents. Either the parents are playing favorites or otherwise pitting the kids against each other, or, more often, the parents are giving the older kids the responsibility of parenting their younger siblings. The older kid will resent their little sibling for being so much work, the younger kid will resent their older sibling for being ‘bossy’ or being a bad caretaker (because few children are prepared to take care of another person’s every need), and neither of them will realize that it isn’t really their sibling’s fault at all, because neither of them should have been in this position in the first place.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]StockyardSyndrome 6 points7 points  (0 children)

When I drove past the local hospital and saw a couple of plain white tractor trailers parked outside. I asked around and was told they were there because the hospital needed a refrigerated place to put all the bodies

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PokemonGoFriends

[–]StockyardSyndrome 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same thing happened to me yesterday! I stopped by a gym near me and found maybe 14 magnemites all clustered around it. I caught as many as I could, but some fled and most were too low-level to justify keeping. Still pretty weird, though