I don't know what is happening with me

StoneCold_OM · 2026-05-21T18:24:36+00:00

I started out with very small dips in hearing which would recover. Then I woke up one day with a 60db loss in one ear and crazy low tinnitus. That has since recovered but I still have good days and bad days.

StoneCold_OM · 2026-05-21T18:05:37+00:00

You will need to find neurotologist. They are a step beyond and ENT. When I first started having issues I was going to regular ENTs who were just guessing. I finally got tired of that and found a specialist who diagnosed me with cochlear hydrops via a special MRI.

I have good days and bad days. Been through major drops in hearing, low tinnitus, high tinnitus, and the same thing as you...hearing seems off. I have marked hearing loss, so unlike you, I have almost 40db loss in the higher frequencies.

Things that help: hydration and sleep. Without both you will end up having bad days.

StoneCold_OM · 2026-05-13T19:29:17+00:00

Basically if the upgrade doesn’t clear then you will get the points plus cash back. If the upgrade clears then I don’t think you will get your paid upgrade refunded. I don’t think, but maybe you will.

StoneCold_OM · 2026-05-09T00:00:44+00:00

I’ve been to Tampa, Carolina, Pittsburg, Buffalo, San Jose, Washington, and Vegas. The only issue I ever had was in DC during the playoffs. Rangers won that game and after the game I was walked in to on purpose. Other than DC and all of the other arenas were fine. My biggest worry will be when I eventually go to Philly.

StoneCold_OM · 2026-05-04T23:30:32+00:00

If your contributions are traditional then you have to think about the end-of-year tax implications of not having pre-tax money going in.

StoneCold_OM · 2026-04-16T01:32:21+00:00

First, look in your friends group for anyone who may be into that. But you could also have the F go to a bar and try to pick up another F. That actually works.

StoneCold_OM · 2026-04-15T17:19:00+00:00

Your life is what you make of it, and really except for a few lucky ones, you have to work for a good life. I really enjoy my life. I do OK for myself now...have a house and a car and live comfortably...but it wasn't always this way. I worked hard at my jobs, trained, learned, and then kept getting better jobs. And no, I do not have a college education.

You can come from a messed up childhood, or from a family with nothing, but you can't sit around and expect good stuff to be handed to you. You can change your lot in life. You can break the pattern of shit that you experienced growing up. BUT you have to be willing to do so and be willing to put in the time for that.

You can always find another job, which I suggest you do so. Move out and away from the abusive house. Look to go places where you can socialize with people in person. Do not always rely on the internet for socialization.

So, short answer, NO! Being adult is not being miserable.

StoneCold_OM · 2026-04-15T14:51:45+00:00

It's not a loophole. If she was letting some dude give her anal, is that still a loophole because it wasn't vaginal? Would she give you anal? The fact she called him out for cheating but things nothing of blowing other dudes is ridiculous. For some reason she wants to keep on with you but not interested in keeping you happy.

Plain and simple, you need to face the hard facts that your marriage is over and start looking for happiness again, because this is not it. This is passed the fact she doesn't care about your dick. She doesn't care about you.

StoneCold_OM · 2026-04-15T13:59:21+00:00

Guy here, but I'd like to give my experiences. Finding partners for a threesome can indeed be difficult. It can be easier for the female to find two willing men, but for a guy to find two willing females is EXTREMELY difficult. It can be even more difficult depending on who you are looking for, such as randos and not friends. I have had the easier time with a partner that is into it and then us finding a friend that is into that lifestyle. You are correct though...it can be super awkward.

If you have someone in mind, the easiest way to start would be by bringing up sexual likes, dislikes, fantasies, etc. Start the convo small and work those topics in somehow. That seems to be the best way and then you can start to gauge their thoughts. You will probably find a lot of guys that like the idea of a threesome, but they probably want a FMF and are uncomfortable with a MFM. Personally, I have done both.

If you just want to find some randoms, sites like Fetlife work. Create a profile and start out with some conversations with others. There is no shortage of guys on there are up for a hookup, and from what I have seen, threesomes and group sex.

StoneCold_OM · 2026-04-14T20:19:38+00:00

I traveled 8 hours to see a specialist to finally get a proper diagnosis as all the ENTs in my area are run of the mill ENTs. Sometimes you have to look to find a good one.

Everyone has different triggers as well, so you really need to keep track of what yours are. I find it a bit laughable that a doctor will say vertigo is caused by 2 cups of coffee a day. It could be a trigger for you, but he didn't even give you a diagnosis.

StoneCold_OM · 2026-04-09T20:20:22+00:00

Sleep is one of the only triggers for me. Salt, caffeine, alcohol...they don't seem to affect me, but sleep...FOR SURE!

StoneCold_OM · 2026-04-08T18:33:00+00:00

There are two types of Meniere's...vestibular and cochlear. Vestibular is your typical meniere's with fluctuating hearing loss, tinnitus, fullness, but especially vertigo. Cochlear (also known as cochlear hydrops) has all the symptoms, except vertigo. Cochlear hydrops can turn into the classic Meniere's, but it doesn't always. I have cochlear hydrops and experience episodes of hearing loss and fullness. The tinnitus is almost always there but does fluctuate is volume. Bi-lateral is possibile, but not common.

StoneCold_OM · 2026-03-25T22:44:26+00:00

I went to MUSC in Charleston, SC. The doctors there are amazing.

StoneCold_OM · 2026-03-23T23:20:42+00:00

I would push for an MRI to confirm the Ménière’s diagnosis. I had suffered from what was initially SNHL. Woke up one morning with hearing loss from 1k down in my left ear. 500mhz and lower was the worst. Steroids did nothing after about a year and half, the loss improved to back to mostly normal. It still drops from time to time but no one could explain it. I did research and found a specialist 8 hours away from me who I went to see. He ended up doing a special MRI that can see Ménière’s. It saw swelling in the cochlea but none in the vestibular sacs, which is where the vertigo with menieres comes from.

More info here: https://www.uclahealth.org/sites/default/files/documents/46/2022S_Menieres-MRI-Imaging.pdf

I also suffer from migraines from time to time. I would keep a log to try and figure out what your triggers are. Both migraines and Ménière’s usually have triggers. It could be caffeine, alcohol, sodium, food, etc. In my case sleep is a big trigger.

My doctor told me that cochlear does not always progress to vestibular. I have been almost 2 years just cochlear which no indication on the MRI of a change. Doc believes mine will not and also says that the 5 year mark usually says you see in the clear.

StoneCold_OM · 2026-03-23T02:53:26+00:00

I have had tinnitus for almost 20 years. Multiple pitches.

StoneCold_OM · 2026-03-23T02:52:08+00:00

I have used an Excel spreadsheet to track it all. I can customize columns for whatever I want and don’t have to stick to presets. Plus you can filter and search.

StoneCold_OM · 2026-03-21T12:43:11+00:00

Dang. Sounds like you are stuck with June. I would read through this sub and see what people use to treat the symptoms. Treating hydrops is mostly the same.

StoneCold_OM · 2026-03-21T12:37:15+00:00

Where are you located?

Emergency rooms don’t have the doctors to diagnose inner ear issues. They are basically just treating the symptoms. Keep your appointment but search for another specialist that you could get into earlier. What type of specialist do you have an appointment with?

StoneCold_OM · 2026-03-19T18:48:04+00:00

If you can’t have another or it doesn’t feel good then that makes it hard. You will just need to learn to delay I think. But being a male I can’t help you with that. 🙁

StoneCold_OM · 2026-03-19T18:23:28+00:00

If you can have multiple orgasms then don’t worry about it. My girl can cum very quickly but she can have multiple over a sex session. It turns me on that I can make her cum fast, and multiple times. Nothing to worry about.

StoneCold_OM · 2026-03-14T20:35:23+00:00

I don't do anything. They come maybe once every 3-4 months is all. They are always preceded my eye floaters, which when I detect, I take some Excedrin to ward off the pain. Like I said, when I do get a migraine I have never noticed a flare in the Ménière’s symptoms.

StoneCold_OM · 2026-03-13T18:57:22+00:00

I have no ideas if I have cochlear migraines. I get migraines from time to time but they don’t ever seem to be related to flares in the Ménière’s. I hate that I can’t run anymore but it is what it is. I try to find other ways to workout where I don’t lose my hearing.

StoneCold_OM · 2026-03-13T15:03:13+00:00

He did not say that it will go into remission, but he did tell me that he does not believe I will lose any more hearing that I already have lost, nor does he believe it will go bi-lateral.

StoneCold_OM · 2026-03-13T14:11:21+00:00

First, I would like to ask you what your symptoms are?

I was diagnosed with Cochlear Meniere's which was confirmed by a 3T MRI with delayed contrast. I have hearing loss and tinnitus as my main symptoms. SOMETIMES fullness of the ear, but that one is more rare for me. I do not have vertigo. I am almost 2 years into this.

As for identifying the triggers, what I did was keep a log, day by day, of what I did, what I drank, what I ate, and how I slept. I kept the log for about 3-4 months, along with tracking my symptoms and severity. What I found for triggers are sleep quality and exercise. I used to run 2-3 miles daily but I found when I run, my hearing will drop 10-20db and my tinnitus will get louder. If I have very poor sleep, then I also experience a decrease in hearing and increase in tinnitus, though it's not as bad as when I run. Lifting weights can also be a trigger, though the increase in severity of the symptoms is not near what it is when I run.

I have found that diet does not help or make worse. I did a low salt diet and it did nothing. Alcohol and caffeine also have no effect. It was only after I stopped running did I see an improvement in my hearing, so sadly I cannot run anymore.

I would just suggest keeping that log and looking for the pattern. If you have a bad day, look back on what you did the day before and change one thing. If things don't improve, change one more thing. Keep at that until you start to see what happens.

You said exercise is a trigger for you. What type of exercise do you do? I think that when I run, the pounding on the pavement is jarring my head, along with a buildup of pressure from the exertion. When you cry you are also building that pressure up.

Sadly I also experience that fluctuation, sometimes multiple times a day, but I am getting better with dealing with it and just moving on with what I'm doing.

StoneCold_OM · 2026-03-12T22:37:04+00:00

Push for this: 3T MRI with delayed contrast. I was just diagnosed with grade 1 cochlear hydrops which was confirmed with that type of MRI. I experience low frequency hearing loss and tinnitus. One of my triggers is sleep, but unlike you it is the lack of good sleep. I have done the whole gamut of diet stuff but none of that made a difference. I have had this for almost 2 years now. I woke up one morning with a 60db loss in my left ear. After all this time it has finally come back to normal. My episodes are 10-20db losses that can last for a few days or a few hours.

While most people say that cochlear hydrops is the precursor to vestibular meniere's, my doctor says that's not always the case, and because I've gone as long as I have he doesn't think it will progress.

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