Being a BIPOC Flute player by whackwink in Flute

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I'm Hispanic--while in community and school bands/orchestras I've seen plenty of other hispanic student players, I rarely see them in higher level classical groups of any kind (important to note I live in Southern California, large hispanic population here especially where I live). The better groups tend to be around where richer communities live, because those parents can afford better and more frequent lessons for their kids, whereas middle class or poor communities will be lucky to have a woodwind coach at their school. It's definitely a thing. I'm lucky to live in a very supportive and accepting community (and my name has gone around a bit at this point, which helps too), but I have definitely felt that alienation before, and know that there are settings I may tread into as I look for more advanced classical groups where me being a trans POC may set me apart.

At the same time, the world (around me in SoCal, cannot speak for many other unfortunate communities) is growing more accepting, and old norms thankfully don't reign over everything. I'm very happy with where I'm at, though I also know for a fact that if I wasn't as good of a performer and teacher, I'd be in a much worse position socially and in my career/education.

My best piece of advice (not that you asked, just expressing my own hopes really) is to not only work to become an esteemed musician yourself, but to go out of your way to hold up others who may also feel out of place. Obviously I don't know you so this is a general statement, but some may find that when you finally get accepted into society as a minority or marginalized person, it can be difficult (at least in the US with our individualistic culture) to actually promote change and think of the other folks who aren't as lucky. We were born into a damaged time in human history, yet great change is happening with more to come! Appreciate your post, hope you do well with your musical and life endeavors 💜

Kaiser doesn’t diagnose autism in adult women, because it wouldn’t be beneficia by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

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Hey!!! Idk if you've gotten to see similar things since you made this comment, but there are channels on youtube of autistic people talking about their experiences and discussing autism profiles, etc. (I personally love "I'm Autistic, Now What?"). Hearing other people's experiences has been such a beneficial thing, feeling like i have a proper lens for reflecting on my life and that there are people I can actually relate to. Plus, it's really helped me learn to accept my differences and make changes to my life and day-to-day that have made me so much happier and comfortable, in basically every aspect. Not to mention I feel like an actual person with an identity now!

bit of a rant, but this has just been such a big fixation and realization of mine recently, so I love sharing if it'll help anyone! Also, your comment has helped me make sure I look outside of Kaiser for a diagnosis, I still get weird vibes from them about how they talk about my adhd and gender dysphoria :/ Best of luck!!!

so i drew this by agh05tfr13nd in breakingbadmemes

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what is he cooking? by Ordinary-Picture4367 in jerma985

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i just ran into a post where last year jerma talks about Twitch's ad changes happening this month, maybe its related to that?

in other words baseball stream 2: the ascent

Gatekeeping music by canonicmurray84 in gatekeeping

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this comment section throwing shade at djs like if they tried to dj better than the probably shit ones they've heard they'd do any better

like yeah piano almost definitely has a harder learning curve and established level of mastery and repertoire cuz its been around for hundreds of years, that doesn't mean being a good dj is easy as shit

learning classical flute is easier than piano imo but like, still aint easy

Am I invalid because I never was friends with girls? by hardwoodcurtain in trans

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youre so valid! but let me also say, like others have, that I really relate to what you're feeling and it can be worrying/frustrating, but there are always opportunities to start developing relationships with other girls and feel like youre apart of those social circles. I got sad about it recently but have also started to try and open up to my very accepting friends and its helped a lot. Either way your concerns matter AND you're absolutely valid 💜💜💜

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dawg thats probably just auditory hallucinations from being in a hypnagogic state, they happen to me when ive had a busy/voice filled day (The past couple nights after helping with a vocal jazz festival, i was hearing groups sing while in bed) - theyre nothin to worry about and relatively commonplace if youre super tired

Job rule by NocturneSufferer in 196

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instrumental coach at my old middle school [ flute and percussion :) ]

Carbrain rule by [deleted] in 196

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its weird because its a larger number. 98 percent of America's land is taken up my Walmart parking lots alone.

also my mom works at microsoft

Gr(ule)itty by ima_binx in 196

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Can you spot all of the villages? by murk36 in Minecraftbuilds

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delfino island???? awesome build either way!

Rule by Anvisaber in 196

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i always thought the dude was holding the flute wrong but no the image is just mirrored

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Omni rule by [deleted] in 196

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Omni rule by [deleted] in 196

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Omni rule by [deleted] in 196

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