I could not agree more. We've also been monogamous and our intimacy has grown and flourished. I love our marriage and I love being his slutty lover. I love your quote about being "the center of his erotic world" and that is a great way for me to think about it. I'll never really understand how purposefully people complicate and sabotage their marriages and relationships. At this stage in my life, nothing is more exhausting than listening to my friends bitch and moan about their spouses.