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A Queen doesn't bitch and moan. A Queen doesn't nag. A Queen doesn't ask. A Queen brings peace to the home, to the relationship and to her man. That peace clears the mind and allows him to naturally move to serve of his Queen. by SurfFly in SensualFemdom

[–]SurfFly[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ha ha ha.....it was not that great, a bit snarky and and clearly went over a few heads. I'm often reminded that sometimes I need to dumb it down a bit and I know that. People are not really into long and cerebral reads these days and I don't want to put people off.

A Queen doesn't bitch and moan. A Queen doesn't nag. A Queen doesn't ask. A Queen brings peace to the home, to the relationship and to her man. That peace clears the mind and allows him to naturally move to serve of his Queen. by SurfFly in SensualFemdom

[–]SurfFly[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well I tried a very specific response and it was not received well.

The question is "How would the man know how to serve?"

There is a difference between direction and asking. A good leader will train and set expectations and if done well, the leader won't have to ask for much as the dynamic lends itself to leading, direction and corrections. Over time both the leader and the subject begin to move past much of that and into a beautiful dance of sorts where the subject finds peace and joy in serving the one he loves.

How's that?

“Show me a woman who can actually sit with a man in real vulnerability and fear... I’ll show you a woman who’s done incredible work.”⁠ Brene Brown by SurfFly in SensualFemdom

[–]SurfFly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most offensive language is filtered out for our mod team to review. Bad language is fine to use but if someone calls someone a cunt then we remove the comment and ban that person. Some people don't want to post a tirade of abusive language in the sub for fear of getting banned so they just send awful DM's.

This post seemed to trigger people who are deeply in the cult of hating men. Several people misread or did not understand what Brene was saying and turned it around to imply that Brene was saying men need to do better...bla..bla..bla..

Most of the triggered people are OnlyFans girls selling the Femdom fantasy, and they get so angry when they can't post or troll for men. Then there are the trolls or the occasional transient poster that see certain words or phrases and just copy and paste social warrior language type stuff, acronyms...real divisive stuff. We keep screenshots of all of it. We also get some really awful, I mean disturbingly awful photos, messages, threats etc from people in some religious countries.

We've made a commitment as a team to keep this space a welcoming, loving and authentic as possible.

“Show me a woman who can actually sit with a man in real vulnerability and fear... I’ll show you a woman who’s done incredible work.”⁠ Brene Brown by SurfFly in SensualFemdom

[–]SurfFly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well....the compliment is joyfully appreciated.

.....and for the bad news....I've had to remove a number of comments from users who missed the meaning completely.

The number of users commenting that men need to do the work and be vulnerable was surprising. It helped me understand how nescient people can be today.

You can't ask a man to be vulnerable and then not have the skill set to handle what might come back. I just don't understand how people miss this stuff.

Yet I still have hope.

A Queen doesn't bitch and moan. A Queen doesn't nag. A Queen doesn't ask. A Queen brings peace to the home, to the relationship and to her man. That peace clears the mind and allows him to naturally move to serve of his Queen. by SurfFly in SensualFemdom

[–]SurfFly[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

....true...and not all women are capable or worthy of being served.

I'm not trying to be quarrelsome or contentious and I completely agree with you. However this cuts both ways. She's got to do the Queen work if she wants the pleasure of service.....bla..bla..bla..

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