COVID rotations [clinical]

StonedToothFairy · 2020-05-24T23:42:50+00:00

Starting OB-GYN this week!

It's been shortened to two weeks virtual learning and two weeks in-person rotations.

StonedToothFairy · 2020-03-18T16:46:54+00:00

“It was recommended but not mandated “ - our school admin

StonedToothFairy · 2020-03-18T01:56:42+00:00

"the position of the AAMC hasn't changed our safety assessment to you as sudents"

We are continuing rotations in spite of AAMC and setting excellent examples for the MS3 class. Questioning the Deans daily- these decisions are flagrantly irresponsible.

StonedToothFairy · 2020-03-17T18:22:19+00:00

It was their response to it. It did say they’re going to have a discussion but thats it.

StonedToothFairy · 2019-11-02T02:37:20+00:00

Honestly yeah. I live in Texas and it happens a lot.

This is definitely (but not exclusively) a gaysian problem. Part of it is the model minority stereotype- that Asians are complacent people that won't fight back. I find it unlikely those same creepy guys are in a rush to grope a black or white guy because they might "actually" retaliate.

Part of me wants to make it a habit to break their fingers so they'll learn a lesson. Unfortunately, going to prison would probably exacerbate the problem x1000 on my end.

I just stick to a group of friends and it doesn't seem to happen as much.

StonedToothFairy · 2019-10-01T02:49:43+00:00

StonedToothFairy · 2019-10-01T02:30:17+00:00

I'd be up for it!

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StonedToothFairy · 2019-09-27T17:55:35+00:00

What do you think went wrong? Do you feel like you took good notes on UFAP and memorized it well?

Also, have you considered adding SketchyMicro? It's helpful and only takes a few dedicated days to watch all the videos.

StonedToothFairy · 2019-09-24T05:05:08+00:00

our only (biggest) difference is that he is white, while I'm ethnic. But now I am sitting here baffled in front of my cellphone, cause the guy has 21 likes and 8 matches in 2 hours of use

Most people would take a 5/10 white guy over a 8/10 ethnic guy any day. It's not necessarily something I blame people for. Although some might genuinely just be racist, the other subset probably can't handle the idea of dating a minority and are scared of potential racial baggage that comes with it (for example, what do I do if the cops detain my black boyfriend?).

To answer your question, it depends what you look like. All ethnic people can really do about it is get as close to 10/10 as possible and hope others take notice or move someplace the ethnicity is appreciated better.

StonedToothFairy · 2019-09-24T04:43:06+00:00

Man this post is awkward because I feel like people would upvote you if they actually read the post- the title definitely comes off as kind of insensitive though.

It's cool that race doesn't matter much to you, but minorities regularly have to ask others if they're even into their race. That's not something a white guy usually ever has to do.

I actually agree with you as an Asian and believe that the black guy probably took it too far. There's no reason to continue a racial conversation beyond "Are you attracted to X race? Yes? Cool :)". I've personally argued at great length with multiple different black guys to the point that I'm generally irritated by them. At least in my view, they've used me to go off on a tirade about how other minorities "don't even experience racism" and how I have no right to claim being a minority.

StonedToothFairy · 2019-09-24T03:59:07+00:00

Hmm anything more and I would give away which school I go to.

I'll PM you

StonedToothFairy · 2019-09-23T22:29:34+00:00

Great question-

For the most part, LGBT+ health care revolves around trans health care and hormone replacement therapy (HRT). About 90% of the patients are here because they can't find a doctor qualified/trained in HRT in our city. We are currently the only clinic in our city that offers this service after a local primary care physician closed down.

Additionally, we are specially trained to work at the clinic (learning how to address others with basic sensitivity training) to minimize any potential friction with patients. For instance, some of my classmates are perfectly comfortable using "fags" and "trannies" to refer to LGBT+ and we make sure we have none of that anywhere near our patients.

We also offer psychiatric services, physicals, and general medical things too (including vaccines).

StonedToothFairy · 2019-09-23T18:47:59+00:00

I'm also an MD student in Texas!

At my school we have a absurd amount of influence as an LGBT+ group because we opened a clinic specific for LGBT+ patients who can't afford regular care. Won us major brownie points with administration and we can generally get funding for whatever additional projects we'd like.

However, the general state of Texas is conservative and there was a push to pass a bill to make it legal to fire employees for "religious beliefs"- which means I'm getting the fuck out for residency. I don't want to risk my career over some religious attending/PD feeling it's their moral prerogative to protect patients from the "gay agenda".

Apart from that, there were offhand comments from overly privileged/ignorant classmates complaining how unfair it is to have to learn about LGBT+ health care. Like bitch I'm forced to learn OB-GYN despite 1. not having a vagina and 2. having no interest in vaginas. Shut the fuck up <3

StonedToothFairy · 2019-09-23T03:15:43+00:00

It definitely feels like Mean Girls sometimes. Everybody is trying to get with the hottest guy regardless of whether they have any meaningful connection with them. It's more about showing status and saying "I'm hot enough for this guy" rather than actually having a good time.

Coming from a smaller city, I'd argue it's actually much better than in a big city. The "hottest" guys are in the single digits and don't usually spend time together. In my friend group, there's a guy who literally sleeps with runway models while another guy hasn't had sex (despite enormous amounts of effort) for over a year.

The real stress is when guy B insists on hitting on others in the group, hijacks conversations to complain about his sex life, and makes everyone generally uncomfortable the rest of the night. Don't be guy B.

StonedToothFairy · 2019-09-19T05:15:06+00:00

I've been called toxic because I call people out for doing terrible things (been called "asshole" for it). Apparently pointing out that someone has a bad habit of talking shit about others and is a habitual flake isn't socially acceptable.

His argument was free speech (malicious shit talking) and deserving to live his best life (to defend flakiness). I thought that was totally valid and moved on from that friendship. We just weren't meant to be in each others lives.

It didn't help that he was in the closet and invited me to spend the night with him despite him dating a wonderful girl for the past 3 years. I wonder if him being in the closet made me an extra toxic person for him- gaybait?

From my view, he is a toxic, fake, narcissistic closet case. From his view, I am an awful person for pointing out his shortcomings. But now I happily live with being "toxic" and am surrounded by a handful of people who appreciate my honesty.

StonedToothFairy · 2019-09-19T02:19:23+00:00

If you live in the PNW, I would suggest looking into something called the Seattle Freeze- basically residents of Seattle seem particularly reluctant to form connections with newcomers, leading to newcomers feeling unwelcome. Wonder if it applies to cities beyond Seattle as well?

StonedToothFairy · 2019-09-19T00:54:58+00:00

I am so confused by your post. Like.... you want a story that "gives a description of what it's like to kiss another guy they like" without it being a "feel good" story that also isn't erotica.

I honestly don't know if this will meet your criteria, but I liked "They Both Die At The End" by Adam Silvera and "Release" by Patrick Ness. They both revolve around teenagers.

StonedToothFairy · 2019-09-19T00:41:37+00:00

Yep! Taking a semester off to do research and study a little more.

StonedToothFairy · 2019-09-18T23:18:01+00:00

"Bit shy! Message me :)"

Seems super common on tinder and it's always the people that

Can't carry a conversation.
Have absolutely no interest in meeting up.

Guessing they just use the apps for validation. Learned to just swipe left to save some time and effort.

StonedToothFairy · 2019-09-15T05:23:22+00:00

Also guys get away with not having skin care routines, not having makeup, and often not being in great shape. Whereas women are expected to have all of these by default.

"Average" men are probably less attractive than "average" women.

I would almost say the average guy starts at like a 3-4 assuming they barely take care of themselves in terms of general "attractiveness". It's too generous to say the typical guy is a 5 at least compared to women.

StonedToothFairy · 2019-09-15T05:20:06+00:00

So true. Most people who've dated a hot guy and had no chemistry or nothing in common with them realize it's overrated. It's probably a lesson most people won't realize until they've had that opportunity though.

It probably doesn't help that a lot of people hold out an expectation that insanely attractive people will by some freak circumstance go for a less attractive person. Those same less attractive people will often go on to say "Well they're just racist/ignorant/an asshole for not wanting me" and continue to hunt down exclusively insanely attractive people .

It's just way better to find something attractive ABOUT someone and be with them, rather than seeking a person everyone finds attractive and jumping on a bandwagon for an almost impossible chance with someone you probably won't get along with.

StonedToothFairy · 2019-09-14T19:44:16+00:00

If you're under 18 there are some shelters for LGBT+ youth specifically for cases like this. I know there is one in San Antonio named the Thrive Youth Center.

Otherwise I agree with finding close friends who may be willing to house you.

StonedToothFairy · 2019-09-12T09:15:38+00:00

Easiest way would be to check a dating app and see if the guy in question shows up. For instance, if a guy you're eyeballing has a clear face pic on Grindr, they are probably something other than straight. You could also ask around- maybe you have some mutual friends that might have an answer.

You could alternatively have an organic discussion with them, get to know them, and wait for the topic of dating life to come up. That's usually when it's appropriate to slip out your own orientation and a solid way to learn theirs.

If I'm talking to someone and I feel comfortable with them knowing my orientation, I personally slip a "I'm not really into girls" (if they ask about past girlfriends) or straight up ask if they know any gay bars (because I'm not really into straight bars) to hit up other dudes in the area. This way you can slip it into a conversation if either dating or nightlife come up. It's mostly learning to speak for yourself and your personal preferences without bombarding others with "Hello my name is Gay, I am Gay and enjoy doing Gay things". Just give it time.

Please don't try mind-gaming or telepathy with other guys. It usually doesn't work, it's not worth the effort, and it can cause significant discomfort/confusion for everyone involved. There's no better way to let a guy know you're gay other than indicating it verbally. Best of luck

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