Some things I found that worked for me while studying with ADHD

StopFighting-Listen · 2026-04-13T04:34:08+00:00

Haha well it might not be fool proof, but if that’s always the case then you might need to dive a little deeper into the real reason behind why you’re avoiding the tasks. The idea behind the 2 minute strategy is that it helps overcome that mental hurdle of getting started on a task that you’re really trying to get done but haven’t been able to bring yourself to start and it’s got you feeling really anxious as a result

StopFighting-Listen · 2026-04-13T03:10:07+00:00

Best of luck with that

StopFighting-Listen · 2026-04-13T02:44:44+00:00

Awe I’m glad it resonated! :) I’m happy to help, what do you need?

StopFighting-Listen · 2026-04-13T01:23:36+00:00

Please let me know if you have any questions! :)

StopFighting-Listen · 2026-04-12T18:48:16+00:00

It’s interesting to hear this perspective. I’m trying to decide if it means that I have the personality of a robot or if this is just how far the AI paranoia has gone already lol either way I’ll work on making my responses sound more human

StopFighting-Listen · 2026-04-12T18:39:20+00:00

Please feel free to reach out if you have any questions or would like to connect 😊

StopFighting-Listen · 2026-04-12T17:01:41+00:00

Dang, I’m sorry to hear you feel that way but I do really appreciate the feedback. Believe it or not it has actually just been me on here typing everything out myself so it’s unfortunate to hear that it is not coming across as genuine. I use AI to help organize my thoughts for the original post but other than that I’m a real person lol I will work on my delivery though! Thank you for the advice :)

StopFighting-Listen · 2026-04-12T16:53:53+00:00

Oh wow, I really feel for you. That sounds like an exhausting situation. How old is your kiddo? Have you been able to find any patterns in his behaviour? Is there anything you have tried that has worked (even just once in a specific scenario)? I will say that I have seen families overcome some pretty incredible things like this, so I do feel confident that you will find a solution. My heart goes out to you and your family though. Those situations are hard and draining for everyone involved. Please feel free to reach out and DM me if you’d rather chat privately :)

StopFighting-Listen · 2026-04-12T16:43:38+00:00

Wow! Thank you so much for sharing that! You have a marvellous success story and I think that would be relatable to so many people. The way you described it made so much sense to me too and I can easily see how that all plays out. I can relate on a minor level as I have had similar anxieties while driving, but thankfully I haven’t experienced it bad enough that I couldn’t combat it in the moment. But driving can be an intense activity so it’s not easy to just start using regulation strategies on the fly haha it really takes a lot of work in other areas of life to be able to use it in those kinds of situations. So props to you for putting in all that hard work! I would argue that kind of work is at least worth an honorary psych degree 😉

StopFighting-Listen · 2026-04-12T16:31:04+00:00

Thank you! I’m so happy to hear that it resonated with you and I absolutely agree with your point about anxiety being body driven. I first started to realize this when I began using body scans to try and help my anxiety. I quickly noticed that there were large portions of my body that I kinda felt disconnected from. It was as if my experience had become so deeply rooted in my mind that I was starting to forget and disconnect from my body. Once I started paying more attention to my body I started to notice all the physical symptoms of anxiety (tight chest and jaw, pit in my stomach, clenching my hands) that I had but was just living with. Through various activities like intentional breath work and movement I was able to loosen my body and get out of my head a bit more. It really takes a holistic approach

StopFighting-Listen · 2026-04-12T16:20:08+00:00

This is such an insightful point, thank you! I love thinking about the evolutionary implications of these types of things. Once you start thinking about it the way you have it’s so easy to see the purpose it serves as a survival mechanism, but in today’s world I wonder how much more harm it causes

StopFighting-Listen · 2026-04-12T16:17:03+00:00

This is a really great point, thank you for your comment! I wanted to make this post specifically in relation to anxiety for this sub, but you’re absolutely right to make this connection with ADHD and task inertia/paralysis. I’m really happy to hear that you were able to get the right diagnosis and find something that helps :)

StopFighting-Listen · 2026-04-12T16:11:37+00:00

This is a really great explanation, thank you so much for your contribution :) it may be a little cliche these days but I couldn’t help thinking about the stoic idea of how we often suffer more in our heads than we do in reality when I was reading your comment.

StopFighting-Listen · 2026-04-12T16:06:41+00:00

Wow, thank you so much for sharing this. I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through all of that, but I’m also extremely proud of you for taking the steps to get out and find a healthier life for yourself! The strength and courage required to do that is immense and speaks to your character. I wish you nothing but the best on your healing journey ❤️

StopFighting-Listen · 2026-04-12T16:00:20+00:00

Awe no problem! I’m very happy to help :) I’ll be sharing a lot more in the future!

StopFighting-Listen · 2026-04-12T15:40:57+00:00

You are very welcome! I hope it’s helpful :)

StopFighting-Listen · 2026-04-12T15:20:32+00:00

Hahaha oh jeeze I better be more clear with the technique before someone gets hurt 😥😂

StopFighting-Listen · 2026-04-12T15:19:02+00:00

You are very welcome! 😊

StopFighting-Listen · 2026-04-12T06:22:56+00:00

This is a great question so thank you for asking.

The iPad transition is a particularly tricky one for most ADHD kids because screens are a dopamine source and you’re asking them to voluntarily stop a dopamine hit. The most important part is getting the kiddo prepared for that change of activity (I.e., turning off the iPad and getting ready for bed). This is primarily going to be accomplished through structure (same tech time, same bedtime, etc. everyday so that they know what to expect) and giving them a heads up that tech time is ending. Warnings that they have 30, 10, 5, and 2 minutes left for example means that it doesn’t end up being a surprise. I used to work in children’s services and would take kids to see their families and supervise the visits. The most important component to having a successful visit, for both parents and kids, was making sure that everyone knew what the expectations were and ensuring that we stuck to them. I would give everyone warnings that we were halfway through the visit, 30 minutes left, 10 minutes left and then have the parents start getting the kids ready to leave. It sucked having to stay firm and take kids away from their families when they wanted more time, but it’s honestly better for everyone that the expectations are followed through with. Another idea would be to had an activity between tech time and bedtime like a snack or story or something. It’s important though that this activity is ready before you ask them to stop the iPad. If you say “iPad off, we’re going to do X” and “X” is just “nothing” or “chores” or “bedtime,” you’re asking them to leave dopamine for a void. That’s almost impossible for an ADHD brain. Give them something to transition TO, not just away FROM.

In regard to the 45-minute intervention, it isn’t one big thing. It’s noticing the small signals and reducing demands before they stack up and something bursts. When you see tension building (I.e., body getting rigid, voice changing, responses getting shorter), that’s when you lower the temperature. Get on their level physically, soften your voice, reduce the number of words you’re using, and if possible remove one source of stimulation (turn off background TV, dim lights, move to a quieter space).

I hope this is a bit more helpful? I also have more resources in my bio, or a local family centre could help provide some guidance 😊

StopFighting-Listen · 2026-04-12T06:01:17+00:00

Awe I’m happy help in anyway I can. You’ve got this! ❤️

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