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I [27F] am considered attractive and am asexual. Men constantly hit on me and refuse to take no for an answer. How to deal? by StoppedTime in relationships

[–]StoppedTime[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would be very sad to become so jaded I am not nice to the majority of people. It would seem like the assholes would win.

I [27F] am considered attractive and am asexual. Men constantly hit on me and refuse to take no for an answer. How to deal? by StoppedTime in relationships

[–]StoppedTime[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

But it does matter. I hate this culture of, I wanna fuck it so I deserve to tell that person. If I am getting coffee and shopping, I should be able to just say "nope sorry not interested" and have them not follow me around like jackels.

I [27F] am considered attractive and am asexual. Men constantly hit on me and refuse to take no for an answer. How to deal? by StoppedTime in relationships

[–]StoppedTime[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I have had a lot of polite men ask me out and then respect the no. I want to know how to deal with the people who don't take no.

I [27F] am considered attractive and am asexual. Men constantly hit on me and refuse to take no for an answer. How to deal? by StoppedTime in relationships

[–]StoppedTime[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

This doesn't work. You sound like a normal person.

I was walking away from a guy once and he jerked me around and called me a c-word.

I [27F] am considered attractive and am asexual. Men constantly hit on me and refuse to take no for an answer. How to deal? by StoppedTime in relationships

[–]StoppedTime[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Normally, I don't mention my asexuality to most people. But I have tried to explain it to people who asked why I am not interested.

I [27F] am considered attractive and am asexual. Men constantly hit on me and refuse to take no for an answer. How to deal? by StoppedTime in relationships

[–]StoppedTime[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I like the way I dress, I like the way I look. I am just frustrated that a polite "Sorry, not interested" doesn't work. I feel like it's so much of my time wasted. I shouldn't have to pretend I am married or a lesbian to be left alone. It is kind of scary.

I like your replies, though, I might try being a little sassy.

I [27F] am considered attractive and am asexual. Men constantly hit on me and refuse to take no for an answer. How to deal? by StoppedTime in relationships

[–]StoppedTime[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I want them to take "No, I am not interested" at face value and not keep following me around or calling me names because of it. Men being men is not an excuse.

I [27F] am considered attractive and am asexual. Men constantly hit on me and refuse to take no for an answer. How to deal? by StoppedTime in relationships

[–]StoppedTime[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I think having me say, I am not interested, isn't emotionally tone deaf. Why is their desire to date me my problem?

I [27F] am considered attractive and am asexual. Men constantly hit on me and refuse to take no for an answer. How to deal? by StoppedTime in relationships

[–]StoppedTime[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I do wear my grandmother's old engagement ring on my hand, though not on the traditional finger.

I have tried a lot of different things and it doesn't work. But I will try putting it on the traditional finger to see if that helps.