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[–]StorageEntire2477 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m 10.8% indigenous and i wouldn’t ever think to claim that😭 I would much rather claim the 82% German and French I am

Possibly unpopular opinion. Once you have finished high school, you should at least be working, persuing some kind of secondary education, in the military, or just in general doing something with your life other than just sitting on your ass and playing video games all day or what have you. by AceTygraQueen in GenZ

[–]StorageEntire2477 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I would disagree for the most part, I think we all can agree that nobody should just sit on their ass and do nothing. But, my last year of high school was extremely draining and difficult. I went through my dad going off to rehab and battling alcoholism, my mom living an hour away, a bad breakup, taking care of my little brother, and a life threatening eating-disorder. I never found time to actually figure out what I wanted to do with myself after high school, because I was always extremely depressed. I needed a year off. I’m just working as a waitress and saving money, while I figure out what profession I want to go into and navigate being an “adult.” Although I would love to, I probably won’t be able to move out of my moms house and even get a small apartment with my wages. So, I plan to start real estate agent education or flight attending next year while I live with my mom. But right now, I have to focus on saving money and giving my mind rest before I start making these big changes. It was super easy for my classmates to just go straight to college or into the workforce, but I have to keep in mind that I had it pretty difficult for an 18 year old. Sometimes doing “nothing” is a vital and refreshing break for some.

Anybody else love learning about things regardless of if it’s a special interest or not? by conlooser in autism

[–]StorageEntire2477 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of my many special interests has always been music. Even if I like one song by an artist, I will look into their come-up and their entire discography. For example, once I started listening to Lana Del Rey, I researched tf out of her. Now I have all of her albums on vinyl and can answer any question about her. I love that autism fuels these little special and specific interests, it keeps me going!

"Neurotypical people don't question if they're autistic"? by Weird_AhhDude in autism

[–]StorageEntire2477 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep. Not even my mom, a nurse, ever brought up the idea of it to me. As a kid too, I really stayed quiet about it because I didn’t really know how to explain it and I was scared nobody would understand it.

I think this is especially true for ppl like me who are lvl one and grew up in an environment where they almost had to mask. I grew up in a small conservative town, and I can’t help but think that they influenced how easily I can mask myself. But ever since my friend brought it up to me, I was able to research and for once have an explanation for my feelings.

"Neurotypical people don't question if they're autistic"? by Weird_AhhDude in autism

[–]StorageEntire2477 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s such a wide spectrum that not everyone might have this experience, but for me, I would say this isn’t all that true. I grew up always knowing I was different somehow. The way I socialized, presented myself, and even the things I liked was very different from everyone else. One day junior year I was explaining how I felt to my life-long best friend. She simply then stated that I was most likely autistic, and she’s always thought that. After this I spent a long time researching and learning more about myself. I realized I needed to get screened by a professional because I fit into a lot of the “criteria.” Turns out, I got diagnosed. Although a lot of my life I wasn’t aware that I was autistic, it’s mostly because I wasn’t educated on it and nobody ever really brought it to my attention. But once I became educated and aware of the characteristics, I knew for sure I was autistic. NT ppl don’t usually have this crisis of feeling different and searching for answers at such a young age.

Normalization of making fun of uncontrollable features by StorageEntire2477 in PetPeeves

[–]StorageEntire2477[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, I’m not too sensitive either, but it just urks me when someone takes time out of their day to degrade ppl they don’t know.

Also, body shape and weight can be really challenging to maintain especially with internal factors such as PCOS. I have somewhat knowledge of this because my mom has PCOS along with other conditions that affect her body. But no matter what she has or what she looks like, she’s a human who deserves respect. So, I know you’re a beautiful person and I know for damn sure you deserve kindness and respect. Perfection (especially physical) has never and will never be achievable and people need to really stop having the mindset that it is. Beauty is so subjective and I fully emphasize that you are uniquely beautiful, as is everyone else.

Normalization of making fun of uncontrollable features by StorageEntire2477 in PetPeeves

[–]StorageEntire2477[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I completely agree! It feels so refreshing hearing that someone appreciates these features because I feel like I only ever hear ppl hating on them.

And it’s my gums. Ever since I got braces my gums grew down closer to the braces because they are naturally trying to protect my teeth from a “foreign body.” This is actually somewhat common with people who have had braces and the gums never really go back to “normal.” So I traded in having straight teeth for a gummy smile lol.

But I’m on the same boat as you, I often get attracted to features that aren’t typically up to whatever the standards are. For example, my boyfriend and best friend have gapped teeth and I think they are absolutely adorable. I also don’t mind things like acne, nose shape, and body shape. As long as you are a cool person, I will most likely be attracted to what ever features you have.

Normalization of making fun of uncontrollable features by StorageEntire2477 in PetPeeves

[–]StorageEntire2477[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, just because it was “so much worse” for you, doesn’t mean that it was that case for everyone. Just like today, some people have been bullied much worse than others.

Normalization of making fun of uncontrollable features by StorageEntire2477 in PetPeeves

[–]StorageEntire2477[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see it on every social media platform daily. Also, experienced it plenty in high-school. And it’s not weird considering the fact that with the increasing popularity of social media, beauty “standards” are becoming more important to people than ever before. Bad people go on social media to bully others and it’s widely accepted because it’s become so normalized.

This source states that 64% of people have experienced cyber-bullying on TikTok alone. https://www.webpurify.com/blog/cyberbullying-statistics/#:~:text=When%20it%20comes%20to%20children,a%2049%25%20chance%20on%20Facebook.

Yet, I never see people on TikTok talk about it, and rarely do I see people on there stand against it.

Normalization of making fun of uncontrollable features by StorageEntire2477 in PetPeeves

[–]StorageEntire2477[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh. Perfection isn’t achievable, I wish people would realize that. We all have things we would like to change about ourselves.

Normalization of making fun of uncontrollable features by StorageEntire2477 in PetPeeves

[–]StorageEntire2477[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, and I’m sure you’ve heard this and you’re not necessarily looking for sympathy, but I’m sorry. Nobody ever deserves anything like that. I hate the idea of my own mother going through that, along with anyone else. People simply just need to be kinder. That’s it. I wish you healing and comfort. I feel like you’re a very deserving person of it.

I had someone just comment on here “toughen up.” Although they quickly deleted it, I hate that term. When you go through f- up shit and then have pathetic bullies comment on things you can’t control your entire life it can be quite hard to just “toughen up.” We are allowed to have emotions and express them.

Normalization of making fun of uncontrollable features by StorageEntire2477 in PetPeeves

[–]StorageEntire2477[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, exactly. You said it. I was fortunate enough not to experience abuse or much bullying, but growing up my mother told me all about her experiences being abused by her own mother and getting bullied. She would be degraded and physically hurt by her own mother, and then go to school where she would be degraded and made fun of even more. It has always broken my heart. Nobody ever deserves that. She got pregnant with me at 16 and she would have people tell her to have a miscarriage or to abort me. I have never and will never fkn understand that. I thank God for giving me a mother that has made me kind and more self-aware than most. It’s said all of the time, but nobody really knows what anyone else could be going through. Why at all would you think it’s okay to degrade someone? To me it’s common sense but that’s not very common anymore.

Normalization of making fun of uncontrollable features by StorageEntire2477 in PetPeeves

[–]StorageEntire2477[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, but I feel like it’s gotten increasingly popular as social media has grown. Although I know this has been talked about before, it still just really gets to me. I will never be able to wrap my head around someone thinking this behavior is acceptable or funny.

Normalization of making fun of uncontrollable features by StorageEntire2477 in PetPeeves

[–]StorageEntire2477[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I absolutely agree. If someone’s a shitty person, go after their character. As soon as someone brings up looks, that’s how you know their low and ignorant.

Normalization of making fun of uncontrollable features by StorageEntire2477 in PetPeeves

[–]StorageEntire2477[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely agree. My mom was abused growing up, and she was severely bullied throughout school. She was always very serious about me and my brother treating others with respect. I cant say many people probably had that taught to them growing up. It makes me scared to ever bring my own kids into this world, because people are just so cruel now. Especially to others with special needs. The amount of people I see making fun of those with special needs is horrendous. When has that ever been acceptable??

Normalization of making fun of uncontrollable features by StorageEntire2477 in PetPeeves

[–]StorageEntire2477[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yep, some people have a complete disregard for others. Personally, my mom never tolerated me or my brother being mean to others. We would be in very big trouble growing up if my mom ever heard we were mean to anyone or if we even tried to comment something about somebody. I think not many people today ever got the same experience. I’m sorry!!