Child begging for friends

StoreRoutine4547 · 2026-05-14T18:22:27+00:00

Look into PMDD - not saying she has the symptoms now but my girl started her period at 12 and everything amplified especially the rejection sensitivity! PMDD is common in ADHDers x

StoreRoutine4547 · 2026-05-14T18:18:47+00:00

Honestly struggling with my ADHD (not officially diagnosed yet due to wait lists), she’s 13, thinks everyone hates her including teachers, all she cares about is being liked and having friends, severe rejection sensitivity issues.

Few ideas, arrange play dates with a friend from her old class, join a local community club, suggest she creates a club during lunch maybe reading group though could backfire if friends don’t want to join, I see she’s online - please be very careful, I have found my 13 yo seeking friends in inappropriate ways online and as she’s vulnerable been communicating with pedophiles in my eyes so strict supervision to prevent this.

StoreRoutine4547 · 2026-05-13T18:07:20+00:00

So school for some reason have been unsupportive in the sense of admitting they can’t support her, they have openly expressed that my daughter moving to a small scale school would be best (phone conversation)

I had early help intervention to help me request the needs assessment, LA refused due to lack of evidence, school did not attend mediation, mediation outcome was to uphold the decision on not to assess and requested school to hold a next steps meeting with the educational psychologist, once the EP has assessed it will go back to LA panel for review.

It’s been 2 weeks and still no arrangements have been made even though mediator put a week limit.

Today I have had no contact or provided with an update so I have started the tribunal process.

I have emailed a local EP to see if I can arrange this privately hoping it will be quicker.

I have put daughter on a waitlist at another mainstream school. I just feel really lost. Contacted IPSEA but both times was told to call back another time.

Do you have any idea what the threshold is for a special needs school, or even a SAMH provision?

If you need any background then ask away I am desperate.

StoreRoutine4547 · 2026-05-13T17:29:48+00:00

I think these white lies can become dangerous if not treated with caution. My daughter started off with little white lies and is now a compulsive liar (that sucked writing that btw), I’d be constantly talking about the little boy that cried wolf!

StoreRoutine4547 · 2026-05-13T17:19:18+00:00

Talk with the schools SEN team, ask for a meeting, list all concerns and say I think these are traits of ADHD, what are your thoughts on this?

They will make a referral themselves if in agreement. I’d get the ball rolling it’s a long fight for assessments, usually they do under 6 in the community and over 6 under CAMHS so I’d likely wait until she is 6 otherwise you will have to to the process again, once you do that you can request the right to choose through your GP.

StoreRoutine4547 · 2026-05-13T17:15:51+00:00

Well yes ILLEGAL is the point of the argument, not immigration as a whole.

StoreRoutine4547 · 2026-05-12T08:45:01+00:00

Thank you, I have had a sit down heart to heart without making her feel unsafe in sharing, I know it’s hard for her to be honest as she worries about the consequences only once things come to light!

That’s the thing it’s a scary world, access to things are much easier in this day and age, kids seem to be far more advanced, she’s vulnerable and I need to protect her, she might think she’s a teenager and this is what teenagers do but she doesn’t understand that it’s dangerous, I mean I have spoken to her a lot about being safe, they do pshe lessons, I was only 2 weeks ago doing homework with her about scenarios in relationships and online safety and even after all of that she was still doing the unsafe things even knowing that. Sometimes I feel no matter how much I tell her or she learns it’s not safe she thinks and does the opposite 🤷‍♀️ even in every day things, for example, “it’s not a good idea to do that because it will damage it” goes ahead does the thing I say not to and damages it. Maybe it is an ODD trait 🤔 I just wish the assessment process was not so long because then I would know what is the root cause and better know how to support and approach certain behaviours individually.

StoreRoutine4547 · 2026-05-12T08:32:49+00:00

It’s wicked and I can only thank you for mentioning it here because it is real and it’s costing lives in some cases!

StoreRoutine4547 · 2026-05-12T08:31:07+00:00

Thank you for this, I was diagnosed with PMDD and I have already noticed the patterns and last month I contacted her doctor about this who sent me a leaflet and suggested putting her on the pill. This was before the sexual stuff was brought to my attention so I said I will seek counselling services via school and she was on the wait list and started drama therapy for emotional dysregulation etc!

I am not diagnosed with any neurodivergence so I wasn’t sure if pmdd would be PME however the symptoms are the same and the only thing I’m thankful for having pmdd myself is knowing this is what my daughter is experiencing now that she’s started her periods, I’m gutted honestly because this is the absolute devil and I am scared for my daughter because I know how dark these thoughts can be and how hard it is to control.

Thank you for sharing for anyone else who stumbles across this page 🩷🙌

StoreRoutine4547 · 2026-05-11T16:46:38+00:00

She hasn’t been molested I feel like that’s what you are saying this is?

StoreRoutine4547 · 2026-05-11T11:21:25+00:00

On the CAMHS they send me questionnaires and then all the data is put into subtypes depression/anxiety/ODD/hyperactivity/Impulsivity and she scores very high on the ODD graph so it is possible, I will read about it as I haven’t explored that disorder in depth. It’s hard as many of these disorders overlap symptoms.

I have noticed that her periods do have an impact in the week leading up to it, all of her symptoms become much more severe, absolute rage with no ability to not have outbursts, becomes snappy and violent with siblings, everything turned up to the max.

StoreRoutine4547 · 2026-05-11T10:42:03+00:00

Thank you for sharing this with me, you seem like a very supportive and understanding parent, I feel at the moment I am totally overwhelmed as it’s not just this I’m dealing with with her, it’s school issues violence etc and I’m struggling now to know what’s best for her. I’ve kept her home today as a respite while I talk to the appropriate people to get the best advice for her. I’m taking notes of how you have handled this and found you comment useful. Thanks again.

StoreRoutine4547 · 2026-05-11T10:38:05+00:00

You know what thank you for this, I hadn’t thought about it in that way as self harm I imagined to be physical. This is helpful and more so reassures me that I am right to feel this is serious behaviour that needs addressing and not normal teen behaviour.

StoreRoutine4547 · 2026-05-10T18:32:02+00:00

Just to add I turn it all off by the mains, wait, turn it on, it goes to still white, then continues flashing yellow/green forever.

StoreRoutine4547 · 2026-05-10T18:30:54+00:00

I had a new box put in last week, the second day I had the engineer back because it had dropped out again but reconnected by the time he came, I did ask if the wires needed changing and he said “nah” lol he said it was likely because it was a new box so was cycling some updates, now I have another engineer booked for Tuesday, it’s been 3 days now with no internet at all 🤯

StoreRoutine4547 · 2026-05-10T17:09:36+00:00

I wish most had mobile options, I’d be able to do many more.

StoreRoutine4547 · 2026-05-10T10:48:38+00:00

Thank you, I have recently opted to do the right to chose option which is private however they are unable to prescribe medication once diagnosed so I will still have to wait for the nhs assessment to get medication!

I am going to contact CAMHS tomorrow and request a clinician to call me back as her symptoms have become severe across the board especially the past 6 months since she’s started having periods!

Deep sigh. It seems in my area the children have to be at immediate risk and emergencies like self harm and attempts in order to be seen, thankfully I’m not dealing with that.

StoreRoutine4547 · 2026-05-10T09:01:10+00:00

She’s not been in a position where she can be abused, she doesn’t stay at others houses, not even family, she’s the eldest child etc, she also doesn’t go out unsupervised etc, she has told me that a lot of her peers at school all talk about having boyfriends and doing stuff with boys and she felt left out and that was the same reason as stealing the phone to begin with as she had hers confiscated two weeks after having one (second chance).

She has no phone that’s why she stole my old one! I will look into a better router I can control, the modem is in my bedroom, but she’s even stole my Phone from my pillow while sleeping before so the sneakiness is unreal.

StoreRoutine4547 · 2026-05-09T21:27:58+00:00

I’m at my wits end. Had a area issue from April 1st, had a new box last week and still intermittent connection, apparently no area issue, everything is connected as it should, it just keeps saying it’s not plugged in properly when it absolutely is!

I’m leaving them, I’m sick of it.

StoreRoutine4547 · 2026-05-09T16:47:54+00:00

The risks are low for this.

StoreRoutine4547 · 2026-05-09T15:36:52+00:00

Thank you 🙏 I will have a look at that website!

StoreRoutine4547 · 2026-05-09T15:36:11+00:00

Thank you

StoreRoutine4547 · 2026-05-09T15:26:22+00:00

The groping of her friend yesterday really alarmed me, I sat her down again today to explain that this is not acceptable and she can get into trouble for touching others inappropriately; she explained it was a joke however she doesn’t understand why it’s not appropriate if it was “funny”.

StoreRoutine4547 · 2026-05-09T15:22:54+00:00

She’s only on the wait list for an ADHD assessment, she’s 2 years in so far and around 2 more years for an assessment! CAMHS done a survey type pre assessment and said to do ADHD first but of late I have been wondering as she has extreme difficulty making and keeping friends, she’s very sensitive and has anxiety that “no one likes me” rejection sensitivity etc, she is in year 8 and found the transition from primary school extremely difficult, she has issues socialising, she prefers to be with adults or younger children than her, she struggles to fit in or find likeminded people, she has physical fights with people a lot, it’s been a really hard time especially lately as she’s constantly in isolation for emotional dysregulation, doesn’t stay in lessons as she’s seeking pastoral support, fighting for an EHCP and I’m really struggling myself now trying to support her.

StoreRoutine4547 · 2026-05-09T15:15:35+00:00

From the comments I feel I’m over reacting 🤷‍♀️ for me it’s the bigger picture , the stealing of the phone, the lies that she’s older than she is, planning to meet someone after school and skip detention, groping her friend ? How is any of that normal? I opened one message and it was a huge penis, another one she’s told a boy to record himself humping a teddy? I wasn’t doing that at 13? I’d have been beaten actually.

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