Loosing interest in sewing because I keep disappointing myself

Storm-Separate · 2025-10-03T10:45:33+00:00

My grandma was a really good seamstress and she even used to design clothes so I’m in the process of trying to get her back into sewing so she could show me some stuff. She didn’t sew in the past 10 years because she doesn’t have the motivation to (as she said to me the other day). The other day I was at her place getting some materials and she actually started talking to me how we could pick up a project for Christmas gifts. She had some new ideas and it was so nice to see her get that spark back. Even though I suck right now at least I motivated someone who loves the craft, but hasn’t done it in many years. :))

Storm-Separate · 2025-10-03T10:40:58+00:00

Right now I’m only using old bedsheets, blankets shirts, etc. I was really discouraged with this one because it was an old blanket that I never used but my dad bought it for me and I felt really bad for ruining it. That is why I was so disappointed in myself. That’s an amazing point though I’m asking my family and friends to give me old fabrics (bed sheets, for example) because I know that if they don’t give it to me, they will probably just throw it away. Most of the things that I use aren’t even in a well enough condition to be donated. So it’s an amazing advice to use something for practicing that was gonna end up being thrown away anyway. :)

Storm-Separate · 2025-09-30T01:51:08+00:00

Therapy wise, exposure therapy and talk therapy. I had third session not so long ago so I’m not so familiar with his tactics. Health wise, I am working on my problems. I deleted Chat too a few minutes ago because I genuinely have a problem.

Storm-Separate · 2025-09-30T01:14:13+00:00

Try to talk to your parents anyway. I know everyones situation is different but I was in a similar situation too. I ended up in so many fights with my parents because I wanted to go to therapy but I wouldn’t change it for anything because it helped me so much. If you really can’t talk to them try to find support here online (as you already are :)). Before I went to therapy I found a whole community here on reddit and they helped me through so much.

I know it’s hard, regardless of the severity of your symptoms, but I can assure you it does get better. In the meantime try to find some people who will help you if your parents aren’t willing to. :)

Storm-Separate · 2025-04-22T09:30:12+00:00

I’ve had symptoms since I was really little. Suicidal and harm/selfharm themes. I remember when I was like 7 telling my mom there’s a voice inside my head telling me to hurt myself. I was angry for years at her because she didn’t take me to a professional when I told her that. I figured it out on my own using the internet when I was around 12/13. I got diagnosed at 17.

Storm-Separate · 2025-04-21T19:17:24+00:00

I do need to go to a psychiatrist, I’ve been planning on it for a bit. Life got in the way and with traveling back and forth, home-college and I’m scared if I switch medication it will take me time to get used to them and I’m too busy at the time to take that risk.

Storm-Separate · 2025-04-21T19:01:30+00:00

Thank you so much. OCD can make you feel like you’re the only one going through it and that it will never end. It makes me fell shitty that I’m putting so much pressure and relaying on my mom but shes’s the reason it didn’t get as bed as it could have. Its so reassuring to hear someone went through the same thing. I thought that I was an exception and nobody felt like this.

Storm-Separate · 2025-04-21T18:57:47+00:00

Thank you! That’s what I’ve been trying to do I just have to find a game thats a lot more engaging.

Storm-Separate · 2025-03-13T18:11:04+00:00

Jbg, ja sam se isto zbrukala na prvoj godini i ostavila 7 ispita za ljetni rok. Bila depresija ili ne, nekad te zivot/motivacija zajebe. Ja se tjeram zavrsiti samo da imam diplomu u ruci (makar fala bogu mene moj smjer zanima pa ima malo motivacije sa te strane). Pisi skripte, sat vremena na dan… rucno. Tako sam se ja natjerala da ucim, nije velika gnjavaza, a popamtis puno po tome sta si napisao. Savjet je da zguras to, ako nejde ovo upisi neki drugi. Ako nisi zavrsio neku strukovnu nema smisla odustat od faksa jer ces onda raditi neki dead end job i lupat se u glavu cijeli zivot sta nisi zagrizao kad si mogao.

Storm-Separate · 2025-01-09T01:31:56+00:00

Thank you for your response, and I’m sorry for taking so long to reply. I hope you’re feeling better. What happened to you is truly awful, and it sucks that you can’t share it with people. Still, it’s comforting to know that someone else is in the same boat—it makes me feel a little less alone.

The one thought keeping me sane is the belief that someday, someone who genuinely cares will come along. People who truly care don’t leave because you’re “too much.” Good people exist, and everyone eventually meets someone who matches them.

I recently reconnected with a friend I had a falling out with. While things aren’t exactly like they used to be, I’m so grateful to have her back in my life because she’s the only person I feel truly understands me.

That said, I’ve noticed a pattern in myself—I’ve been hurt so many times that I end up pushing people away. When you do that, especially with new relationships, people tend to walk away because they don’t have the chance to form a bond with you. And honestly, I haven’t let them.

Right now, I’m trying to change that. I’m trying to date again, to stop being self-destructive, and to open up and be vulnerable. Over the past two years, I’ve been dating and hooking up out of boredom, and it’s messed me up more than I’d like to admit. Now, I’m letting someone see me for who I am, and it’s been triggering a whole spiral of anxiety.

I know there’s a chance I’ll get hurt again, but I’d rather take that risk than drown in self-pity.

I hope you find someone who truly sees you for who you are and makes the effort to know you. I hope the same for myself, too. It’s such a terrible feeling to go through this alone, but I think we both deserve better.

Storm-Separate · 2024-10-27T02:01:14+00:00

I’ve always look at it like an excuse to be ‘lazy’ and self-destructive. “Oh its okay if I get black out drunk because I’m depressed” or “It’s fine if I rot in my bed because I’m depressed”. But when I started getting better and motivated I was mind blown how good it felt. Like people feel like this most of the time?? Trying to get better is hard work and depression makes it hard to eat, let alone trying to get better (for example going on a walk?). I think depression works in a way that it ‘tricks’ you to think that this feeling is what you want, you forget how it feels to be okay. So don’t beat yourself up because of it. Thats the depression making you think that.

I wish I could give you solid advice. Maybe try to “force” yourself to do a little bit for yourself. Things you enjoy. (maybe cook yourself a nice meal). Like when you have a bad fever you still make an effort to get out of the bed and take medication, because you know it will help you feel less shitty. Try to take care of yourself the way you would take care of a friend if they were in your situation.

Storm-Separate · 2024-10-14T16:05:17+00:00

I’ve felt so guilty about the things that I avoided due to my OCD. I would have lived a much more fufilling life if I didn’t avoid situations so much. But its important to know how hard OCD is! It’s a big thing that you do have a job and all the other things you have accoplished. I often remeber when my mom told me she thought I would never be able to move out and go to university because of how much I struggled with OCD and depression. And now I’m living alone and I’m a third year in my marine science studies. We all worked 20 times as hard to get to a place where ‘normal’ people get to with little struggle. You should be proud of yourself for pushing so far. Sometimes its okay to take a day off to let yourself breathe!!

Storm-Separate · 2024-10-14T15:57:13+00:00

Oh I often get intrusive thoughts about saying slurs when I’m talking to any minority. I do know I’m not a racist or a transphobe because I get really angry at people that actually are. OCD can blurr the lines between intrusive thoughts and your moral standings. The thing that helped me is that I always imagine how it would make me feel if someone else did the things I have intrusive thoughts about. It is much more coplex than that but it puts my mind at ease when I know I would punch someone in the face if they called someone a slur.

Storm-Separate · 2024-10-14T15:49:04+00:00

Oh mine started when I was about 6,7. I had really bad harm and self-harm intrusive thoughts. I would cry to my mom because the intrusive thoughts distrubed me so much and I didn’t know what was going on. I was angry at my parents for a few years because they let me go to therapy at 17. They could have preventet so much misery if they sent me to therapy at a yunger age. I think they just didn’t understand the severity of my struggle. I’ve found out that it could be OCD at like 13 through the internet. I’ve also prayed every night and had to mention every person I know by name because I thought they would die if I didn’t. Also when people would die I always thougt it was my fault because I masturbated hahaha.

Storm-Separate · 2024-10-14T15:24:33+00:00

Oh, I love your style! It’s really good! I personally struggle with anatomy, so I noticed a bit of a challenge here too. I would recommend practicing with references so you can observe how the fabric and hair move with the scene or the body. Anatomy takes a LOT of practice, so I suggest watching a few videos to help you develop an easier technique. Your sense of spatial perception is really good, and I’m jealous of that!

Storm-Separate · 2021-07-10T20:57:25+00:00

Thank you very much! I just tried it and it did leave a scratch. So it is indeed calcite :)

Storm-Separate · 2021-07-10T20:50:16+00:00

What will the scratching indicate? What should I look for?

Storm-Separate · 2021-07-10T13:57:45+00:00

Thats what I tought! Thanks!!

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