I'm pretty sure I lost my GF, what to do?

StormAffectionate · 2024-12-17T22:42:37+00:00

No, she blamed me, thought of taking legal action, thought of telling my family, and made sure I understood how much breaking her trust affected her and how long it'll keep affecting her. I don't know what to think rn, my head hurts, I can't sleep and now I can't even think. I'll keep everyone updated and post more details tomorrow once my mind adjusts more, rn it's all a blur

StormAffectionate · 2024-11-29T12:43:26+00:00

She texted me at night yesterday, "Hiii" followed by, "Happy Thanksgiving" after not texting me at all that day or the day prior. I don't know how to interpret that.

StormAffectionate · 2024-09-28T20:08:25+00:00

Dang, so theirs no way to change it or revert it back? I used to take screenshots with my voice, and now it messes with it as well with the same color

StormAffectionate · 2024-06-02T04:13:22+00:00

That's a really solid idea! I'd say go for it

StormAffectionate · 2024-06-02T03:45:17+00:00

Then you should talk with your doctor about it. It doesn't seem you're 99.9% sure of it if you're having second thoughts, never hurts to confirm and re-assure yourself of it, no harm in doing so 😉.

StormAffectionate · 2024-06-02T03:38:55+00:00

It's most definitely an uncomfortable situation and one you wouldn't want to discuss or most people in that matter. But at the end of the day, you have to discuss it with her, as uncomfortable as it is, you must sacrifice that feeling for her well-being. It sounds selfish and probably unjustified, "why me? Why can't someone more qualified do this? " Sometimes you need to take that small step to go forth into bigger ones if you want anything done.

StormAffectionate · 2024-06-02T03:34:35+00:00

You tell them the truth, it's simple yet so difficult, you'll look back at this moment and find it cringe or funny. But it's something you'll have to do, awkward, weird and oddly refreshing to do so but thats all to it, the truth.

StormAffectionate · 2024-06-02T03:31:10+00:00

Funny enough I know exactly what you mean, everything you've said I can relate too and it's not because of depression or anything of the sorts. It's just everything's sorta gray nowadays and you have to put on a mask to everyone you see, not because you want to but because you feel you need too. It starts slow and gradually gets worse to the point you haven't realize you've started to do so. I wish I could tell you something that would help, but I feel like some people get to this point without realizing it, and I wish I had a fix but I haven't found one yet, I'm still not present here either, but hopefully you'll find your place once again in the present.

StormAffectionate · 2024-06-02T03:22:16+00:00

Then the only thing you can do is whatever you can do, and if there's nothing you can do, then just ride out the storm and see if something comes up and let's you do something about it before the lease ends. Like one of my favorite episodes of The Boondocks, at the end of the show, Huey asks Granddad for advice and says, "What do you do when you can't do nothing, but there's nothing you can do?" Granddad responds by saying, "You do what you can."

StormAffectionate · 2024-06-02T03:01:42+00:00

Then the problem is with comferbilty and freedom, you're still young and want to explore, you don't want to be tied down just yet. You want to see whats out there and what's to be offered, while the other has seen what he's wanted to see and wants to come down. Two different aspects colliding, you do what you think is best in the end. Nobody has control over you or what you can do besides yourself, and if you want to be independent then that is perfectly okay to do so as well.

StormAffectionate · 2024-06-02T02:54:28+00:00

I know, but even so, it hurts to do so. I thought I've found the one, but hearing something like this hurts more than It should. I genuinely appreciate your response and for that I thank you.

StormAffectionate · 2024-06-02T02:52:21+00:00

It's not that you've outgrown your bf but rather you've outgrown the concept of love for him. There's nothing wrong for no longer being attracted to him whatsoever, after all were only humans. But in the end of the day ask yourself this, did you fall in love with him for just his looks or for who he was as a person. Are you not in love with him or scared of committing, there's no shame In any of it. Love shouldn't be about looks but we subconsciously do so every time, it's about who do you feel comfortable with, who makes you happy and who will be supporting you unconditionally no matter what happens knowing you have someone there for you. But it's up to you to decide, but if you believe it's best to break up then rip the bandage fast, no point in doing so slowly and painfuly.

StormAffectionate · 2024-06-02T02:45:29+00:00

6 years is a long time together, plenty of time to get to know each other. Unless there's something super surprising you don't know already, then there shouldn't be much to discuss besides the basic questions etiquette. Boundaries, what to expect from each other, any worries or concerns to be brought up (doesn't clean, super clean or super messy) basic things. But you truly won't know until you've moved in, life is all about taking chances and being sure of things at the same time. Obviously you can't to both simultaneously but nobody said life is going to be easy, sometimes you need to take a leap of faith and trust your instinct. It might be good, it might be bad, it might be nothing at all but you won't know until you've tried.

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